DCD Mad About Son Playing With Girl Toys

[sharlan]

I would let the father know that it's healthy for kids to have access to all types of toys. My boys play with the little ponies, baby dolls, along with the trucks and trains.

I had a boy who was obsessed with my daughter's pink rain boots. He loved those boots to pieces, literally wore them out. His father had a fit everytime he saw them. He would tell the little one not to wear them every morning at drop-off. I even have pics of him wearing them at a school picnic for my daughter's class. I had forgot to check his feet before we left home.

The boy is now a football coach at a university.

[Bookworm]

I would just flat out tell the dad that this is perfectly normal behavior for boys, that ALL boys do it and that it doesn't mean his son will turn out to be gay...just like girls playing with trucks doesn't mean they will be gay (which let's face it is this dad's fear). We all know his attitude is ridiculous and 'backward' so it's best to meet him at his level. In reality this dad was likely treated like this as a child and studies have actually shown that males who are very homophobic actually have homophobic tendancies. He likely hates this about himself and is trying to make his son the opposite of how he was. Seeing his son play with this stuff likely reminds him of himself. It's so sad

The biggest repurcusion of this is bullying at school unfortunately. Bullies (especially those that prey on gay or feminine males) seem to always come from homes where the dad bullied their sons about this type of stuff.

I totally agree. Of all of the type of people their child could turn out to be, why would being gay be the worst thing of all. Very sad.

[Meyou]

"We don't believe in gender stereotyping here." usually ends the conversation for me.

[sassysue]

I had a family one time pull their one year old boy because he didn't have any boys to "play" with since I only had one other part time boy.
He played with the baby stuff,pushed his doll in the stroller,played with the little kitchen.
Yeah,cause the social status of your boy is so important
They found a new daycare and have been begging me for over a year now to bring him back . The new "boy" daycare has alot of biting,hitting, rough housing. Not so much fun now is it? I tried to talk to them and let them know what's important for a one year old,and it's not a best friend.
Some people are worried about the wierdest things. I would continue to let your daycare boy play with whatever he wanted and tell the dad to calm down.He's a kid!!! Geeesh!!