New 3 Year Old...Need Advice Please

[Cat Herder]

Our regs do state not to use food as a reward or punishment and the ****ers on good days is considered rewarding good behavior, but I've continued to do that anyway as they get it as the walk out the door when mom and dad are here. It would probably get me written up but it usually works for me so Ive continued to use that. Stickers...I don't think our regs state anything on that.
I'm going to make him an area this weekend and try this starting monday. He is very good during circle time and anytime we do an activity. It's usually during free play or outside time that I have the most trouble from him.

I was shocked by our reg and I still give ****ers everyday, too. lovethis I just give them to the parent and let them decide, now...::

IMHO, You are way ahead of the game already, then... It won't take long at all. He KNOWS how to act... Simple re-enforcement for the free-play should do the trick fast.

[small_steps]

Thanks everyone! I appreciate all the feedback. Everyone has great ideas. The first day he was here he ran from me when I called the kids to come in. I had to chase him in the backyard to get him to come in. That made me so angry! So I keep a pak n play by the back door for one of my infants. I stuck him in there for about 2 minutes while I got the toddlers inside the house. He was so mad I put him in there. I told him its because he ran from me outside and I had to make sure he didn't do that again so he would be safe. He hasn't ran from me again yet ! That worked so well.. so I know he is teachable. I just hope he can learn the rest after a couple of weeks of this. I am prepared to buckle down and be extremely consistent with this separation thing because i know in the long run IF it works my days will be soooo much better.

[cheerfuldom]

I would never use the word "secluding" and "separating".... I would just tell the mom (only if she asked) that "I made a spot for him to chill out and calm down before re-joining the group. He is never separated provided he is showing appropriate behavior. The goal is that eventually he will not need this spot at all."