SAHM Add For One Of My Daycare Parents

[lil angels]

I just had a mom of mine quit her job about a month and a half ago. Well she has interviewed at about 15 places and gotten two jobs. Quit them both and now I just ran across an add saying she is a SAHM looking to take in one family. So how long do you think it will be before she gives notice.

Should I ask her about it or just plan it in the back of my head and wait for it?

Part of me want to give her notice first!

[cheerfuldom]

I would probably start interviewing and then term if I found a child to take the spot. If I didn't have a child to take the spot, I would wait until mom termed. Thats just me though and you are welcome to do whatever you want. I wouldnt take any of it personally though

[MNMum]

My initial reaction is she should have spoken with you first. On the other hand, who knows how long it will be before she finds a family to take care of. I figure that my parents only need to really give me the 2 weeks notice my contract requires. She's probably looking out for herself, just as you would do by starting the search to replace her now and possibly give her notice if you find a family first. KWIM?

[littlemissmuffet]

I understand that parents do what they gotta do... but they need to understand that I gotta do what I gotta do too.

Before I terminate a family I always get a replacement ready first.

In this case, I'd probably terminate. That may not be the popular opinion here, but at the end of the day, if I don't look out for myself - who will???

Now, if a parent came to me and said, "Hey, I want to stay home w/ little Johnny and start looking after other littles..." I'd be all for it - so long as they gave appropriate notice. I'd help in any way I could w/ advice and such because if a parent can be home with their child and also provide quality care to another child that's great.

But, because she's gone behind your back... nope.

[permanentvacation]

Is it legal or illegal for her to babysit out of her own home in your area? If it's illegal, the first thing I would do is turn her in. Send in a copy of her ad, with her name, address, and phone number and report her as an illegal childcare provider.

Then I would advertise to replace her child and get a new child lined up to start with you and then give her notice. It's fairly obvious that she's not going to be in your daycare long. But if you need the income you are getting from her, replace her before ditching her to try to cover your financial needs. If you don't need her income, and you think you are going to be irritated with her or her child for not being upfront with you or for whatever reason, then go ahead and ditch her.

[lil angels]

I don't even know I think she can care for one family legally ( if someone can help me out here). I am in Minnesota. I have had a couple calls lately. It none with the hrs I want. I don't know what to do. I just had one of my other children return so really it is like I already filled the spot. But the extra income is nice though.

[daycare]

sorry, how do you know in fact it is her??

[lil angels]

I know it's her because she says her name, the age of her child and her phone number. Oh and her city's he is in. She doesn't try to hide anything.

[daycare]

Then why not confront her? Just say hey sally I was on CL and ran across your ad that you are offering childcare. When will you expect little johnny to have his last day?

[Blackcat31]

I don't even know I think she can care for one family legally ( if someone can help me out here). I am in Minnesota. I have had a couple calls lately. It none with the hrs I want. I don't know what to do. I just had one of my other children return so really it is like I already filled the spot. But the extra income is nice though.

These are the licensure exclusions in MN:


A. day care provided by a relative to only related children; or


B. day care provided to children from a single, unrelated family, for any length of time; or


C. day care provided for a cumulative total of less than 30 days in any 12-month period; or


D. the exclusions contained in items A and B are mutually exclusive.


My guess is she placed the ad to see if she would get any one interested and if she does/did, she will give notice but as long as no one is taking her up on it, she is keeping her space with you.

[VTMom]

Then why not confront her? Just say hey sally I was on CL and ran across your ad that you are offering childcare. When will you expect little johnny to have his last day?

I think this is what I'd do too. No need for bad feelings.

[DCBlessings27]

Testing the waters

My guess is she placed the ad to see if she would get any one interested and if she does/did, she will give notice but as long as no one is taking her up on it, she is keeping her space with you.

I agree with Blackcat. I think she's just testing the waters to see if she can find someone to respond to her ad.

[SunshineMama]

Don't be mad at her, she probably feels guilty about having her child in care too, after all, she is a mother too. Casually mention the ad and see what she says.

[MarinaVanessa]

I understand that parents do what they gotta do... but they need to understand that I gotta do what I gotta do too.

Before I terminate a family I always get a replacement ready first.

Personally I have to agree with this. My contract says that either of us has to give the other a 2 week notice of termination and although I am really good at working with families (I try to solve all issues first and termination is a last resort) there are some situations where I don't feel it's necessary. This is one of them.

If I came across an add of one of my DC parent's that said that they were looking into doing child care and they didn't tell me, then I wouldn't feel it necessary to tell them that I was going to find a replacement as soon as possible. And I'm not being petty or going about this as a tit-for-tat sort of way, I just really wouldn't find it necessary to talk to them about finding the add and putting up an add myself.

I'd start advertising to replace them with the understanding that they would not start for 2 weeks and then I'd give the current family their 2 week notice (more if the other child wouldn't be starting until later). If my current family didn't need me during those two weeks I'd be fine with letting off the 2 week hook if my new family wanted to start sooner.

[lil angels]

I have a family that is looking for care starting June I think I may call them and let them know I will have the spot. The only thing I am worried about is that if I don't term now and mom does find a job again and gets more steady again I don't know how I could then term them.