Screamer Is Annoying The Other Kids And Parents At Drop Off

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

So I have my little 15 mos screamer, who is getting better BTW. happyface

But when mom drops off he screams bloody murder for an hour.

Anytime someone comes to the house he screams.

While he is doing this, all of my other DCK's are being dropped off, and they either run downstairs (older ones) or the younger ones start to get upset as well.

He screams so loud that me and the parents cant even hear each other, and they seem to be annoyed by that.

Im not sure what to do or say to the other parents.

Any advice would be great please.

[cheerfuldom]

find a safe place to put him and let him cry until you can get the drop offs done and everyone started for the day. Put a pack n play in a room and just put him in there until he figures out that this is not acceptable.

[Heidi]

I agree with Cheerful. Put him in a high chair with safety straps or a playpen (not the one he sleeps in though, you don't want him to confuse bed with punishment, and you are not trying to punish him).

When other kids start to arrive, tell him "I am going to put you in here so that I can help the other children. I will come get you out in a few minutes". Put some toys and cardboard books in there, and walk away.

I would not do this the minute he walks in the door, if possible, give him a minute of your full attention first if possible (maybe you can change his drop off time to 10 minutes earlier until he gets through this stage?)

[MrsB]

I had one like this, but she was my first child in the morning, so mom and I made a plan for me to go out to the car and unbuckle her from the carseat and bring her into the house myself. She was totally taken by surprise because I was going into her world and bringing her into mine, rather than mom abandoning her in my world. After about 2 weeks mom and I started meeting halfway down the walkway for the exchange and always made it very brief. Made sure mom did hugs and kisses when she got out of the car, not right before the hand off. After a week of that mom brought to the door step for the exchange, but never stepped in. After a week of that , mom could come in and drop off with no fuss.

Every techinque doesnt work for every child. But keep trying until something seems to improve, even if it means 30 secs less of screaming each day.

Best of luck!!

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

I have put him in the highchair and he screams even worse to the point he makes himself gag.

I should note that he is a drop off DCB. He is here every 2nd week for 2-3 days in a row.

[nannyde]

straight to bed the minute he walks in the door. He needs a morning nap. He's telling you he hasn't finished his night yet.

[cheerfuldom]

ugghhh....a part timer screamer? sorry OP, you are on your own on this one. He's never going to get used to you with that schedule. I would still put him in a pack n play and let him cry so at least you can get your job done. yeah he is going to freak out but sounds like he is about there anyway.

like nan said, a nap could do the trick but with a part timer, lack of consistency is going to make this a ongoing issue.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

Oh and I forgot to add that he does this when the DCK's leave as well. And when mom comes to get him.

[Meyou]

straight to bed the minute he walks in the door. He needs a morning nap. He's telling you he hasn't finished his night yet.

I totally agree.

[mrsp'slilpeeps]

straight to bed the minute he walks in the door. He needs a morning nap. He's telling you he hasn't finished his night yet.

But what will the other parents think when he is screaming his brains out in my kids room while im down stairs answering the door?

[nannyde]

But what will the other parents think when he is screaming his brains out in my kids room while im down stairs answering the door?

They will think he's tired and he needs a nap.

Whatever they think it won't be worse than them thinking they don't want to listen to him cry during a time of the day when they are paying to have an arrival or departure conference/transfer of the kid.

The crying kid has a right to a calm, safe, low stimulation place when he is overwhelmed or tired. He's telling you he is in over his head. Do what is best for him and give him a place to self settle.

Dark room by himself as far away from arrival and departure as possible so the arrivers and departures don't bother him.

[Heidi]

They will think he's tired and he needs a nap.

Whatever they think it won't be worse than them thinking they don't want to listen to him cry during a time of the day when they are paying to have an arrival or departure conference/transfer of the kid.

The crying kid has a right to a calm, safe, low stimulation place when he is overwhelmed or tired. He's telling you he is in over his head. Do what is best for him and give him a place to self settle.

Dark room by himself as far away from arrival and departure as possible so the arrivers and departures don't bother him.

And you can tell the other parents ahead of time, since he's part time. Of course, you can't mention names... But, let them know you have a plan to handle the situation with a child that has been having a hard time, and they should not worry, he or she will be safe, and you will attend to said child as soon as everyone is settled in. Or something along those lines. I am pretty sure by now they not only know the situation, but also know you are not a person that is going to put all the kids in pnp's and go watch Dr. Phil...