Do DCP Mind If Your Hubby Is Home

[kayla]

Mine is not my sub, however the children love him... They are always asking about him when he is not around... And he is much more leaniant then I.

[wdmmom]

I love when my DH is home! He is a great helper and the kids love him!

I had a DCM a few years ago question who was all allowed in my house while her daughter was here. I wasn't quite sure what she meant so she rephrased it to WHO might be in my home while DCG was here.

I responded with me, my assistant, my children, my husband, occasionally my mom and dad (if they come visit for a weekend, they usually don't leave until Monday) and anyone else I deem fit to be here.

I had bread delivered once a week from a deli here in town. He is a dear friend of mine. She seen him here one day and she had a fit because he was putting bread on the shelves in the garage. He wasn't even in the house!

I told her that I am not always able to go places to get what I need, nor can I fix everything. I told her that there would be an occasion where I may need to call a plumber, an HVAC tech, etc.

I understand that these parents are concerned but at the same time, I never allow the technician or the kids near one another. I have a big enough house and enough play areas that they would never have to come into contact with each other.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Wow, I cant believe that your parents dont mind.

I know that if my hubby was my sub, my DC parents would flip out and fire me.

Not a word of a lie.

My DCK's all know him and they are fine with him but the parents, not so much.

We both have our background checks done too, it's just the parents that would freak.

[Sunchimes]

In my case, I think it's a case of degrees of separation. Because of our former business and being a small town, all but one of my parents either knew us from that, or their parents knew us, or friends of friends. One of my single moms acted sort of awkward the first few times her daughter reached for hubby as they walked by, but she never said anything. She's very young and a single mom, and I think it surprised her. After a few days, she relaxed and is fine with it.

[AnneCordelia]

My hubby is occasionally home. My DCPs have never said they didn't like it. If they didn't care for the situation then they are free to find other care. They all met him during the interview process and so have no reason to complain. He lives here.

It always floors me when I hear about parents who dislike a father in his home. Floors me.

[Blackcat31]

My dck's LOVE my husband. He's a tree and they are the monkeys!lovethis

My DCF's all love my DH too! The kids think of him as their personal jungle gym!

DH is also my sub and participates in all training requirements and background checks.

Many of my DCF's have hired him to do remodels and/or furniture builds for them too.

[SunshineMama]

When I was a parent, I picked up my children and the OP's husband was home. I didn't care a bit, but I think she was a little nervous about it bc she went on to explain why he was there and that he took 1/2 day, etc etc. I never really thought anything about it.

Sometimes my DH is here when the parents pick up, etc and I have no idea if the parents have an issue with it but I don't care if they do. It's his house and they can go elsewhere if they have a problem with it. The kids love him and I think they even like playing with him more than me

When I did my interviews, he was there for every one of them. I wanted the parents to get to meet my entire family before they came so they were comfortable (and we were too), with everything. He is the father of my children, and an excellent one at that- if he's good enough for my girls, he's good enough for other kids too.

[sharlan]

I've never had a parent complain.

My dh is home 24/7. He does most of the errand running and picks up all of the grandkids from school. I'll hand him the baby (10 mo) to give her a bottle. He helps out with meals and supervising, but wouldn't touch a diaper even if I asked.

[Sunchimes]

... wouldn't touch a diaper even if I asked.

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That's mine! I'm getting a newborn soon, and mom says he isn't colicky but some days, he cries a lot. When the grandkids were small, hubby was a baby whisperer with the colicky grandkids. I'm going to test him to see if he still has that talent. If he does, I'm going to make him retire completely and sit with this crying baby all day. ::

[AfterSchoolMom]

One woman said something when I first opened my daycare. She said that it made her uncomfortable for my husband to be here all day (occasionally he works from home upstairs in the office). I replied, "I will have your notice emailed this evening." She was shocked and said that she didn't want to leave. I said, "Well, this is his home. He is my husband and father of my children. He belongs here. If you are uncomfortable with it, that is your issue. But I don't like what you are implying about someone I love so you will be leaving. I made that decision for you." She tried to talk me out of it, but it was to little, too late.

This. I've never had the issue come up, but if it did, that would be the way I'd handle it. My house, my business, my decision. I don't really care whether they "mind" or not.

[blueclouds29]

ditto!

My dck's LOVE my husband. He's a tree and they are the monkeys!lovethis

Same here... the minute my husband gets in the door! Poor guy!

[Crazy8]

One woman said something when I first opened my daycare. She said that it made her uncomfortable for my husband to be here all day (occasionally he works from home upstairs in the office). I replied, "I will have your notice emailed this evening." She was shocked and said that she didn't want to leave. I said, "Well, this is his home. He is my husband and father of my children. He belongs here. If you are uncomfortable with it, that is your issue. But I don't like what you are implying about someone I love so you will be leaving. I made that decision for you." She tried to talk me out of it, but it was to little, too late.

Good for you!!!! happyface

My dck's love my DH - he's the "fun" one. DCP's have never had issue either, I think they like that this is a family atmosphere. My DH is probably home 1-2 days a week - at least part of the day so they can either be ok with it or they can find another daycare.

[saved4always]

One woman said something when I first opened my daycare. She said that it made her uncomfortable for my husband to be here all day (occasionally he works from home upstairs in the office). I replied, "I will have your notice emailed this evening." She was shocked and said that she didn't want to leave. I said, "Well, this is his home. He is my husband and father of my children. He belongs here. If you are uncomfortable with it, that is your issue. But I don't like what you are implying about someone I love so you will be leaving. I made that decision for you." She tried to talk me out of it, but it was to little, too late.

I think this was a perfect response! That was insulting of the woman to imply anything negative about your husband.

[saved4always]

;My husband is not usually here except in the morning when some of the kids are dropped off. None of the parents seem to be bothered with him being here...of course, it is obvious that he is getting ready to leave for work. They know I am happily married and that I have children so it should not be shocking if they see any of them here occassionally. I have 2 teen age sons and no one has blinked an eye when they see them here. After all, this is a home and we are a family so we all live here.

Now, I did have one mom ask one of my references how she felf about my teen age sons being here (they got off school before pick up). My reference gave them glowing reviews so the mom was fine. I never thought about being offended by it. I think mothers of small children don't realize that the stereotype about teens is not always the reality and that many teen age boys are actually good kids (like mine ) .

[youretooloud]

*I* mind if my husband is home.::