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OK, I thought my kids were stubborn, but I have a dcb who has me flamboozled!
His age is 3 and honestly, I was questioning whether he was just slightly delayed in understanding and speech, but recent events have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt (at least with me) that he is just stubborn! More stubborn than I have come across at this early of an age.
I will give him a small task to complete - for example, two children help put on and two children clear the lunch dishes. His job is to clear, because he is the youngest and I prefer to not have a full plate of spilled food. So he and the next youngest clear and the two oldest put on. Today he refused to do his part. I said he must sit at the table until he had done his share of the work. I would not let anyone tell him to "do it" or help him. After about 5 minutes I went over and said "What is it that I am waiting for you to do" His response was "clearing X's dishes". OK, I said, since you know what you have to do - we are ready to go outside. You have to the count of 10 to do this or you do not go outside. No response. Count to 10, still no response. I again went over and asked what he needed to do (twice he had attempted to come wash his hands and I sent him back to the table). He said "clear X's dishes" I said, then clear them now. He would not, so I said then you must remain inside and I cleared the dishes and laid him down for his nap with a hug and saying that he needed to do his share and also how important it is to learn to obey. There will always be things that make him sad until he learns to obey.
Honestly, he gave me a smile that I can only call smug. I think he felt he had won!
Any suggestions or ideas here? This goes beyond my immediate experience. :P
OK, I thought my kids were stubborn, but I have a dcb who has me flamboozled!
His age is 3 and honestly, I was questioning whether he was just slightly delayed in understanding and speech, but recent events have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt (at least with me) that he is just stubborn! More stubborn than I have come across at this early of an age.
I will give him a small task to complete - for example, two children help put on and two children clear the lunch dishes. His job is to clear, because he is the youngest and I prefer to not have a full plate of spilled food. So he and the next youngest clear and the two oldest put on. Today he refused to do his part. I said he must sit at the table until he had done his share of the work. I would not let anyone tell him to "do it" or help him. After about 5 minutes I went over and said "What is it that I am waiting for you to do" His response was "clearing X's dishes". OK, I said, since you know what you have to do - we are ready to go outside. You have to the count of 10 to do this or you do not go outside. No response. Count to 10, still no response. I again went over and asked what he needed to do (twice he had attempted to come wash his hands and I sent him back to the table). He said "clear X's dishes" I said, then clear them now. He would not, so I said then you must remain inside and I cleared the dishes and laid him down for his nap with a hug and saying that he needed to do his share and also how important it is to learn to obey. There will always be things that make him sad until he learns to obey.
Honestly, he gave me a smile that I can only call smug. I think he felt he had won!
Any suggestions or ideas here? This goes beyond my immediate experience. :P
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