Should I (Would You) Be Irritated?

[Breezy]

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I think it helps alot that you are telling him how you feel. I think your DH probably behaves according to how HE thinks you feel and now that you are verbally telling him, he will get better at thinking from your perspective.

Very true. He has said before that he is not a mind reader and he doesn't know what I want without me telling him. I have just been passive about it lately and not telling him anything because it ends up in a big fight...

I don't know whats different this time though. Usually he would say something like "I do not make you feel that way" or something like that... I was totally surprised and speechless almost when he apologized..

[Breezy]

You just scored another piece to the puzzle!

happyface Thats exactly what I was thinking about while writing the post. Its funny that you use that analogy as well because my dad used to say that all the time to me. Its a puzzle, the answers won't just come to you. You need to work at it and think it through....

[Breezy]

DCM just called and said they are pulling her and that they can't see paying for a spot when she isn't going to be here. She said she understands where I need to know my income week to week but it just won't work for her.... So, I guess thats that. I hate that me standing up for myself and redoing my contract to reflect full time hours made me lose her but in the long run, I guess I can't please everyone. I already interviewed someone for a FT spot over the weekend that needs care in April so if she goes with me then I won't lose too much income after being paid the two weeks notice. They haven't officially given notice yet though but said they would let me know tonight or tomorrow morning.....

I am nervous for pick up time because the dad is super intimidating and I know he will say something to me....

[Breezy]

I don't know why I feel like I did something wrong now.....

[Blackcat31]

I don't know why I feel like I did something wrong now.....

Don't allow yourself to go there....

YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!

It ****s that she decided to pull but at the same time, you really don't want to deal with a family that only pays when they come since that will never net you a profit so view this whole hting in a positive manner instead.....she did you a favor by pulling and now she will be someone else's problem.

Glad you have a family to fill her space, even though it isn't immediate.

Either way....YOU DID AWESOME!!!!! happyfacehappyface

[Greenplasticwateringcans]

Aww (hug) you didn't do anything wrong by standing up for yourself.

[Lilbutterflie]

happyfacehappyfaceCongrats to you for standing up for yourself!! happyfacehappyface

AND you stood up to your DH and he apologized!!

AND you now have the opportunity to get a family who understands that in daycare they pay for the spot, not the days/hours; and maybe you will get a family that understands that spending time with your children is PRICELESS and won't send them to you when they are off work!

You did a great job, and you did NOTHING wrong. Give yourself a big pat on the back!!

[Breezy]

Thank you, all.

He came and got her an hour and a half early and didn't say anything about any of it so he is probably just letting his wife handle it which is fine by me. He's scary. The quote "Don't let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent" (or something like that) keeps springing to mind whenever I think about this family.

I won't miss getting up at 4:45 to greet DCG at 5:30 every morning. I will miss her but I will find a new little one to love. OR I will keep my PT DC baby and get a PT job outside of the home in the evenings a few times a week.... if the new FT baby doesn't end up coming here that is.

[daycare]

Thank you, all.

He came and got her an hour and a half early and didn't say anything about any of it so he is probably just letting his wife handle it which is fine by me. He's scary. The quote "Don't let anyone make you feel inferior without your consent" (or something like that) keeps springing to mind whenever I think about this family.

I won't miss getting up at 4:45 to greet DCG at 5:30 every morning. I will miss her but I will find a new little one to love. OR I will keep my PT DC baby and get a PT job outside of the home in the evenings a few times a week.... if the new FT baby doesn't end up coming here that is.

as they all say....patience is golden and good things come to those who wait.

Or something like that....I have a hard time with translation...

What I would be doing is asking everyone on here how to interview and start brushing up on your interview skills. This will help you to learn to pick a GREAT family. One that will respect you, your house, your rules, your family and just across the board a great family with a great child.

[Breezy]

as they all say....patience is golden and good things come to those who wait.

Or something like that....I have a hard time with translation...

What I would be doing is asking everyone on here how to interview and start brushing up on your interview skills. This will help you to learn to pick a GREAT family. One that will respect you, your house, your rules, your family and just across the board a great family with a great child.

Patience is a virtue

Great idea, thats my weakest point I think. I never know what to say and let the parents lead the interview.

[daycare]

Patience is a virtue

Great idea, thats my weakest point I think. I never know what to say and let the parents lead the interview.

its ok we all start some where.... I started almost 9 years ago and by all of the mistakes I make daily you would think I started just last week.

REMEMBER you are also interviewing them. YOu need to make sure that they understand your services that you offer, you do not work for them.

You are looking for that RIGHT fit, not the best fit, the RIGHT fit.

Don't excuse the red flags, don't offer special and don't change your rules..

[daycare]

opps I got happy and hit sent.

So lets say DCF comes for an interview you tell them my hours I operate are from 7am to 6pm, M-F...

They say ok, but I will need to drop Sussie off at 630 most days....

What is your response??

[Breezy]

opps I got happy and hit sent.

So lets say DCF comes for an interview you tell them my hours I operate are from 7am to 6pm, M-F...

They say ok, but I will need to drop Sussie off at 630 most days....

What is your response??

Well, usually (before today) I would probably say that I would make that work (hence the 5:30 drop off of DCG).

But, next time I would say:

"I open at 7am and no earlier" Or something like that.

I am very Minnesota nice and I havce a hard time being firm and so I honestly in the heat of the moment would be tempted to follow it up with...." unless you have prior approval from me for an earlier drop off once in a while....." but then it looks like oh I will give special if asked. And you give an inch and they take a mile.

DCF I have right now told me that hours would be 6-2 when they emailed and when they got here it was suddenly 5:30-2:30 and oh by the way we will need care for my preschooler and my old sitter charged us per day for a certain amt of hours otherwise I paid per hour.. So thats what we want to do. I literally just folded and changed my WHOLE rate structure even though I KNEW thats not what I wanted to do. Its like I feel like I owe people something.

[daycare]

Well, usually (before today) I would probably say that I would make that work (hence the 5:30 drop off of DCG).

But, next time I would say:

"I open at 7am and no earlier" Or something like that.

I am very Minnesota nice and I havce a hard time being firm and so I honestly in the heat of the moment would be tempted to follow it up with...." unless you have prior approval from me for an earlier drop off once in a while....." but then it looks like oh I will give special if asked. And you give an inch and they take a mile.

DCF I have right now told me that hours would be 6-2 when they emailed and when they got here it was suddenly 5:30-2:30 and oh by the way we will need care for my preschooler and my old sitter charged us per day for a certain amt of hours otherwise I paid per hour.. So thats what we want to do. I literally just folded and changed my WHOLE rate structure even though I KNEW thats not what I wanted to do. Its like I feel like I owe people something.

Here is what I would say.

Well I only work on contracted hours for each family and this is how I figure each families fees per week.

I always want to be as flexible as possible (if I was willing or needed the money, which I am not) I would say. If you need me to open before my actual hours of operation, the cost is a flat fee of $10.00 up to one hour earlier each day that you need me before my opening time. (sorry I am wordy right now) trying to type fast...

Is there any way that you could change your hours or find someone like Gandma or Auntie to drop off at my opening time?

[daycare]

LEt me back this up....

I think you need to learn the phone interview part first

this way you avoid all of this and waste your time or anyone else