Probation or no Probation?

[MrsB]

So as some of you may remember I had the flu Sunday and Monday of this week. I was feeling better by Monday so I didnt close, but notified my parents and left it up to them. 3 kids came to care anyway, the rest stayed home.

So yesterday, Thursday, DCB arrives at 630, breakfast at 8:00 doesnt eat to much breakfast. A little abnormal for him, but I figured his dad might have gave him something in the car on the way. This happens every so often.
Outdoor time- acted fine but did get tired a little sooner than normal, but still chipper! Lunch, hardly touched a thing. Was thinking this is weird but still acting fine. Nap time went straight to bed. About 1.5 hours into nap, upchuck all over everything. Poor baby is crying and wakes everyone up.

Okay clean up DCB. Get everyone out of the playroom and into the livingroom. Call mom- no answer, call dad - ok leaving work now (45 minutes away) Start working on cleaning mess.

Mom calls
Mom- Dad is on his way. So did he have any other symptoms? How sick was he
Me - Well I dont know how to answer that, sick enough to throw up. He didnt eat hardly anything at breakfast and nothing at lunch.
Mom - thta is definately abnormal.
Me - He seemed find, his energy level wasnt quit what it normal was but I wasnt really alarmed by it. Once he threw up and put it all together it makes sense though, he caught what I caught.
Mom- oh because we spent $200 on tickets to go to the circus tonight. Do you think he is good enough to go
Me - Your call. If you wanna run the risk of him upchucking all his popcorn and cotton candy on the person sitting in front of him.
Mom - Well, maybe we will see. Well he threw up at 330 this morning, but I figured he just ate too much cake after dinner last night.
Me - What he threw up and you didnt tell me?
Mom- Well I just figured he ate too much cake.
Me - Did you forget there is a stomach bug going around that I had 3 days ago and you brought him anyway
Mom - Oh yeah.
Me - Okay well I gotta go try to get this pink throw up stain out of my carpet. See you on the 26th.
Mom - 26th?
Me - Uhh yeah I'm on vacation next week
Mom - what about tomorrow
Me - What about it?
Mom - Well I'll text you tonight to let you know if he's feeling better for tomorrow
Me - uhh no 24 hours. I'll forward my sick policy to you again! Would you like it laminated with a magnet for your refridgerator? Chuckle, Chuckle. DCB touched alot of toys yesterday, I have a lot to sanitize and big pink stain to work on. See you on the 26th!
Mom - uhhh alright

So my question is? Would you put them on probation? For not telling me about him throwing up in the middle of the night? I give it to her that his birthday was that night and he probably ate a ton of cake. But to not call and discuss it with me, really ticks me off. I may have said okay go ahead and bring him and I could have been looking for more signs. (like him not eating breakfast or lunch)

I've never had a problem with them as far as the sick policy before. Or do you think she got my point? I dont want to be too picky about this situation its just I have short-timers syndrome because its almost vacation time and the littlest things are really tickin me off!

ONE MORE DAY and then VACATION

[Blackcat31]

I would personally say to mom,

"Jill, I am kind of upset that you KNEW DCB threw up the night before and you didn't say anything to me. I know you had thought you knew the reason why he threw up but since my policy says vomiting FOR ANY REASON, I really do mean FOR ANY REASON. I'm going to let this slide this time, but I want you to know that next time something like this happens, I will be terming immediately. I MUST always do what is in the best interest of the group of children I have and not just one or two so it is absolutel vital that you are always open and honest with me about things like this in the future."

I think if she is normally a pretty good mom and you have no other continuing issues with this family, I would handle it like that simply because sometimes parents just need a sterm reprimanding and they shape up real quick about these kinds of things.

You are making him stay home today right?

[MrsB]

Oh yes! He is staying home!

I think that is exactly what I will do blackcat. I was going to call today to see how he was doing anyway.

I have had my issues with this family, but it is never disrespectful or blantant disregard for the rules. Usually a warning or explanation and its not an issue again. This is their first son, they are both in their late 40s, and they will fully admit, they have no idea what they are doing. Communication with this family has always been really great when stuff comes up so I was REALLY taken aback by it.

Anyway, thanks for the voice of reason as always!

[Blackcat31]

This is their first son, they are both in their late 40s, and they will fully admit, they have no idea what they are doing.

LOL!! I have a family who are also in their mid to late 40ies and they have one son who is 21 months old. I love the parents and the kid but I swear they are the "dingiest" parents I have ever had. I have more "issues" with their micro-managing, helicopter parenting style than all my other families put together. !::

I don't mean that rudely, as I really do love this family and they do try really hard to work with me but sometimes, I gotta wonder if this kid is gonna be ok in life. I find that sometimes older parents are the worst!

[MrsB]

LOL!! I have a family who are also in their mid to late 40ies and they have one son who is 21 months old. I love the parents and the kid but I swear they are the "dingiest" parents I have ever had. I have more "issues" with their micro-managing, helicopter parenting style than all my other families put together. !::

I don't mean that rudely, as I really do love this family and they do try really hard to work with me but sometimes, I gotta wonder if this kid is gonna be ok in life. I find that sometimes older parents are the worst!

"Dingiest" is the perfect word. I know you didnt mean it rudely. I know exactly what you are talking about. This family is the same way. Its nice because she is almost always open to suggestions, but sometimes "dingieness" can be as annoying as ignorance.