Parents and Set Schedules?

[daycare]

So today the little girl comes and I'm told she will be picked up at 11:30 because they are going out of town and mom was getting off early. This morning when she drops her off, I clarify the time only because 11:30 is always when we are finishing lunch, washing up then laying down. I tell her I can keep the daughter up as long as possible until she gets there.

She txts me and tells me she's going to be a little later. So I say okay. I let the other kids lay down and turn on a movie. The poor child could not keep her eyes open no matter what I did. She woke up just as her mom walked in and was excited to see her. She started yelling (as the other kids are right here sleeping). It was cute and with a smile on my face (because I wasn't being mean at all even though she thinks I was) I place like 3 fingers on her mouth and say "Shhh, inside voice" which is what her grandma always says to her when she yells.

Apparently I was way out of line :shrug And it made her uncomfortable that I "put my hand over her mouth". She made it sound like I was covering her childs mouth so she couldn't breath or was being abusive. I'm completely offended! She took it way out of context. But she didn't say a word until she left my house then text me and said her daughter wouldn't be back and that she wont tolerate that! Um. Okay.

This is probably best any way but I am pretty upset that she would come at me like I did something so damn horrible to her child with her standing right there!!!

Was I out of line?!

I personally would never put my hand over a childs mouth unless they were vomiting and I was trying to stop it from getting on another child. Even then it would not be over there mouth, but you did what you felt was right for you.

Honestly, I think that you should have never allowed for the mom to pick up during your nap time. I don't tolerate it at all. My parents all know that if you are not here by x time then no drop off and there will be no pick up during lunch or nap time. But this works for me.

I agree that it sounds like it will be better with the mom and child out of your care so you don't have to stress about her inconsistency any more. They do sound like they are just going to keep creating chaos for you.

You can be flexible and still enforce your rules, but if you let the parent lead their way, you are never going to be happy....

[mrsking14]

They sound like daycare hoppers to be honest. They had "problems" with their previous provider and now they have "problems" with you. It sounds like they push until they can't get what they want and then move on. Personally, I think you're better off without the drama.

That's what I was thinking. I don't know that they will be happy anywhere.

I'm just a little hurt that she came at me like I hurt her child or would EVER do so!

I filled her spot already with my friends son who will start the first week of March. He will be full time, not to mention I know his mom and I know she won't give me any problems. I'd rather have kids of people I know. It works out so much better. I know the parents of all my kids now!

[mrsking14]

I personally would never put my hand over a childs mouth unless they were vomiting and I was trying to stop it from getting on another child. Even then it would not be over there mouth, but you did what you felt was right for you.

Honestly, I think that you should have never allowed for the mom to pick up during your nap time. I don't tolerate it at all. My parents all know that if you are not here by x time then no drop off and there will be no pick up during lunch or nap time. But this works for me.

I agree that it sounds like it will be better with the mom and child out of your care so you don't have to stress about her inconsistency any more. They do sound like they are just going to keep creating chaos for you.

You can be flexible and still enforce your rules, but if you let the parent lead their way, you are never going to be happy....

I agree. It was an instant reaction from her yelling. But her mother reacted like I placed my entire hand over her childs face and was being mean or forceful which was not the case at all!