How Long to Cry

[daycare]

I had to add to my PHB 3 years ago that if your child is crying uncontrollable for any reason and is not able to normally participate longer than 45 minutes, you will be called and asked to come pick them up.

I had a DCG that would scream cry every day when it was time to eat lunch if I was not serving what she wanted. So I said, you don't have to eat it, but you do have to sit at the table until everyone else is done. NOPE she screamed. It started rolling over into nap time, and no one could nap. So I called mom and off she went.

I have had to use this 4 times since then... I agree with cat... Big difference when a child cries for their needs vs wants...

Guess what....I don't need or want to hear you scream cry for 45 minutes.....

[nannyde]

Newborns excluded:

I'm more interested in why they are crying.

Once my kids hit about 15-18 months we rarely hear them cry. Once they hit two it's almost non-existant unless there is illness. So if they cry out after the age two it almost always means there is something actually wrong.

My staff assistant who left in January was here for three years. One little girl was here from age two to five. One little boy was here from one to four. In the whole time she was here she didn't hear either of them ever cry. One of the little boys was a baby but after age one she heard him cry a couple of times.

I think our system of care nets kids that don't use crying as a way of expressing themselves unless there has been something really serious happening or they are sick. When any of the older kids (over twoish) cry it's like a piercing to my brain because it startles me and sets off my fear reaction. If they are emotionally upset it's very heartbreaking to me. What it comes down to is that the crying/adult reaction is PURE here. The kids cry when there is something wrong and the adults react knowing there is something wrong.

[Breezy]

Newborns excluded:

I'm more interested in why they are crying.

Once my kids hit about 15-18 months we rarely hear them cry. Once they hit two it's almost non-existant unless there is illness. So if they cry out after the age two it almost always means there is something actually wrong.

My staff assistant who left in January was here for three years. One little girl was here from age two to five. One little boy was here from one to four. In the whole time she was here she didn't hear either of them ever cry. One of the little boys was a baby but after age one she heard him cry a couple of times.

I think our system of care nets kids that don't use crying as a way of expressing themselves unless there has been something really serious happening or they are sick. When any of the older kids (over twoish) cry it's like a piercing to my brain because it startles me and sets off my fear reaction. If they are emotionally upset it's very heartbreaking to me. What it comes down to is that the crying/adult reaction is PURE here. The kids cry when there is something wrong and the adults react knowing there is something wrong.

Oh Nan, I want to come work in your DC!

[nannyde]

Oh Nan, I want to come work in your DC!

Yes it's a good place for kids and adults. It's very peaceful at my house MOST of the time.