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I seriously hate when parents can't make up their own minds, send mixed messages and leave us to clean up the mess! :confused:
I currently have two DCF's, never had more, don't need or really want more since this works for us. I've been open almost 2 years and have had these same families since day 1. BOTH DCF's are expecting (one welcomed their new little one last week!) and both wanted fewer hours - of course! The issue I have is with one family who is p/t, 3 days a week which is my minimum (DCF knows this), but of course they wanted to work out 2 days with me to save them some money. I said I'd need to think on it (I know bad move), since I had already told the other family no to that option and that's when DCM said that either way was fine with them, they would understand and just didn't think they could afford the 3 days with Mom being off and that if I decided no to the 2 days it would be nice for her to have some time with her little guy anyway since he's heading to school in less then 2 years - I'm in Canada, she gets 1 year mat leave, which would bring her a few months from when her son would start school if she kept him home with her. Anyway, today I decided I needed to tell her no, that I won't bend the rules, since I hadn't for the other family and it wasn't fair to them or to my income for that matter. Sooo, when I told her she asked me "so when do you want an answer from us then"!? Ummm....I stood there, not sure what to say since she already said it was 2 days or none, not to mention because of this I have already interviewed another family and have agreed to take them on - contract dropped off today w/deposit!!
Sooo...now what!? I said to her today that I thought she had told me she would be keeping him home if I couldn't do the 2 days and her reponse was that she wanted to discuss it more with her husband. I didn't know what to say!!
I hate being caught in a conversation like that when I thought it was one way and now clearly either they've changed their minds OR I misunderstood....BUT it's too late regardless since I've already signed on another little one...I can't really go back...which was also my mistake I guess!? I've had recent issues with this family also, late pick-ups, dropping off their son ill etc. so I can't say I wasn't a bit relieved when she said she would keep him home if I couldn't do 2 days! 
What would you do? My husband said I just need to tell her sorry, but I need a full-time spot filled and I plan to cut all p/t, but a big part of me feels bad...why do we always feel bad!? :confused:
How do I approach this? They are back on Wednesday...
I currently have two DCF's, never had more, don't need or really want more since this works for us. I've been open almost 2 years and have had these same families since day 1. BOTH DCF's are expecting (one welcomed their new little one last week!) and both wanted fewer hours - of course! The issue I have is with one family who is p/t, 3 days a week which is my minimum (DCF knows this), but of course they wanted to work out 2 days with me to save them some money. I said I'd need to think on it (I know bad move), since I had already told the other family no to that option and that's when DCM said that either way was fine with them, they would understand and just didn't think they could afford the 3 days with Mom being off and that if I decided no to the 2 days it would be nice for her to have some time with her little guy anyway since he's heading to school in less then 2 years - I'm in Canada, she gets 1 year mat leave, which would bring her a few months from when her son would start school if she kept him home with her. Anyway, today I decided I needed to tell her no, that I won't bend the rules, since I hadn't for the other family and it wasn't fair to them or to my income for that matter. Sooo, when I told her she asked me "so when do you want an answer from us then"!? Ummm....I stood there, not sure what to say since she already said it was 2 days or none, not to mention because of this I have already interviewed another family and have agreed to take them on - contract dropped off today w/deposit!!
Sooo...now what!? I said to her today that I thought she had told me she would be keeping him home if I couldn't do the 2 days and her reponse was that she wanted to discuss it more with her husband. I didn't know what to say!!
I hate being caught in a conversation like that when I thought it was one way and now clearly either they've changed their minds OR I misunderstood....BUT it's too late regardless since I've already signed on another little one...I can't really go back...which was also my mistake I guess!? I've had recent issues with this family also, late pick-ups, dropping off their son ill etc. so I can't say I wasn't a bit relieved when she said she would keep him home if I couldn't do 2 days! What would you do? My husband said I just need to tell her sorry, but I need a full-time spot filled and I plan to cut all p/t, but a big part of me feels bad...why do we always feel bad!? :confused:
How do I approach this? They are back on Wednesday...
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