Huh Yeah & What??!!

[Recie]

Well, honestly, I don't like to called yes ma'am which I can't stand it when my husband called me because he knew I don't like it. He just picked on me. ::


I do teach my children and daycare kids please, thank you, excuse me, etc..

I also don't like to called Miss or Mrs. with my first name which I think it is silly. I do like to call my normal name. Most of the daycare kids called my husband Mr. **** but it doesn't bother him at all. I guess everyone is different.

oh no i guess its another one of the regional things . but no i wont be having a child calling me by my first name itll me ms...and keep it pushing itll be kind of weird to see what we'll have the kids call my hubby because MR marquis sounds silly to me

[Christian Mother]

All mine or just under 3 yrs of age and are demanding but they know that I am "Old School" I won't except a demand from them in fact I won't even hear it. If they keep up with it then I calmly ask them to be patient and they do understand at that age what patience means.."hold on a moment please"...
And they normally address me as Miss Misty or Mom or Misty. And when they are finished with their meals I wait for them to ask to be excused. We are huge on manners: Please and Thank You's as well may I be excused please? One of my parents said she gives in her son demanding to get down for the table and I told her that here I will not answer to a demand bc at times I could be busy with another child and they will be asked to either be patience as I am helping so and so or they are asked to ask me properly. And bc I am repetitive they understand exactly what I am asking of them. They follow through and they understand why I don't like them to ask me in such a demanding way. I think it really helps though that when you take these kids in that the parents are right there with you on believing it's import to be taught to respect others and to respect them selves as well and that is what I teach them. They get rewarded for showing each other respect and them self. There isn't a day that goes by that a child doesn't thank another for giving up a toy or allowing another to have a try. Those things warm my heart immensely! It makes me feel really good. happyface

[Recie]

All mine or just under 3 yrs of age and are demanding but they know that I am "Old School" I won't except a demand from them in fact I won't even hear it. If they keep up with it then I calmly ask them to be patient and they do understand at that age what patience means.."hold on a moment please"...
And they normally address me as Miss Misty or Mom or Misty. And when they are finished with their meals I wait for them to ask to be excused. We are huge on manners: Please and Thank You's as well may I be excused please? One of my parents said she gives in her son demanding to get down for the table and I told her that here I will not answer to a demand bc at times I could be busy with another child and they will be asked to either be patience as I am helping so and so or they are asked to ask me properly. And bc I am repetitive they understand exactly what I am asking of them. They follow through and they understand why I don't like them to ask me in such a demanding way. I think it really helps though that when you take these kids in that the parents are right there with you on believing it's import to be taught to respect others and to respect them selves as well and that is what I teach them. They get rewarded for showing each other respect and them self. There isn't a day that goes by that a child doesn't thank another for giving up a toy or allowing another to have a try. Those things warm my heart immensely! It makes me feel really good. happyface

i do believe ill be having that stated somewhere in my 200 page handbook ::::

[Blackcat31]

When I was growing up in the 70's/80's, we were taught and most of my friends to call grownups by Mr./Mrs./Miss then their last name.

One of my friends son who just graduated calls me Mrs. ******* everytime he talks to me- but his sisters both call me by my first name-. I think its actually kind of funny, same family different responses.

I still to this day call my friend's (from childhood) mother Mrs Jordan.

I am a full grown adult with adult children but she will always be my friends mom and I was taught to call them Mr or Mrs so she will be Mrs Jordan until the day I die.

old habits are hard to break I guess.

[wdmmom]

IMHO, what I do at daycare (or lack thereof) shouldn't reflect who I am as a person or how I treat my own children.

The children I watch know Please and Thank you but that is about the extent of it. They are taught "May I Please..." while here. Please and thank you go far with me. But I don't do sir or ma'am and I doubt the parents do any of the above.

I, on the other hand require my kids to be excused from the dinner table, ask "May I...", Please and Thank You, and Yes Ma'am/Sir to seniors. They are also taught to hold open doors behind them or let people go in front of them. (My son specifically.)

What girl doesn't like the door being opened for her? I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that my son will make one woman a very happy lady someday. He is so sweet.

[Christian Mother]

i do believe ill be having that stated somewhere in my 200 page handbook ::::

For me..I am really up front with the parents. I can only except 4 children in my home so I have to be picky. The first thing I tell them is that I am stricked. I wait for the response and if they cringe or say they don't believe in discipline of any kind then out the door they go bc I believe that discipline done right will get results in a well behavied child. It is extremely hard work to raise respectable children. So not only am I a open book but I tell it like it is. If I don't like something I am up front with the parents and ask them for their feedback and participation. They are the parents and I am their provider that offers to care for their children when they are making a living to provide for their own families. Our job is a really hard one ladies and gentleman. So I have to be very specific at the first stage of the interviewing process.

[Michael]

come again!

This is something im wondering as providers how do you let your kiddies respond to you and other adults? I dont let it fly with my own children and I surely not going to let that go in my daycare. I know as a society yes ma'am and no ma'am yes sir no sir is a lost "language". And answering with huh yea and what is kosher.

I understand that most people werent raised to say it but im 28 and i still yes and no ma'am/sir. Am I alone on that type of teaching or do you think I shouldnt have the kids address people like that?

My own children don't curse are polite and courteous. Oh, did I mention they are homeschooled? Amazing what you can achieve with a captive audience.

[MamaBearCW]

Manners

My children are homeschooled as well. And when your children are around 24/7 you have to teach them manners. I demand children that are in my care have manners as well. But my children are far from perfect. We were visiting the Columbus Zoo and my daughter was walking through the gift shop when she practically ran over Jack Hanna. I watched in Horror from across the room. I went up to her (even though she was eighteen at the time) and told her that she needed to pay closer attention to people. She just kinda shrugged it off and said "Well, he acted like he owned the place!" I mean really how dare he step out in front of her like that. Ugh! I was almost to embaraced to ask for his autograph! Almost....I could not let the chance to meet someone I have admired since I was very young. I then gave her the longest version of who he was, what he has done for the Columbus Zoo and for animals in general. I just wished his team could have save more of those animals that nut case let loose in Ohio.

[Half-Pint Hide-Out]

All of my daycare kids ask to be excused from the table, then take their plates to the sink, put away their chairs and then wash their hands (I help if they need it). They're all very polite for me during the day and I am always praising them for using good manners. I had a little DCG come up to me while I was talking to her mom and she said "Excuse me, but can I talk to you when you are finished with my mommy?" She's 3 and her mom's jaw dropped! I was so proud at that moment!! I think that my biggest goal at daycare is to send them off to school with great manners!! happyface

[MarinaVanessa]

Although I don't require my own DD or my DC kids to address me as maam or Miss, I personally don't like it (I'm much to young to be addressed as Maam ), I do address them with either Mister/Master or Maam/Miss.
"Good morning Miss Suzie" "Mister Bobby, can you ____?" etc.
It seems to rub off because they all address other adults as maam and Mr etc. And they also don't answer with "What", "Huh" or "Yeah" but probably because I don't do it either. Here it's "Yes".

Funny though that I never thought about it until now, I don't like to be called maam but I call the DC girls maam all of the time .
DCG asks for me
ME: "Yes miss Suzie?"
DCG: "Can I ____ ?"
ME: "Yes maam"

I completely agree that kids will learn how to treat you by how you treat them. "You teach people how to treat you"

[Recie]

I completely agree that kids will learn how to treat you by how you treat them. "You teach people how to treat you"

i like that!

[MrsB]

Definately think it is a regional thing.

I was raised in the NW and we always taught to use "may I", "please", and "thankyou" but didnt here sir/mam that much.

My hubby is military so we have traveled pretty much everywhere and different areas where yes sir and yes mam are more promeninent. Here most everyone is referred to as Mrs/Mr and first name. The military it is Mrs/Mr and last name. Alot of people get confused and call me Mrs. Jackson because they here people call him Mr. Jackson assuming it is his last name. But Jackson is his first name.

[Recie]

::i can see where that can get very confusing