The Kid Who Thinks ALL Discipline Is Funny!

[lilcupcakes09]

I am having such a hard time with my 5 year old dcb! He is very rambuncous (sp), has a terrible mouth, and thinks everything is funny when I correct him. Warnings do nothing-he laughs, in time out- he starts singing very loudly, or kicking his feet, or hitting the chair, anything to make noise. Taking playtime away means nothing to him. I have to remind him EVERYDAY of the rules here, I know he is old enough to know better, I'm at my wits end with him! Siblings are better, they will listen when corrected. But I know at home, he just gets threats of what will happen, nothing is ever followed through, Mom says "I don't know what to do with him!"

Suggestions please!

[familyschoolcare]

So when you put him in a time out and "he starts singing very loudly, or kicking his feet, or hitting the chair, anything to make noise." What do you do?

[Heidi]

At his age, he might understand that "time out doesn't start until you are quiet". Start the timer once he is quieted down. ????? If he were in school, which I assume is next year, they'd have him sitting on a bench somewhere dull (like the office) waiting for the principle, for however long it took the principle to "have time" to talk to him.

Maybe have some things he really likes doing ready for those times when he is in time-out. So sorry you missed it, buddy.....

[lilcupcakes09]

He is in pre-k half a day, his behavior color changes often and notes and emails are sent from his teacher for being disruptive, but like I said before- he is threatened with what may happen, but rarely given the action even if he acts up, it is very frustrating for me to have no back up with the parents-it's all talk and no action.

At my house, in time out- the timer starts over if he acts up while sitting in the chair, but it really doesn't phase him unfortunately. For the bad mouth at home, he sometimes gets soap, which helps none whatsoever-it's funny!

[familyschoolcare]

Thinking it is funny and/or laugphing is the childs was of dealing with what is a uncomfortable situation. Many people deal with unconfortable situtation by

laugphing. Just keep doing what you are doing. Sorry I can not be a lot of help.

[Heidi]

Thinking it is funny and/or laugphing is the childs was of dealing with what is a uncomfortable situation. Many people deal with unconfortable situtation by

laugphing. Just keep doing what you are doing. Sorry I can not be a lot of help.

I agree! It makes me think of the song line "I'm the type of guy who laughs at a funeral". Not because it's funny...because it's uncomfortable. Every time he does it, tell yourself it's proof that it's working!

The one thing I have trouble with is ignoring. If he's acting out in time-out, let him. Once he's quiet for a moment (even to take a breath), say "ok, now we can start your time out". Otherwise DO NOT TALK TO HIM. He is not there.....

Is there a place you could move him to time-out that is a little more remote, but still within supervision? Like around a corner in the hall? Also, I would never threaten him again. At 5, the rules are no suprise. If he breaks one, take his hand, put him in timeout. Say only "that is not safe, and not allowed here", or something else brief, and sit his butt down. "Your time-out will start when you are sitting quietly". That's all. no more talk after that until the timer goes off.

[My3cents]

I have a 20 month old that laughs at everything. He will look at me and dare himself to do things he knows I don't let him do. Simple things, like climbing for instance or touching something he should not. Very few things that are off limits to my kiddo's but he finds every darn one of them. Banging toys against a wall or window, running. Then its a monkey see, monkey do trickle down effect. He thinks it is funny. I don't want to react, but at the same time I don't want him to think it is ok. I am lost with this one and then it makes me feel as if my whole crew is going down. (I have good kids, don't take this wrong) I know it is an age phase and will be happy to get out of it soon. Doesn't help that it is a high pitched screech of delight. I am dealing with this at an under two so I am looking for some helps and inspiration here too. It's exhausting and this is why I love coming here to escape for a short while. Bring on the ideas to help make my days run smoother- would love the feedback.

[MizzCheryl]

Simple direct commands (for lack of a better word) work for me.
LIke Nannyde says.
"leave it" it they are banging windows.
"Go play toys" with a nudge in the direction of the toys.
I have stopped nagging or reasoning with the smaller kids.
I just tell them what I want them to do instead of what not to do.
It still amazes me how much a toddler can understand. They know exactly what you are saying.

Be very direct and tell them in 2 or 3 words what to do.

When you see that gleeem in his eye that says I am about to show out.
Sternly say "NO" or "Stop"
GO play toys.
redirect his body to a toy area.

Maybe this will help.
It has really helped me.

That high pitched squeel of delight pushes all of my buttons at the same time.
I feel you sister!

[Heidi]

I have a 20 month old that laughs at everything. He will look at me and dare himself to do things he knows I don't let him do. Simple things, like climbing for instance or touching something he should not. Very few things that are off limits to my kiddo's but he finds every darn one of them. Banging toys against a wall or window, running. Then its a monkey see, monkey do trickle down effect. He thinks it is funny. I don't want to react, but at the same time I don't want him to think it is ok. I am lost with this one and then it makes me feel as if my whole crew is going down. (I have good kids, don't take this wrong) I know it is an age phase and will be happy to get out of it soon. Doesn't help that it is a high pitched screech of delight. I am dealing with this at an under two so I am looking for some helps and inspiration here too. It's exhausting and this is why I love coming here to escape for a short while. Bring on the ideas to help make my days run smoother- would love the feedback.

Hahaha! Laughing at myself, because I have 20 mo TWINS who do this, and then the 24 mo (who used to be SO sweet), decided that's cool. arggggg!

[Heidi]

Simple direct commands (for lack of a better word) work for me.
LIke Nannyde says.
"leave it" it they are banging windows.
"Go play toys" with a nudge in the direction of the toys.
I have stopped nagging or reasoning with the smaller kids.
I just tell them what I want them to do instead of what not to do.
It still amazes me how much a toddler can understand. They know exactly what you are saying.

Be very direct and tell them in 2 or 3 words what to do.

When you see that gleeem in his eye that says I am about to show out.
Sternly say "NO" or "Stop"
GO play toys.
redirect his body to a toy area.

Maybe this will help.
It has really helped me.

That high pitched squeel of delight pushes all of my buttons at the same time.
I feel you sister!

Just a question on that, which is what I try to stick to, also (usually successfully). What do you do when they buckle or throw themselves down? Mine do that, then wail ridiculously EVERY time they are redirected. To them "go play with toys" means "go walk on hot coals"...apparently.

[MizzCheryl]

Thats hard but I try to make sure they see others having a good time.
I had an older 2 yr old throw her easter baket today cause she was mad. I took it and gave all the eggs to the others as she sit and threw a fit. I totally ignored her for 5 minutes then she came over to me and said "I am done throwing a fit now. Can I play easter eggs?" LOL I had to laugh.

But I do not give them any attention if possible. I won't ignore anything other than crying though. If they do somthing they are not supposed to I correct that.

If they throw themself on the ground I just leave them there and pay attetion to someone else.

Hope that maybe helps.
All the stuff I have been reading here has really helped me with my group.
But some days are still bad.