Normal or Sexual?

[dEHmom]

by licking the dolls mouth, it's sort of like a kiss, but then she started flicking her tongue. So yes, the thought has crossed my mind.


She has come a few times with rashes. But the way mom hangs on to the baby, there isn't much opportunity for anything to happen. Occassionally she has been left with her grandparents, but she did live with them for almost a year (parents lived with their parents). They are now in their own home.

[daycare]

that was when i had 1 to 2 kids, and they were good.
i literally cannot take my eyes off these 3 babies for a second.

it's nice to be back (except i've said that a few too many times lately)

Hey you!!! Where have you been hiding..
Ya know, I think about you often...Yup, we have become a monthly Slurpee family...All thanks to you....hahhaha

Hope that you are doing well...Looks like you have been busy. thats always good

[dEHmom]

Hey you!!! Where have you been hiding..
Ya know, I think about you often...Yup, we have become a monthly Slurpee family...All thanks to you....hahhaha

Hope that you are doing well...Looks like you have been busy. thats always good

HEYA!

Yep, we've pretty much cut out the slurpees for the most part. Till one day I went and they brought bubblegum back!!!!! so i've had a few of those. Until I spent the day on thursday in the hospital (last thursday), because of kidney stones.

How have you been? I have thought of you as well. I've fallen in love with all of you ladies, but you and I seemed to click right off the bat. Too peas in a pod.

[cheerfuldom]

I think nan gave the best advice. You cant no for sure the reason behind the behavior but I think we can all agree that it is not appropriate. Keep her away from the changing table, no dolls at all for now, no touching other kids at all. To me, all this behavior sounds really abnormal. Is it possible that mom is allowing her to watch in appropriate things on television? Kids are all about mimic at that age and perhaps she is being exposed to things that are not appropriate for her age.

On a side note, I know a lot of extended breast feeding moms and generally, if the kid has a boobie fixation, it is just their own moms breasts.....not everyone else's, not other private parts, not kissing/undressing/looking/touching that is described in this little one.

[dEHmom]

i really don't think the mom has anything to do with it. But who knows, maybe this kid sees mom and dad sometimes at night. It's really a tough call.

i have been taking away the dolls EVERYTIME anyone starts undressing them. The next day same thing. And the changing diapers, she is not allowed anywhere near us when it's diaper time. Normally the kids are around, but don't pay any attention. She has to be RIGHT THERE, and so i keep it a lot more private than I used to.

Thanks for your advice ladies!

[MommieNana4]

I agree with everything that Nan said. In addition, DOCUMENT!!! This does not sound "normal".

[Country Kids]

My yds was always curious about one of my dcm's backs! Every time she would kinds bend over her shirt would come up and she had her back tattoed. Her shirt didn't come up that far but enough he could see it. He thought that was the weirdest thing and would always rub her back and then come over to mine and look up my back for the picture but there wasn't one. He always had the most confused look on his face.

[Ariana]

As someone who has worked with hundreds of kids I would also echo the sentiment that this is not really normal behavior. I think if it was JUST pressing the nipples, or JUST interested in diaper changed or JUST stripping the dolls then yeah sounds normal, but all of it together send red flags to me. I would monitor the situation closely and document the behavior for future reporting if need be.

I also co-slept and breastfed by DD until 20 months and never had these issues at all.

[MizzCheryl]

I had a little girl that was always trying to lift everyone's shirt to see their back/behind area. Ya know why? Cause mom had a tatoo there and guess what she showed it to little girl and had her kiss it. Did it right here in front of me. Not kidding. She was about a year old or so when it started. She also would try to pat my chest area. Guess what, did that with mom too. I thought it was bizzzzarre behavior to let your child kiss your butt!
CRAZY

[Hunni Bee]

I dont know. I have had dozens of kids over the past five years and the only few ones who exhibited that level of curiosity about private parts, etc...were ones who had a problem going on at home. Even in the toddler room, where there is quite a bit of, ahem, nudity during diaper changes...there's no fixation.

Now on the other hand, my two year old nephew is very interested in breasts and what's under our clothes, and really always has been. It alarms us, and we always discourage him from pulling up our shirts, etc. And Im very sure that no one is bothering him or he's seeing any sexual stuff, and he's about as normal as any other two year old.

So, I dont think I'd label this as sexual yet...but I'd definitely require her to stop the touching and weird doll play, just as Nan described.

[dEHmom]

Thanks for the advice. I have decided that if anything happens I will document everything. I'm not going to bother going backwards right now, because I can't recall dates and times to go with some of the behavior. As I said before, it was subtle things she would do randomly, so I didn't start putting them together as something wrong until recently.

Other than mom totally baby the crap out of this girl (she is only child, so I understand), she is pretty happy otherwise.

Just friday at pickup, we were outside playing, she was happy and playing, mom walks up with her backpack and dcg starts crying and pointing. of course mom starts the "what's wrong? oh what do you want? oh your blanket?" then says "no you don't need your blanket right now" 2 mins of crying, dcg walks away (btw, i've broken her of this blanket completely here but it's a fit everyday when mom comes). Then mom opens the bag and calls dcg over for the blanket. Like seriously!
Mom says to me, "i don't know why she cries for me all the time, and she's so good for you" I just looked at her. I was flabbergasted. Either she is completely clueless, or enjoys it.

[Childminder]

Every once in a while I get the odd child that does something that creeps me out or makes me nervous. A child at that age is not a sexual being yet and it might be just a curiosity. Some children are curious about fire or water or bugs, etc… maybe hers is just what you consider sexual in nature. I do know that the more you draw attention to it the more obsessed she will be. Document everything and talk with the parent about your concerns.