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[wdmmom]

No playdates.

I am a daycare. I provide childcare services. The service clearly wouldn't be needed if the parent was going to be here.

It is not my responsibility to entertain a parent. If that is the case, my rate will be 5 times your childs rate for the day and that is after you meet all the criteria "daycare" listed. ::::

[Jewels]

I guess I should also say I am different I guess, as I have befriended a few of my DCM's, No one has ever taken advantage of me, And for me having a daycare kid who hasn't been around for a while, that misses seeing the kids they used to hang out with so much, wanting to stop by for a visit, with his mom to still watch him, isn't offering free daycare, its fulfilling a kids wish to see his friends. after my one little boy came by with his mom for a "playdate" to see his friends he hadn't seen in a couple months, his mom texted me the next couple days, saying all he talked about was being able to play with So and so again, and how my daycare is just the coolest. I'm happy That the little boy had a great time, and the smile when he walked in the door was great and watching everyone so excited about playing with him, it was a great morning. An hes back in my daycare now(not for that reason though) so for me it wasn't offering anything for free. It was watching all the kids have a great time.
Now there are some parents I would never be friends with.

[Unregistered]

I neglected to add that they are supposed to be coming back next week. I just don't know why they would want to do a play date for an hour or so this week when they are supposed to come back in less than a week. It would be different if the parent was not coming along, and wanted to drop them off for an hour to run an errand.

I am hoping that I just mis-understood the situation and maybe they are just dropping the kids off to get some things done??? Fingers crossed!

I am just nervous bc if they do not some back for some reason or another not only will dh be furious with me (he told me to take other kids and not hold their spot), we will be in serious financial trouble until I replace them. Yes, I learned from this rookie mistake and will always have a holdong fee and deposit from now on... The whole situation is just sketchy to me.

[Blackcat31]

Hmmm, sounds to me like they think if they have a "play date" they aren't going to have to pay for the time the child is there.....

sneaky. But I suppose a good way to get free daycare....

[Jewels]

In that case it doesn't really make sense.....thats strange.

[momma2girls]

SOrry, I have plans that day.

[MrsB]

Since they may be coming back soon. Maybe its a case where kiddos are guilting parents into staying home. Parents think that coming for a play date might get them more ready to return next week?

Just a thought, but still kind of weird parents wouldn't tell you that was the case.

[Unregistered]

Update: They came and now I think I know why

I am so upset I am about to cry right now.

They show up today with dcd (dcm not present). Both kids have black eyes. Dcd tells me about how they play hard, etc etc. I do know that dcb is clumsy, but the extent of the injuries on both children's faces just do not sit right with me. Everytime they came during the break, they always had little scratches, etc, but I did not think much of it until today.

Why would they need to come back for a play date, a few days before they start, if they have been coming periodically during their break with no issues, for the past few months?

I almost wonder if dcd felt the need to have them around me with him, since their little faces are messed up, and he felt like he had to put on a dad of the year show in front of me to ward off suspicion? They have been with him for the past 4 months all day while dcm worked, and they are not easy children to watch- I wonder if he has a temper of if I am totally over-reacting and reading too much into it and they were just clumsy? I really don't know. My gut is telling me something is off. I feel sick to my stomach and my eyes are hot with tears right now. I was abused as a child and my dad was the perfect, loving hands on father... to the outside world. I do not want to project my experiences onto this family, as allegations of abuse are very serious, but I am going to be very diligent in taking pictures and documenting and gathering more information. (I hope he doesnt read this post).

What would you all do? If I call CPS I really don't have any proof of anything, and I know that there will be some story to make everything okay, and the children will be taken out of my care, they will remain in the abusive situation, and I may never be able to help them. (CPS failed me when I was a child). I plan to take pics when they come back and document everything, starting today, to see if there is a pattern of behavior. I am having trouble separating my experience from theirs, so I am very biased currently, and very on edge to keep these children safe, but if they were just innocent accidents, as children often have, I dont want to ruin a family either. I guess I just have to be around them more and find out and be very observent.

I feel very sad today

[Breezy]

You should call CPS as soon as possible. I know that you have no proof and believe me I was there as a child.... They wouldn't do anything unless I was bloody or in the hospital but there was still a paper trail and you need to get it going.

Good luck and try and seperate yourself from the situation. I feel for you!

[Unregistered]

Thank you. I have reached out to the authorities and got the ball rolling. I have never had to deal with this before from a provider's perspective and it is a lot for me emotionally right now.

[Michael]

YOu did the right thing to report it: https://www.daycare.com/forum/tags.p...dated+reporter