Should I Say Something?

[DaycareMom]

I have written a few times about certain DCD. I started watching DCG in September. They came to me since they were friends of my mom.

Well, DCD seems to think he is "special" and doesn't like to talk to me about issues he has with me.

Last week, the problem of him not paying me in cash came up. I tried to hand him back his check and tell him to bring cash - He says "it is what it is" and walks out. When DCM came to pick up I said, "We need to talk about our payment agreement. You guys agreed to pay me in cash on Thursday mornings. DCD gave me a check. I do not accept any form of payment other than cash. So, when you drop off next week, you need to bring cash on Thursday"

She said no problem, claimed to not know anything about it and we went on to chat about what we were doing for the weekend, etc.

Well, DCD does business with my mom and calls her yesterday and tells my mom I was snippy with his wife and how I won't work with them. She just said it was my business and I handle it the way I see fit.

I guess I am wondering if I should say something to either of them. I don't think I was snippy at all and I don't want them or myself to feel awkward.

What would you do?

[Meeko]

Yes...talk to them.

His calling your Mom was childish and manipulative. Good for her for telling him it is your business. And did he honestly think that your mother was going to be more loyal to him than you and not tell you he called and whined??!!!

Honestly...if it were me, I would have called them and termed on the spot for being so rude as to try and involve my family. But I know that's easier said than done if you need the payment each week.

He sounds very full of himself.

Let them know that you were not being snippy. You were being business-like. You had an agreement and they broke it.

Payment is in cash from now on. No excuses.

And quote his own words back to him......."It is what it is".

[daycare]

I have written a few times about certain DCD. I started watching DCG in September. They came to me since they were friends of my mom.

Well, DCD seems to think he is "special" and doesn't like to talk to me about issues he has with me.

Last week, the problem of him not paying me in cash came up. I tried to hand him back his check and tell him to bring cash - He says "it is what it is" and walks out. When DCM came to pick up I said, "We need to talk about our payment agreement. You guys agreed to pay me in cash on Thursday mornings. DCD gave me a check. I do not accept any form of payment other than cash. So, when you drop off next week, you need to bring cash on Thursday"

She said no problem, claimed to not know anything about it and we went on to chat about what we were doing for the weekend, etc.

Well, DCD does business with my mom and calls her yesterday and tells my mom I was snippy with his wife and how I won't work with them. She just said it was my business and I handle it the way I see fit.

I guess I am wondering if I should say something to either of them. I don't think I was snippy at all and I don't want them or myself to feel awkward.

What would you do?

I would tell my mom that the next time they say something to you, tell them sorry, I can't help you. If you have a problem talk to my daughter about it. It's her company not mine.

Tell your mom to NOT entertain the drama or they will keep going to your mom about it and they should be coming to you.

I would also tell them if ever they need to talk to you that you are always open to communication.

[Sprouts]

No cash= no child care, keep the check And have them bring it first day Friday morning with a late fee, then give them their check back. What a jerk so rude, I would have been pissed!

[AnneCordelia]

He told your mommy on you????? LMAO!!!

Honestly sometimes I wonder about people. I would definitely say something. I would be polite and business-like but I would have to say something.

[rhondawarren]

He told your mommy on you????? LMAO!!!

Honestly sometimes I wonder about people. I would definitely say something. I would be polite and business-like but I would have to say something.

=) He totally told mommy on her! How lame! Does he not realize you are a grown woman, its your home and your business? Wow some people are very strange!

[DaisyMamma]

No cash= no child care, keep the check And have them bring it first day Friday morning with a late fee, then give them their check back. What a jerk so rude, I would have been pissed!

Yes, this is the way to go. They had a "warning" this time, and next time do not allow it. You could even offer a friendly reminder on Wednesday morning.

I have trouble with referrals, as they sometimes do think they are entitled to discounts and special treatment, but not always.

[AnneCordelia]

I was laughing about this yesterday but now the jokes on me. I had an issue with a Dcd who works with my DH but I thought Dcd and I worked it out. I guess not cause yesterday he told my DH on me!

[Blackcat31]

I was laughing about this yesterday but now the jokes on me. I had an issue with a Dcd who works with my DH but I thought Dcd and I worked it out. I guess not cause yesterday he told my DH on me!

Oooo, now you are going to be in trouble when DH gets home!! LOL!! ::


Some people... if I were you (and OP) I would call out the tattler. I would say, "Gee John, I thought we discussed the issue and solved it together. I didn't realize it was still bothering you so much so that you felt the need to rat me out to my DH (mother). I would appreciate it if in the future you would come directly to me if you have an issue and I will be respectful enough to do the same to you."

In one way, it is kind of funny but in another way, it would really make me kind of mad.