Do You Sometimes Wish you Could Just be a SAHM?

[Ariana]

I think the hardest thing for me is when the dcks are mean to my own kids. It breaks my heart. Especially since my kids are so willing to share their home, things and mom with them.

I guess I see this as "socialization" for my DD under my watchful eye! Everything gets handled and dealt with in a way that I like because I'm the one dealing with it. I also am able to work on getting my DD to be assertive which is wonderful. My child now has the ability to stand up for herself when others are bothering her and I know she wouldn't have gotten this if I was simply a SAHM.

You're children are learning a very valuable life skill IMO

[Soccermom]

I guess I see this as "socialization" for my DD under my watchful eye! Everything gets handled and dealt with in a way that I like because I'm the one dealing with it. I also am able to work on getting my DD to be assertive which is wonderful. My child now has the ability to stand up for herself when others are bothering her and I know she wouldn't have gotten this if I was simply a SAHM.

You're children are learning a very valuable life skill IMO

You are very right Ariana. It is a good way to look at things.

[mema]

YES!!! If I could convince the hubby to sell and downsize the house (even tho I absolutely LOVE it and it's what we waited 12 years for) and change one of the vehicles out for an older one I would. Of course, he would also have to give up going out to lunch a couple times a week and beer I would love to be able to go on all fieldtrips and help daily in the classrooms. I know he won't sacrifice right now tho unless one of us looses our job, so I can dream.

[Crazy8]

I don't think I'd want to be a SAHM but I do wish for some of the freedom you mention!!!! Ideally, I'd love to run a part time program but I really can't afford to. I even thought of getting a part time job outside the home once mine are in school full days but I make more with 2 full timers than I ever could with a p/t job.

[dave4him]

Hmmmmm My wife would probably say yes, though after a saturday with just her and the kids it usually changes to no.

[E Daycare]

Not really! I do childcare part-time so it's perfect for me. I also only work 7 hours per day so again it's perfect. I keep my groups small and only take in 2-3 kids with my DD. When I did my year mat leave I was quite bored by the end. There are only so many 'mommy and me' groups I could handle!!

I like that my DD gets social time regularly and I get to spend time with her on my days off. I realize not everyone can afford to do this part-time but I made sure when I started out that we could survive on just DH's income.

This is me. I only take part time kiddos, 3 days a week max and I have 4 dck and my ds. So at any given point I have maybe 2 or 3 kids during the day or some days just ds. I also mainly take teachers kids. They have off during the summer but I offer up any time they need for the week as a break and to socialize my son. Right now one of the dck is full time for the next few weeks as his gma (who watches him on the alternate days I don't) had surgery and needs recovery time. He comes in at 9 and will leave about 4. He's an easy one and I can plan trips with him and ds no problem.

I only advertise part time but say I have 2kids whom are mon, wed and fri I'd take 2 or 3 that would be tues and thrus. So I might have 5 days of care but 2 kids and I don't really mind. I haven't found anyone needing just those two days so they are usually open. I do make about $350 a week for about 3days of care for 4 kids (one is a sibling group with discount care) so I'm happy with that. BUT if dh didn't have his 6 figure job I couldn't do this just part time.

I'd love to just stay at home sure but I find when I do im sometimes less motivated. These kids keep me on my toes.

[countrymom]

I would love to "not watching kids" I already stay home. But there are days that I would like to drive the kids to school but then they would want me to drive them all the time. or clean my house without disruption, but I think I would be bored after a while because all 4 of my kids are in school and dh is at work so I would have no one to talk too.

[Country Kids]

I would love to be SAHM! I know it would fullfill a dream I have always dreamed since I was a little girl. I was always the little girl that wanted to be wife and mommy.

I would love to be able to clean my house everyday for my family (not childcare) and be able to have more than 1/2 an hour to do it.

There are so, so many things I would be able to do that I can't with this job. I would join Bible study groups, host get togethers for my kids, go to lunch with my hubby, volunter at my childrens schools. I would check on the elderly from my church, send out more cards, make more phone calls. I would actually exercise with walking, bike rides. For my hubbies work, I would bring in goodies for everyone. There would be tons of room in my house and garage because I wouldn't have all the daycare things. I might actually have time to try that new fad of couponing-::

I would feel blessed to be a SAHM and make sure I enjoyed every minute of it. I would set goals everyday though so that it would not become a bore or I would not be motivated to get out of the house. I would love it so much that I wouldn't take it for granted.

[AmyLeigh]

Since I have chosen to homeschool, then yes, I would love not having to watch over 4 more kiddos to focus on more varied educational activities. If my children were in school, I would probably work part time and/or do a lot more volunteer work. The gym would probably see me more often, too.

[DanceMom]

I wish it all the time - and thankfully in a couple years that is all I will be.

[momma2girls]

I do as well!! I love my job, but I am constantly being lied to by one family- this is something that will end next yr. for sure!!!! I can't stand it when parents bring their children to daycare when they are sick, getting my children sick, myself, other daycare children etc... I hate not having my own private house back, toys getting broken, paint constantly getting chipped, not being able to volunteer at my daughter's schools, not being able to eat with them, not being able to pick them up from school when sick, and the list goes on and on and on.............but for now, I need to, but hopefully when my daughter is in Kindergarten, I will be able to totally quit! That is my goal anyways!!