23 Month Old Development Questions

[MrsB]

I completely agree with everything you all are saying, I only give him his pacifier at nap time and in the past month I have stopped that unless he is considerably cranky. His dad is a surgical nurse and his mom is a physical therapist so I know that they understand the effects of him keeping the bottle and pacifier all the time. I think I will stop giving him bottles also. I am going to have to inform mom that I do not supply formula if this was her thoughts, she only asked if I offered milk when he started back. When he was younger they always brought formula so surely she does not expect that I am buying it for him now.

The only thing that I dont understand is that she is always telling me not to baby him that he can walk, or he can do this or that by himself. I know that their family life is a little hard right now bc she is taking care of her dad also, and yet they leave there 9 year old home by himself since DCB first started here, bc daycare is too expensive!

All in all I have had the little guy for about 9 months so I have definetly become attached to him, he is my youngest so he does get babyed a lot. I just want to make sure he is reaching his potential and progressing with things.

Do you think maybe her asking if you offer milk got mixed up in translation and she meant to ask do you offer formula? As far as him reaching his own potential, it sounds like you are doing a great job. I have had alot of bad feed back from some parents regarding me trying to get parents to ask their doctors about delays they may have, let alone the added difficulites you have with the cultural and language bariers. All you can do is control what happens when he is with you. From the amount of hours he is with you, I am sure you are able to make a significant impact in his life!happyfacehappyface

On a side note... DCB left at home at 9 years old? Do you know what the law is in your state regarding children staying home alone? In Maryland it is 8 years old, so a non issue for me. If it is older than 9 years old, would that be something that falls under mandatory reporting?

[jenny31052]

I have a degree in psychology and out household is bilingual ( Italian- English ). When a small child is raised in a household where two languages are regularly spoken he will automatically learn both. He will not get confused. Actually bilingual children have higher cognitive skills than monolingual individual because the brain gets that extra exercise from retrieving words from two different languages. They probably dony speak enough tagalog for him to learn it.


And like others said: he is there for a long time ! I'm not allowed to have children in care for more than 10 hrs each. I would not want it either. I love taking care of them, but I don't want to raise them..

[MrsB]

I have a degree in psychology and out household is bilingual ( Italian- English ). When a small child is raised in a household where two languages are regularly spoken he will automatically learn both. He will not get confused. Actually bilingual children have higher cognitive skills than monolingual individual because the brain gets that extra exercise from retrieving words from two different languages. They probably dony speak enough tagalog for him to learn it.


And like others said: he is there for a long time ! I'm not allowed to have children in care for more than 10 hrs each. I would not want it either. I love taking care of them, but I don't want to raise them..

My understanding was that parents only speak only Tagalong and their English is very minimal. :confused:

Really, only 10 hours per day? I have a few parents that work 3 10s (3 days on 3 days off) With travel time I have them 11 hours a day it is fine with me because I still only typically have them 20-30 hours a week, depending on when their work days fall. Seems like that tight of a restriction would cut out daycare options for alot of job classes. Factory shift, nurses, doctors, etc Do the centers have to abide by that rule too? What state is this? If you dont mind me asking?

[Unregistered]

To answer a few questions...........I am also wondering if I got it milk and formula got mixed up in translation............DCM says that they do not speak tagalog at home often but I have never heard them speak anything but tagalog to one another. Even if I call on the phone, if one needs to ask the other a question that I may have they ask the other in tagalog, even though it is my question...........So I am not sure if she is not just saying that.

His schedule seems long.......and it is.........but Dad works 12 hour nights and Mom works 12 hour days. Sometimes she will bring him and pick him up but this is not often. Mostly Dad brings him when he wakes up which is not until like 10 or 11 so the hours are often shorter than they seem. Its just that when he brings him he always says "oh he just woke up" So I take that as my que that he has not eaten breakfast, he probably wont take a proper nap......yada yada

I dont think the boy is at home alone always, bc DCM's Dad is there but he is very elderly and is actually going back to the phillipines to spend his last days according to her. He will be leaving next week so we shall see.