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Anyone have experience with this? I have a 22month old dcg who has lots going on. Been through lots of evals for lack of speech and poor motor control. I am starting to wonder if some of her "behaviors" are because of sensory needs not being met. How do I approach mom with this? Mom has an explanation for most everything (just clumsy, not a vocal kid, rough/tough girl, picky, young etc). When you put all the issues together its clear there is more to it.
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I know a little boy who started showing these exact signs around the age of 2. He was tested and placed on the spectrum for autism. He has all kids of therapists that help him. He's 5 now and doing much better.
Parents can be very defensive about their kids when it comes to developmental issues their kids may be having. That's a very sensitive subject. I wonder if there's anyone reading who has had a kid of their own in daycare with these signs... Would they want to be approached or would they prefer to figure it out on their own??
My friend had told me after the fact that she would have been mad if DH and I had come to them with our concerns. Not just "us" but anyone. -
I know this might come across sounding wrong, but I have stopped trying to help families in this way. The parents dont want to hear it, get upset and Have even had one tell me WHO are you to tell me these things. I will bring it up once and leave it at that. We can't save them all is how I look at it now.
I try to work with the child the best that I can and if I can't, I tell the parents and I let the child go if I cannot meet their needs.
I encourage the parents to just keep taking the children to their doctors appointments as needed and let the doctor be the way to say something.
I have only had one parent listen to me, the rest got angry or upset in some way...Comment
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My take as a parent would be I would so want someone to tell me if the child was having problems. Heres why-they are seeing that child 9+ hours a day and may possibly be seeing something I'm not. More eyes the better.
Now, I did have a child myself that people thought had speech issues. We never put them in therapy and they actuall outgrew it. Sometimes they were hard to understand but we worked with them. Another person said the same child couldn't read well yet was able to sound out words that were pretty big. One time they were in bible class and sounded out the word "Israllite" (I know I didn't spell that right-
) and was in first grade I believe. I never did figure out why they said the child was having trouble reading.
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This is a tough subject and I am torn. I always base it on the parents.
Like I have one DCB that definately has issues and has gone through testing. Parents refused to go get him a diagnosis even though the local infants and toddlers program is offering him lots of services they only accepted services for speech. Their reasoning is that they have been saving since he was in the womb for him to go to this one special private school. With an autism/pdd diagnosis, it will exclude him from that school. (IMO it is a form of neglect, but that is a whole other topic) I learned its not my position to judge a parents decision or denial. I can only do what I can do. I am not getting paid to evaluate, make diagnosis, or provide therapy. If he/she can't fit into my program/schedule or he/she takes too much away from the other kids enrolled they have to go elsewhere.
Now if a parent asks, I always will tell the truth.
I offer to parents a "report card" of sorts they can share with their pediatrician. I include skills they have mastered and skills they are still working on/struggling with. Its up to the parents and pediatricians to do the rest.Comment
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