Do DCP Mind If Your Hubby Is Home

[e.j.]

I'm the odd man out, I guess. I wouldn't have seen the dc mom's comment as insulting necessarily or as an insinuation about my husband or son. A lot would depend on her tone and attitude, but when a day care parent expresses concern about anything, I try to understand where she's coming from and then I work to put her mind at ease. I think most parents just want reassurance that their children will be safe while in my care.

If after discussing her concerns, she was still uncomfortable or demanded that my husband and/or son stay away from home during d/c hours, I would suggest she find another day care provider but I don't think I would have terminated her for expressing concern initially. JMHO.

[Breezy]

I have never had anyone make a comment about it and my DH is home occasionally. He is in the military and so he has had all background checks, certifications, etc. He is also my sub as outlined in the HB which everyone signed!

[AmyLeigh]

I would take offense if someone was uncomfortable with dh here. He is an awesome dad and wonderful with kids, diapers included! happyface
However, from a parent's POV, I can understand. In my town, a provider of 20+ years completely lost her business when her husband was arrested for possession of child *****graphy. None of her daycare children were victimized, but who would trust her after that?
You can never be too careful in this day and age.

[melskids]

Hubby isn't around much during DC due to his work schedule, but my (almost 16 yr old) son is always here.

He is everyone's big brother. The school agers follow him around like he's a rock star.

He loves the outdoors, so he is our "resident outdoor specialist". He leads us on hikes through the woods and teaches them about animal tracks and tree bark and how to braid rope out of grass. He's too much, but that's another thread.

He comes on all our field trips, and helps out ALOT. He pushes kids on swings, and helps them up when the fall. He plays board games and builds legos with them.

I have a 7 year old DCG who's brother left for Iraq last year. She is devestated, to say the least. It has really affected her. She has really taken to my son, and I think it's helping her to cope. I spoke with mom and dad, to make sure we are all comfortable with it and on the same page, and the are more then greatful he is here, and so willing to be a surrogate big brother.

I'm the luckiest mom in the world to have such an awesome kid, who not only tolerates my DC, but is willing to be a big part of it as well. lovethis

If any parent had an issue with that, then this isn't the right place for them.

[laundrymom]

I am a family childcare home. If you don't like the family part, don't let the door hit ya, where the good Lord........

[Lilbutterflie]

MY DH is home ALOT... he has odd hours and they are not consistent. I explain at all interviews that he is my backup and will be home a lot. Not one has ever expressed any concern. In addition, the kids absolutely adore him. He is the FUN guy that they love to play with and climb on. The DCPs get to see their child's face light up when they see him, so I hope they are happy that is here so often.

[Angelwings36]

My dh is gone by the time I open at 7:30am and is only home on (some) days before I close for a max of 15 minutes. I guess because he is not typically home during the hours I operate I have never really had an issue come up with it. We both work relatively the same hours which is really nice because we get the same hours off, but I am envious of some of you that has their dh home lots during the day. Oh how I wish! Maybe someday!

[Lilbutterflie]

My dh is gone by the time I open at 7:30am and is only home on (some) days before I close for a max of 15 minutes. I guess because he is not typically home during the hours I operate I have never really had an issue come up with it. We both work relatively the same hours which is really nice because we get the same hours off, but I am envious of some of you that has their dh home lots during the day. Oh how I wish! Maybe someday!

I actually wish my DH worked the same hours I did! It's nice sometimes; when he actually wants to help and play with the kids. But it definitely has it's downsides. When my DH is home, sometimes he just wants to REST! He can't really do that b/c his home is not his home during daycare hours. It's loud, there are kids everywhere, and it's not really a "relaxing" environment! So, often in his time off, he locks himself in our room to relax. This is fine and I totally understand, but that is also the only time I have to spend with him sometimes b/c he works nights often. So I often don't ever get to really interact with my husband. But then, if I had a corporate job with the same daycare hours, I would actually never see him!

[kathiemarie]

My husband is my back up. I have a Dr. appt. on Friday and will be gone most of the morning. He changes diapers and everything!

[renodeb]

To me its not really any of there business if he is home or not but sometimes I will mention it if it fits the conversation. In Nevada anyone in the house 18 or older must have a background chk, and tb test. I have only ever had a very few parents say anything. Knowone was weirded out by it that I could tell. As others have said its there home to! Mostly if my husband is home he is in our bedroom but not always.
Debbie

[renodeb]

I am a family childcare home. If you don't like the family part, don't let the door hit ya, where the good Lord........

Amen to that sister! My husband works in retail so the hours are crazy. When he is home he likes to play with the kids and on accasion is the back up. Like others have said,he is the fun guy! The kids love him.
Debbie

[DCBlessings27]

Husband

DCParents have never had a problem if my husband was home. He did see one eating a restaurant once and say hi. DCM popped her head up really quickly to see why a man was saying hi to her daughter.

My husband is rarely home, but my dc kids love when he is. I try to have him present at every interview to meet the kids and to protect me from being home alone when I'm interviewing. My dc kids will ask where he is sometimes because they love him so much! He was home yesterday for an hour because he had an eye doctor appt and then came home after it. They were doing everything they could to get his attn. He was a little unnerved though by what he called the "zombie attack." :: He was trying to use the restroom, and the 2 youngest followed him down the hall, banging on the door and twisting the doorknob!

IN CA anyone over the age 18 that resides in your home must go through all of the same background checks as the provider.

In KS, we have to put our child on the KBI background check as soon as they turn 10. Anyone over 18 has to have the TB test and background check.