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I have a little boy who is going to be three in June, his Mom and I are both stumped so I told her that I would ask all of you for your thoughts. This little boy has been peeing on the potty for probably close to a year now, he doesn't tell us very often we just take him and he know exactly what is expected of him, he pees every single time. He knows what "come on, let's go and go potty", he runs to the bathroom and is more than happy to pee on the potty. He however won't tell us, he is perfectly happy peeing in his pants if we don't tell him to go potty. A month or so ago I told his Mom that I thought we should try getting rid of the Pull Ups and switching to training pants with plastic pants over them. We still have to take him to the bathroom every hour because he won't tell us but that is fine that isn't the issue for us, that will come. The issue is the pooping, he pooped his pant 4 times today ( After the first two I put a pull up on him) He is a kid that thrives on total adult attention good or bad, he wants to be entertained or be the sorce of the entertained at all times. He isn't a kid that knows how to entertain himself at all, he is contantly at me or another adult member of my family wanting us to entertain him even if there are 4 other kids here. I think he likes all of the attention he gets surrounding POOP, once today he laughed when I noticed the poop. I don't know that switching back to pull ups is the ideal thing, to me that is going backwards but at the same time we are both tired of changing poopy underwear when it doesn't seem to be getting better at all. He doesn't care one way or the other, he is perfectly happy to sit in poopy pants. So what do we do? Ignore it? How? We would both really appreciate any advice. Thank you so much! Oh, and we have tried stickers, treats, a potty dance etc.
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He's not trained. You and the parents are :
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Seriously though, if they cannot get themselves to the toilet (or at the very least tell you they need to go) then they need to go back to DIAPERS....not pull-ups, diapers. Let him know that when he begins telling you that he needs to go, that you'll gladly put him back in underwear.
Personally, I would insist on diapers, no if, ands or buts and go about my day. I don't stress about toileting. I know when my children are ready and very RARELY have even one accident after I train them....which takes one or two days.
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What she said^^^^^^ 
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I think the Mom would be up for diapers too because the Pull Ups are much more expensive but this boy weighs at least 45 pounds, the biggest diapers don't fit him
That's why she switched to Pull Ups when she did.
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I'm not an expert. I have a dd of my own who is 2.5 yo. I've been working with her on potty training. She will go in the potty if I stay at her, but if I don't she won't come tell me and will just go. I've just figured she's not really ready yet? I keep working with her and encouraging her but keep the diapers on.
Maybe go back to square one. Put the diapers back on and when he goes and laughs about it don't make a big deal. Just change his diaper and move on. It could be he's just not ready yet. That's what I would do if it was my ds. If he ever does decide he wants to go on his own make a big positive deal about it, then maybe he will see that's a good way to get positive attention happyfaceComment
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I have a bigger one also (40lbs) and its getting hard to get them up and down to the toilet. They aren't grasping the concept either so I'm very hesitant to suggest diapers again because I don't think it would be easy to get diapers on. Not to mention how bad that is for ones back even on the floor for changing.Each day is a fresh start
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LUVS makes a diaper for kids who weigh more than 35lbs (size 6)
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I'm with Crystal on this. Luvs has BIG diapers.Comment
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Each day is a fresh start
Never look back on regrets
Live life to the fullest
We only get one shot at this!!
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Definitely agree with those who said the parent is trained here, not the kid. I would say, back to diapers. Pull ups are harder to change poop in, so I would do diapers, not pull ups.Comment
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Thank you all for your advice! He doesn't come on Wednesdays but I will fill Mom in anyway. Thursday he will be back in pull ups or diapers at least while he is here, I have had enough of the poopy underwear.Comment
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Try cloth diapers!!!Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I had one very overweight little girl a few years ago, by age 2 she had outgrown the largest size of pullups and was nowhere near potty trained. We had to use Goodnights, size 10.
They were fairly expensive and only came about 12 in the pack.
Come to think of it, we've actually had a couple large, non-toilet trained children use adult diapers.
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This might be a very stupid question but when you guys are saying put him back in diapers are you saying put him back in diapers period and quit trying to train him? Stop bugging him to go potty and just wait until he starts telling us? Or put him back in diapers and continue to put him on the potty every hour or so? Because at least right now, this kid will sit in a wet poopy diaper all day long and not say a word if given the chance. He is smart as a whip and quite frankly I really thinks he likes manipulating us. There are days that he will go all day without eating more than a bite or two just because the foods that he wanted weren't offered up. I offer a wide variety of pretty kid friendly food but there are days that he will just look at the plate and not even touch it. Still can't figure out how he got to be so big, other than the fact that they just took his bottle away last November.Comment
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