Should I Just Give Up?

[daycare]

SO I have a DCB who is almost 3 that I have been PT for about a month. He is accident free most of the week.
DCB has been doing great here at daycare, but not at home. The parents can not handle the process of PT. They tell me that he has a million accidents a day. I sat down with DCF to go over how I do things here and wanted to find out what they are doing at home.
Every monday when DCK comes back, he shows up in diapers and poops and pees all day having accidents. By wednesday he is back to accident free.
He is here full time 10.0 hour days.

I am getting really frustrated and guess what today has been no different than the last two mondays.

Should I just give up since DCP are not doing anything to help at home?

[littlemissmuffet]

Parent's job to potty train, not mine. I'll help the process along, but I will not waste my time, effort and energy on helping if parent's aren't doing anything at home.

[Greenplasticwateringcans]

Parent's job to potty train, not mine. I'll help the process along, but I will not waste my time, effort and energy on helping if parent's aren't doing anything at home.

This!

No way I'd do all the work.

[daycare]

I am usually this way too, but why have another kid in diapers if you can see that they are ready to go. A lot less work for me.

[Soupyszoo]

I would be frustrated too but I think I agree that I would not waste the time if the parents are too lazy to help out. Let them continue to buy diapers.

[countrymom]

I totally understand where your coming from, remember I posted about poopy pull up girl, well she doesn't poop in her pull up anymore and I don't chase her to go to the bathroom. I gave up, when I realized that I was doing all the work while they get to do nothing, she aint my kid.

[daycare]

great point.. I just cant stand lazy parenting. How hard is it really to have your kid sit on the toilet....Guess it is just easy for me because I do it every day....

[Solandia]

I guess I am the odd one...i think potty training is just like any other child-led learning activity...and I think it is kind of fun & amazing that these little kids can do this stuff.

I don't/won't do a potty training plan, but if the child asks, or if I notice they are hiding in a corner to poo or doing a potty dance...I just take them to the potty. If they are dry at our regular diaper changing times, I just set them on the potty for a 30-60 seconds. I have never done a timer or put a child in undies before they were potty trained. If they cannot pee within a minute, I don't just let them sit on the potty unless they are 'begging' to sit on the potty (like that has happened once or twice, ever, LOL).

So, even if the parents dont do a blessed thing on potty training, if I can catch a child halfway through their poop, and get the other half while sitting in the toilet...I will totally go for that. If they wake up dry from naptime, I will rush to sit them on the potty for a minute or two in hopes of a pee in the potty. Right now, my 18mo keeps asking to go to the potty. He has no flipping clue what to do on the potty. But every time he asks, we go sit on the potty for a few second, change him if he is wet. Each time he poops in his diaper, I ask him if he pooped...he pats his butt, yells "potty!" and runs to the bathroom. Again, he sits on the potty for a moment, we change his bum, and move on. 10 extra seconds 4or 5 times a day, and this 18mo is starting to correlate poop & potty. Not bad, imo.

I see potty training the same as any other skill....drinking from an open cup or putting on their own shoes.... if they are not even halfway ready to do it themselves but have the desire to learn, I encourage the child to do as much as they can themselves. It isn't all or nothing.

[daycare]

I guess I am the odd one...i think potty training is just like any other child-led learning activity...and I think it is kind of fun & amazing that these little kids can do this stuff.

I don't/won't do a potty training plan, but if the child asks, or if I notice they are hiding in a corner to poo or doing a potty dance...I just take them to the potty. If they are dry at our regular diaper changing times, I just set them on the potty for a 30-60 seconds. I have never done a timer or put a child in undies before they were potty trained. If they cannot pee within a minute, I don't just let them sit on the potty unless they are 'begging' to sit on the potty (like that has happened once or twice, ever, LOL).

So, even if the parents dont do a blessed thing on potty training, if I can catch a child halfway through their poop, and get the other half while sitting in the toilet...I will totally go for that. If they wake up dry from naptime, I will rush to sit them on the potty for a minute or two in hopes of a pee in the potty. Right now, my 18mo keeps asking to go to the potty. He has no flipping clue what to do on the potty. But every time he asks, we go sit on the potty for a few second, change him if he is wet. Each time he poops in his diaper, I ask him if he pooped...he pats his butt, yells "potty!" and runs to the bathroom. Again, he sits on the potty for a moment, we change his bum, and move on. 10 extra seconds 4or 5 times a day, and this 18mo is starting to correlate poop & potty. Not bad, imo.

I see potty training the same as any other skill....drinking from an open cup or putting on their own shoes.... if they are not even halfway ready to do it themselves but have the desire to learn, I encourage the child to do as much as they can themselves. It isn't all or nothing.

I am right there with you and this child is asking to use the potty no problems at all. BUT the parents don't want to help...thats like saying johnny can write and wants to write his ABCs but the parents wont let him.......ugh

[wdmmom]

I have the opposite problem. DCM tells me DCB asks to go potty and goes at home but throws an absolute fit here.

I finally told DCM that until he asks to use the bathroom, we aren't going to continue exhausting anymore effort into it.

Oddly enough, DCM came in 2 weeks later and said they were going to stop PT efforts for about a month and try again.

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[CheekyChick]

That is soooo not fair to you! It is like the movie Groundhogs Day - you have to potty train every Monday, over and over, and over, and over again!

I would tell the family that it takes a lot of work on your part to re-train him each week and that you have decided to put him back in diapers until he is accident free on the weekends.