First Day Jitters??

[Soupyszoo]

I have a new family starting today. Or at least I thought they were starting today

It's their first baby, first time leaving her. They said between 7am and 8am drop off, but they're still not here.

I know it's so hard, and I don't want to bother them if they are having an emotional morning... But I also don't want them to think I don't care they aren't here...

Should I call?? Or just wait and see??

[Country Kids]

Please call them and make sure they are doing ok. There was just that huge article on parents leaving babies in the car due to not being used to dropping off or just plain forgetting.

Call just for reassurance!

[Meyou]

I call once they're 15 minutes late. I'm always afraid something happened.

[Soupyszoo]

Please call them and make sure they are doing ok. There was just that huge article on parents leaving babies in the car due to not being used to dropping off or just plain forgetting.

Call just for reassurance!

I know! I read that too! I'm calling now

[Soupyszoo]

Everything was fine! Just a very emotional mommy and daddy I felt so bad for them! Dcg is here and sleeping. I know there's not much I can say to make them feel better, but I tried to reassure

[Mary Poppins]

Everything was fine! Just a very emotional mommy and daddy I felt so bad for them! Dcg is here and sleeping. I know there's not much I can say to make them feel better, but I tried to reassure

Awwww! I remember leaving my own little ones at dc for the first time, it was horrible!!!! I hated it and cried so hard I couldn't work and left early to pick them up. Then, I quit my field and took jobs at daycare centers for a while just so I could be with the and hated that, too.

So I ended up just being a SAHM for the last 20 years. Darn kids killed my career ambitions! ::

[nannyde]

Everything was fine! Just a very emotional mommy and daddy I felt so bad for them! Dcg is here and sleeping. I know there's not much I can say to make them feel better, but I tried to reassure

I always talk to the moms during the interview and tell them that I've seen many crying mommies on day one of drop off and to expect it and don't worry about it. It's going to happen.

Once they drop off... I text them before they even get down to my stop sign and tell them they did GREAT and not to worry. I'll blow your phone up all day long if you want to give you updates or you can call me.

They usually are so swamped at work that they only call once on a break.

Most new mommies have a surge of freedom that comes with that first day. It's a mixed emotion and it is a de-escalation from the constant minute to minute care of a newborn or infant. Once they get a little taste of that again most like the feeling. They then feel conflicted because they miss their baby AND they like the freedom of turfing out some of the care.

It's a mixed bag for the first week or so. You just have to ride the coaster. Just remember that in a few months the same Mom who had such a hard time on day one may well likely be the Mom who wants longer hours, drops off early, starts coming late, takes "me" days and brings their kid to care from the moment you open till the moment you close for a full week while they are on vacation... etc.

The upsettedness on day one is not an indicator of how hard it will to be separated from the child in a few months time. It's a short term... really short term part of the relationship.

It's HARD to leave your baby with a stranger. Just keep in mind that it takes time before the stranger part of your relationship goes away.

[Unregistered]

I always tell my new mom and dads that it's going to be hard the first few times and if they cry, please try to wait until they are out of sight...because I'll be blubbering right along with them..LOL! I get emotional at watching them have a hard time letting go...I don't have my own children but when my stepson's twin boys had to start going to daycare, I MADE them bring them to me although they live 25 minutes away and had to backtrack to work...

I was the one who couldn't deal with not having them...LOL! He and his wife are, and always have been VERY happy that I look after them because I know they would also have had a hard time leaving them with anyone else...and they have always been SO attached to me ...it nearly killed me when they started junior kindergarten...I had to take the first day off...LOL!

They are 14 now but still "my" babies...

I have ALWAYS found that the people who tell me that their kids will only be here when ABSOLUTELY necessary and only for as short a day as they can possibly make it, are the ones who end up full-time, every day, 10 hours a day...

[Sprouts]

For the first few weeks I send text pics thought out the day especially of the baby smiling, this def works to help reassure parents. Also I use baby connect which also helps, if u have a minute here and there to update it, it is def worth it! It's great for parents with smart phones, they love it

[Soupyszoo]

For the first few weeks I send text pics thought out the day especially of the baby smiling, this def works to help reassure parents. Also I use baby connect which also helps, if u have a minute here and there to update it, it is def worth it! It's great for parents with smart phones, they love it

I use baby connect too! Dcd dropped off this morning and even he cried when leaving and that's never happened to me before! I felt soooo bad I almost cried too! He had said not to send pics because that might make it harder for her to concentrate... She just texted and said she couldn't wait any longer to ask how she was! I told them both to call or text anytime! I asked her if she wants pics and she said YES! I love sending pics to dcps. I just think if it was me I would like that! Shoot it used to be me! I can totally sympathies

[spud912]

Oh I remember when I dropped off my older dd with her grandma so I could begrudgingly return to work. Believe it or not, I cried as much at the beginning of dropping her off as I did at the end (16 months later). Granted, I was pregnant with my second for 9 of those months so I may have been a little emotional anyway. I remember wishing my dd would get mildly ill/my mom would get mildly ill/or my dd would be difficult for my mom so I could stay home with her. Needless to say, I was definitely not a good working (out of the house) mom!

I have a lot of empathy for parents who are sad to drop off their child! Like Nan said, I wish it would last longer. Sometimes I wish parents were more like me and want to spend every moment with their child, but then I probably wouldn't have a job