Dear God Just Make It Stop!

[Blackcat31]

Judy: Tommy took my toy!
Me: My name isn't Tommy. Go talk to Tommy.

ad nauseum

Then, later I just say my name isn't Tommy.

I prefer to send them to talk to Tommy because Tommy is the one who is the offender. If we send the tattler to a baby, or the phone, they grow up not learning to stand up for themselves to the Tommy's of the world. They learn instead to gossip.

I disagree with the that because 99.9% of the time they are tattling to have their feelings validated or to just be heard. If they tell the baby, they are venting (validating) their feelings just like we do here.....we vent to someone, instead of telling the offender (DCP's) what our issue is in most cases of simple frustration.

If the situation was one where someone hit or hurt another child then, of course I intervene but if the child is simply tattling for the sake of tattling, they can tell the baby.

My DCK's all speak up to the person they are mad or disagreeing with loooong before they attempt to tattle to me....they tattle because they think they are getting back at the other kid and if they can get the other kid in trouble.... then they feel vindicated, especially if they think I am going to "fix" their issue for them.

If they tell the baby they are learning that tatttling isn't working and they can work it out with the one they are having the issue with.

[SilverSabre25]

I disagree with the that because 99.9% of the time they are tattling to have their feelings validated or to just be heard. If they tell the baby, they are venting (validating) their feelings just like we do here.....we vent to someone, instead of telling the offender (DCP's) what our issue is in most cases of simple frustration.

If the situation was one where someone hit or hurt another child then, of course I intervene but if the child is simply tattling for the sake of tattling, they can tell the baby.

My DCK's all speak up to the person they are mad or disagreeing with loooong before they attempt to tattle to me....they tattle because they think they are getting back at the other kid and if they can get the other kid in trouble.... then they feel vindicated, especially if they think I am going to "fix" their issue for them.

If they tell the baby they are learning that tatttling isn't working and they can work it out with the one they are having the issue with.

I agree--kind of. I think it may be situational. "Tommy took my toy" needs help getting the toy back, and "Tommy looked at me/Tommy dropped a crayon/Tommy is drinking his water like a kitty cat" needs told to the baby

[familyschoolcare]

I agree--kind of. I think it may be situational. "Tommy took my toy" needs help getting the toy back, and "Tommy looked at me/Tommy dropped a crayon/Tommy is drinking his water like a kitty cat" needs told to the baby

Yes, exactly. Also, somewhere around 4/5 years of age children can learn and be taught the difference between tattling (being done because someone should get in

trouble) and Telling (being done because someone is getting hurt or is about to be hurt).

[frugalmama4]

I love all these...I have a 3 1/2yr DCB who tattles for every little thing "I mean good lord does no one talk to this kid at home"? I hate tattling "I don't stand for it with my own children...will not put up with it from DCK's.

I'm totally going to Wal-mart and get Mr. Turtle/and will hand all tattles to my 1yr DCB (we call him the Boss) this kid doesn't but up with anyone's crap... including mine ::::::::::

Love it!

[Bookworm]

I love all these...I have a 3 1/2yr DCB who tattles for every little thing "I mean good lord does no one talk to this kid at home"? I hate tattling "I don't stand for it with my own children...will not put up with it from DCK's.

I'm totally going to Wal-mart and get Mr. Turtle/and will hand all tattles to my 1yr DCB (we call him the Boss) this kid doesn't but up with anyone's crap... including mine ::::::::::

Love it!

You know what Frugalmama4, my biggest tattlers are the biggest attention seekers. Now it all makes sense.

[MissK]

Loving the tattle turtle for the dc kids. I may have to try that..with five 3-5y old girls here there can be lots of tattling.

Now my own kids 7 and 9y old girls. I think maybe a poster of Justin Bieber will work. I'll just tell them 'go tell Justin"...

hahahaha.....YES!