Dear Wealthy DCM Vent....

[Bkind]

I agree

i have so had this happen and yes the parent wanted them to stay clean for school. when we r going out to play in the morning prior to pm school pick-up just crazy with mulch and muddy backyard. this was the reason i now make it very clear to my parents this is really not the place for this and most times this will in fringe on the child's ability to play at the same level as if they didn't have these things on. just knowing what is normally expected from the child when they r wear these clothes. i also make it very clear i am not in anyway going to be responsible for paint, mud, or other kids who spill things on their child and i will in no way encourage or discourage the child in keeping nice and neat my job is first to keep their child safe and encourage them to learn, explore, communicate, be kind, have manners is just some things but limited to but not make sure we stay prim and proper.

[Christian Mother]

My favorite store for my child is once apon a child.... There stuff is gently used and I can go in and buy tons of name brands for cheap... love love love it!!

We have two out here and I love the bag sales!! Stuff a bag full for $5!! I love that place but I wouldn't sale my children's clothes to them bc they won't pay you much. Not even store credit. Best is ebay or craigslist.

[countrymom]

if you think childrens place is brand name, wow, wait till your kids are older. Mine wear tommy, hurley, abrocombie,dc,bench,lululemon. And all that stuff I get for really cheap. The bench stuff is hand me downs (who pays 80 dollars for a hoodie) the hurly dress, I bought for 10 dollars at costco this week, its such a perfect cotton summer dress, the other stuff I buy on sale or thrift stores. I'm finding that childrens place stuff is being made smaller and smaller and cheaper in quality, sure they have cute stuff, but when I buy a shirt I expect it not to shrink and fade on the first wash. My 7 yr old wears stuff that are size 10 and up from that store (in shirts) because they are so small. this drives me crazy, lucky she has sisters so she wears their stuff.

[sharlan]

What difference does it make where the mom buys the kid's clothes? As long as you don't pay for them, it's really not your concern.

The only issue I would have would be the shoes. Have the mom leave a pair of play shoes there.

[Soccermom]

Children's place is about the only store we have nearby where you can buy children's clothes...we are in the middle of nowhere. ! I am about 45 minutes outside of town and there are about 3 stores where you can buy kids clothes in that small town. That's why this kid kinda stands out too. She is playing among rough and tough get dirty country kids. (They moved here recently to get away from city life.)

My issue isn't the fact that dcm dresses her kids in full priced or sale clothes. I don't care how much $ she dished out for the outfits really. I am more concerned about her clothes being completely inappropriate for outdoor play. Send the kid some outdoor shoes and a real coat for playtime. The poor kid gets completely left out of play because she can't keep up and she has actually asked to borrow a pair of my DD's rubbers and a real hat before. Plus she'll come shivering at the door 15 minutes after they have all gone outside wanting to come back in. I've told mom that play clothes and outdoor clothes are essential but it doesn't seem to ring a bell...I just find it kinda funny I guess to watch her out in the woods picking up sticks in her fancy get up.

[MamaBearCW]

Play clothes

I seen a woman looking at the thrift store for play clothes. She was telling me they were for daycare. She did not want to have to worry about her "nice" clothes. I told her, that I know her daycare provider would appreciate that. She was buying nice things, just not costly things. Nothing like the parent who has to go somewhere after work bringing thier child in thier finest. Bring it in a bag. You can change her in the restroom when you pick her up. Or if no time, I will change them.

[daycare]

I have two moms who dress their child in louis vuitton and Juicy. Even other labels that cost more.

I only tell parents once and that is in the interview. Don't send your child in clothing that you expect to be kept clean. Here we play and we play with everything and anything that is safe. This includes bugs, mud and paint!

Last week, one mom sent her little girl in her Easter outfit to show it off. I think the mom had to go and buy a new one. It was farm day that day and lets just say the only ones that really enjoyed her dress that day was the goats. They actually ate off some of the tooling......

I don't care where you shop or what you can afford. Clothes are just that clothes....

[Sugar Magnolia]

I would add this: Dear wealthy patents, please do not teach your child to.ridicule other.children who do not have nice clothes. I have heard things like 1. "those are from Walmart, you're poor." 2. "my shoes are Nike and yours aren't". 3. " my dress is prettier than yours, because mine was expensive." And 4. "your clothes are ugly, why doesn't your mommy buy you new ones?" Yes, 4 and 5 year olds said those things. I am pretty confident their parents taught them expensive vs. cheap snarkiness. SAD.

[countrymom]

Children's place is about the only store we have nearby where you can buy children's clothes...we are in the middle of nowhere. ! I am about 45 minutes outside of town and there are about 3 stores where you can buy kids clothes in that small town. That's why this kid kinda stands out too. She is playing among rough and tough get dirty country kids. (They moved here recently to get away from city life.)

My issue isn't the fact that dcm dresses her kids in full priced or sale clothes. I don't care how much $ she dished out for the outfits really. I am more concerned about her clothes being completely inappropriate for outdoor play. Send the kid some outdoor shoes and a real coat for playtime. The poor kid gets completely left out of play because she can't keep up and she has actually asked to borrow a pair of my DD's rubbers and a real hat before. Plus she'll come shivering at the door 15 minutes after they have all gone outside wanting to come back in. I've told mom that play clothes and outdoor clothes are essential but it doesn't seem to ring a bell...I just find it kinda funny I guess to watch her out in the woods picking up sticks in her fancy get up.

I live in the country too. We always joke around that "you know you live in the country when everyone in your family owns rubber boots" You should send her home one day in clothes that are completely covered in mud, then see what she says.

[melskids]

if you think childrens place is brand name, wow, wait till your kids are older. Mine wear tommy, hurley, abrocombie,dc,bench,lululemon. And all that stuff I get for really cheap. The bench stuff is hand me downs (who pays 80 dollars for a hoodie) the hurly dress, I bought for 10 dollars at costco this week, its such a perfect cotton summer dress, the other stuff I buy on sale or thrift stores. I'm finding that childrens place stuff is being made smaller and smaller and cheaper in quality, sure they have cute stuff, but when I buy a shirt I expect it not to shrink and fade on the first wash. My 7 yr old wears stuff that are size 10 and up from that store (in shirts) because they are so small. this drives me crazy, lucky she has sisters so she wears their stuff.

This made me SO chuckle about my own kids. Do you know where my 16 year old son insists on buying his school clothes?

Tractor supply. ::

[MissK]

Pretty sure ths point of the post was that the child wasn't dressed appropriately for play - not necessarily where she bought the clothing. Though she mentioned that it wasn't really the heart of the post. I agree that children should not come to daycare in clothes that need to be kept spotless or hinder their ability to move and play with the other kiddos. I'd personally keep a pair of tennis shoes at the house for her - don't feel bad little one...I can't run in heels either

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

My whole family wears nice, expensive clothing that I paid a fraction for. Secondhand and big sales are fantastic.

Proper footwear is a big deal. It's hard to learn and explore in uncomfortable shoes. Maybe you can send a memo home on the importance of proper footwear.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

(As for older children preferring pricier clothing ... simply not true over here.
My nearly 16-year-old could not care less what brand his clothing is. It's Mama Bear that cares since he is so rough on his clothing and I want it to LAST. Thankfully, I am able to find the "expensive brands" for a couple of dollars.)

[My3cents]

Maybe she shops at consignment and TJ Maxx? I put my dd's in beautiful expensive (looking) clothing, but I buy it at mom's sales for a few bucks, or TJ Maxx and Marshalls. It looks like I spend a ton but I actually spend less than Target prices. Maybe that mom does the same??

I love to dress up my daughter. I shop Children's Place because it is cheap and not bad quality, and fun bright colors. I fully expect her to get dirty, play and have fun in her clothes. Clothes wash. Kiddo's wash too. I don't do heals- that is a joke, and yes should be saved for Sunday Best or whatever. My kid is stylin while having fun. I have outlets too and I never pay full price unless I totally love love love something. You can't beat Children's Place socks. The ones with the rubber on the bottom to avoid slidy rides across the floor. I also do consignment, garage sales, tj maxx and shop sales. The mark up on clothing is so high it makes sense to shop sales- I would rather have a parent frill out the child then not care and send them dirty. I do get what your saying--- heals.......

[My3cents]

Children's place is about the only store we have nearby where you can buy children's clothes...we are in the middle of nowhere. ! I am about 45 minutes outside of town and there are about 3 stores where you can buy kids clothes in that small town. That's why this kid kinda stands out too. She is playing among rough and tough get dirty country kids. (They moved here recently to get away from city life.)

My issue isn't the fact that dcm dresses her kids in full priced or sale clothes. I don't care how much $ she dished out for the outfits really. I am more concerned about her clothes being completely inappropriate for outdoor play. Send the kid some outdoor shoes and a real coat for playtime. The poor kid gets completely left out of play because she can't keep up and she has actually asked to borrow a pair of my DD's rubbers and a real hat before. Plus she'll come shivering at the door 15 minutes after they have all gone outside wanting to come back in. I've told mom that play clothes and outdoor clothes are essential but it doesn't seem to ring a bell...I just find it kinda funny I guess to watch her out in the woods picking up sticks in her fancy get up.

hit a yard sale and pick up what she needs for pocket change and keep it at care. I have had to do this. I don't like it, but when your knocking your head against the pavement......its the best answer I have come up with for solving this problem.