Can You Spank?

[dEHmom]

I cannot stress this enough.....


DO NOT BLUFF! when they call your bluff you're officially been defeated and they will forever test to see if you are bluffing. However bad your child is at 2 yo, times that by 10 when they are 12 yo. Get my drift?

Never EVER EVER threaten your child with something unless you have every single intention of following through with it. So make sure it is something that you can.

I had a lady from a program I was in give me a challenge. I told her "NO PROBLEM that's too easy!".
She told me to take a piece of paper or a notebook. For 1 week, everytime you use the word no, put a tick, checkmark whatever to show how many times you use it.
Then for 1 week, don't use the word no at all. And if you had to use the word no, for lack of any other way to deal with something, make sure to follow it with "No Johnny, we can't go there today, but we can go another day" or whatever.

Really makes you stop and think about how often you say NO to your kids, and never follow through with an explaination. To them everythings no, and eventually it's like hey, whatever, mom/dad always say no.

[JeepGirl6]

No, I would not allow your child care provider to spank your child. The child care provider has to protect herself...If another child would go home and tell their parents that their teacher spanked your child, their parents could possibly report her.

[KEG123]

We're not allowed to here either, and even if we WERE, there is no way in HECK I would. I don't spank my own son, I would never spank someone else's....

[Unregistered]

Discipline

I spanked my own child on occasion when she was younger if it seemed like the best course of action to take. I've been given permission by some of my daycare parents to give their kids a spanking if they need it and while I appreciate that the parents trust my judgement, I've never taken a parent up on the offer. Even if it wasn't illegal in my state, I still wouldn't do it because that's a responsibility that doesn't belong to me. I don't have a problem with parents spanking their own kids, though. I just don't want to do it. I don't really need to do it. I'm not saying that because I think I'm awesome (which I'm not), I say it because I have found that following through on what I say that I'll do is encouragement enough for my daycare kids to behave themselves at my house. I am consistent even when it would be easier to just give in. I think that being consistent really helps because kids learn what to expect.