What Would You Do?!

[TGT09]

This afternoon I was absolutely livid to the point of shaking.

5 y.o. dcg peed her pants. She opens the bathroom door a little and says Miss A, I peed my pants. I say ok, I don't have panties for you but I'll bring you a pair of pants. So I hand her a pair of pants and lay a bag outside the door for her wet clothes to take home. She comes out, shuts the bathroom door. An hour later Mom comes for all 4 of her children who are in my opinion, completely disrespectful. I have the 3 yo 4 days a week and the other 3 only for 1 hour on Wednesday.

Fast forward 2 hours, I decide I have to go to the bathroom. Open the door and immediately step into a soggy puddle of pee!! She had peed on my rug (probably through her clothes) and NOT SAID ANYTHING! I mean my rug was absolutely sopping wet so much that it soaked the bottom of my jeans!

I was so close to calling Mom right then. Now here's the question, would you make an issue out of it or just let it slide? To me, this is extremely disrespectful, not to mention gross! I guess my thinking is, what do I expect to come out of making it an issue? BUT, I feel that this was totally unappropriate and dcg should have to apologize. Is this wrong of me?

[QualiTcare]

hmm...

i would think the little girl probably didn't say anything because either it wasn't a big deal to her being as though she's five OR she was afraid to say anything.

my own kids who never, ever get in trouble for spilling anything, and have been told over and over to TELL me if they spill something on the carpet STILL don't tell me! NEVER! i don't get it.

i would talk very calmly to the little girl and tell her if that happens again then to make sure she tells you and not be afraid. of course, if you seem mad at all, she will be afraid if it happens again. it still may not work. like i said, my kids won't tell me after numerous times of not getting in trouble.

OR you could just not say anything, and next time - make sure you go in and ask questions about where it happened.

[melskids]

to me, it would depend on why she did it. was she totally engrossed in what she was doing and waited until the last minute to go and didnt make it, or did she purposely stand there and pee on your rug? (i had a kid do this once)

also, i make sure whenever anyone has an accident, i always go in and supervise them while they clean up. only cause it is gross, and i dont want it laying around. as much as i make them clean it up themselves, i still go behind them with bleach to make sure its really clean

i would be peeved too, but i think i might let it go this time, only cause you didnt find it right away.

JMO

once , when my sister was little (5 or 6) she was at a friends house playing. she always waited until she couldnt hold it any longer. well, i guess she peed right on the couch and never said anything. she came right home (we lived next door) and never told anyone. my mom could never figure out why she never got invited back, until about 3 years ago (18 years later) my sister finally told her why....

[TGT09]

Well, it wasn't the fact that she peed her pants or even on my floor. It was the fact that she purposely shut the door so I wouldn't find it or that she was trying to hide it.

I never get mad at pee accidents with the big kids because it happens. BUT, then again I haven't had ANY accidents with big kids until JUST this week.

The only reason why the 3 year old annoys me is because he has done it at least 6 times in the past 2 weeks. It's because he's being nosy or not paying attention.

I guess I'll just have to supervise next time it happens.

[TGT09]

P.S. She was outside playing and ran in to the bathroom so be to be honest, when she told me she peed her pants, I thought she meant outside. I didn't even comprehend that it was actually in the bathroom.

[Unregistered]

No offense, but shouldn't you have gone in and checked? I mean usually when a child pees their pants there is usually some sort of wetness on the floor! I guess I would just let it go, she probably was thinking you would clean it up and didn't mean any harm by it!

[MarinaVanessa]

Personally I would just talk to her about it and unless I knew that It was done on purpose I wouldn't request an apology. If it was an accident I don't punish or make a child feel bad (spilled drinks, potty accidents etc.).

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

I would tell her today that you found her mess yesterday and you really wish she would have told you because now she cant be in the potty by herself. And I would make sure she was supervised for a month or so.

[TGT09]

See, that's the issue...I only have her for 1 hour a week and it's on Wednesday. I'm just gonna let it drop. She is 5 afterall, it was just the anger talking from having soaked my jeans. It was just as much my fault that I didn't go in there right after she cleaned herself up. She's an all-day kindergartner so she's incredibly mature for her age but still, I keep repeating that she's 5.
Thanks all!