Huh Yeah & What??!!

[Recie]

come again!

This is something im wondering as providers how do you let your kiddies respond to you and other adults? I dont let it fly with my own children and I surely not going to let that go in my daycare. I know as a society yes ma'am and no ma'am yes sir no sir is a lost "language". And answering with huh yea and what is kosher.

I understand that most people werent raised to say it but im 28 and i still yes and no ma'am/sir. Am I alone on that type of teaching or do you think I shouldnt have the kids address people like that?

[Ariana]

IMO children respond to people the way they are spoken to. That is why there is so much disrespect. People fail to respect their kids. When was the last time you heard an adult say please or thank you to their child? Next time you're out and about, note the tone and disrespect shown to children. It's rampant.

[Recie]

i agreee i just cringe when i see kids talking to parents like they've lost the use of their brains. and vice versa i think people forget these are CHILDREN!

[SunshineMama]

come again!

This is something im wondering as providers how do you let your kiddies respond to you and other adults? I dont let it fly with my own children and I surely not going to let that go in my daycare. I know as a society yes ma'am and no ma'am yes sir no sir is a lost "language". And answering with huh yea and what is kosher.

I understand that most people werent raised to say it but im 28 and i still yes and no ma'am/sir. Am I alone on that type of teaching or do you think I shouldnt have the kids address people like that?

I am 29. I do not do "Huh, Yeah, or What." I only use ma'am and sir when speaking to seniors, but not 100% of the time. My children do yes ma'am and yes sir to seniors all the time.

I also make them say "excuse me" if I am talking to another adult, and they have to say "please may I be excused" before leaving the table.

They cant chew with their mouth open either.

Manners are important. It is sad that they are becoming a lost art.

[Recie]

I am 29. I do not do "Huh, Yeah, or What." I only use ma'am and sir when speaking to seniors, but not 100% of the time. My children do yes ma'am and yes sir to seniors all the time.

I also make them say "excuse me" if I am talking to another adult, and they have to say "please may I be excused" before leaving the table.

They cant chew with their mouth open either.

Manners are important. It is sad that they are becoming a lost art.

now i have to admit i dont have my kiddos ask to be excused from the table because we dont all sit at the table ill eat at a different time. i just say make sure you clean up your mess. me thinks i need to get into the practice so i dont create monsters at the daycare

[SunshineMama]

now i have to admit i dont have my kiddos ask to be excused from the table because we dont all sit at the table ill eat at a different time. i just say make sure you clean up your mess. me thinks i need to get into the practice so i dont create monsters at the daycare

I used to let them do that, but now I have too many not in high chairs. They will run around with sticky fingers, etc. So they have to ask to be excused, then take their plates to the sink and put them there, then I wash their hands.

For some reason they laugh and smile when asking to be excused. They like it. Don't ask me why but I'm going with it !

[Recie]

For some reason they laugh and smile when asking to be excused. They like it. Don't ask me why but I'm going with it !

thats good though i keep it right on going

[Lucy]

In some ways, it's a regional thing. The South is huge on the yes ma'am/sir stuff. Here in the North, not so much. However, I AM big on please and thank you. I just find that it is common courtesy. As someone mentioned, I think they will pick up on what you say to them. I say, "time to clean up please", or when they're done, "thank you, nice job". Not because they are doing me a favor, but because they did it without complaint. The second they complain, I get more strongly worded, and there are no pleases and thank yous! Anyway, I just feel it is nice to introduce them to common courtesies in life. I would like to know that they grow up to become polite teens and adults who say please, thank you, excuse me, etc., because of my early influences.

Actually, your original question was whether we allow them to say huh, yeah, and what. If they say it in a disrespectful tone, I will call them on it. If they legitimately didn't hear me and say what or huh, I don't mind. If they answer in the affirmative and say yeah instead of yes, I let it slide.... sometimes I will repeat "yes" and they will repeat it back to me. Again, it's regional / cultural / whatever you want to call it. I DO demand respect though. Bottom line.

[cheerfuldom]

we do "yes mam, no sir" but I am in the midwest and it is not uncommon for that to be taught. I also teach "yes please" and other polite phrases.

[Recie]

we do "yes mam, no sir" but I am in the midwest and it is not uncommon for that to be taught. I also teach "yes please" and other polite phrases.

yes i believe its a regional thing im from the midwest::

[spud912]

So they have to ask to be excused, then take their plates to the sink and put them there, then I wash their hands.

This is what my kids have to do when they leave the table.


My biggest pet peeve? "I want ...... " or demands "wash my hands!". Grrrrrr......how do parents allow that at home? That is so disrespectful!

At my house, you have to ask to be excused from the table, you ask for things in full sentences ("may I please have ...... " or "please ....... " for the really little ones), respond "yes please" or "no thank you," say "sorry" when they have done something wrong, and say "excuse me" when trying to get around one another. They also have to use their manners with each other (bossiness is another pet peeve).

I would like to teach sir and ma'am too, but every time I say it to someone, they get angry "don't call me sir/ma'am, that makes me seem too old." I may teach it anyway though

[GrannyJ]

My main goals of my day care is to teach manners and respect. All the parents know I am adamant about this. Yet at pick up and drop off I hear all sorts of things that are not manners or respect from both parents and the children. I do a lot of correcting then.

[Recie]

This is what my kids have to do when they leave the table.


My biggest pet peeve? "I want ...... " or demands "wash my hands!". Grrrrrr......how do parents allow that at home? That is so disrespectful!

At my house, you have to ask to be excused from the table, you ask for things in full sentences ("may I please have ...... " or "please ....... " for the really little ones), respond "yes please" or "no thank you," say "sorry" when they have done something wrong, and say "excuse me" when trying to get around one another. They also have to use their manners with each other (bossiness is another pet peeve).

I would like to teach sir and ma'am too, but every time I say it to someone, they get angry "don't call me sir/ma'am, that makes me seem too old." I may teach it anyway though

oh ive gotten that too, the "it makes me feel old" i just say im sorry but thats just the way i was raised

[safechner]

Well, honestly, I don't like to called yes ma'am which I can't stand it when my husband called me because he knew I don't like it. He just picked on me. ::


I do teach my children and daycare kids please, thank you, excuse me, etc..

I also don't like to called Miss or Mrs. with my first name which I think it is silly. I do like to call my normal name. Most of the daycare kids called my husband Mr. **** but it doesn't bother him at all. I guess everyone is different.

[Country Kids]

When I was growing up in the 70's/80's, we were taught and most of my friends to call grownups by Mr./Mrs./Miss then their last name.

One of my friends son who just graduated calls me Mrs. ******* everytime he talks to me- but his sisters both call me by my first name-. I think its actually kind of funny, same family different responses.