How Has Parenting Changed

[daycare]

oh and the follow through that I see these days STINKS..

for those of you that saw the crazy country DAD shoot his daughters lap top. Well, I do think it was over the top for a city girl like me, but he did what he said he was going to do and he showed his child that he will follow through with his threats...

I have some friends, we love them to death, but they **** as parents. We can't stand their kids, (I know its not nice to say) but we just can't stand to be in the same room as these kids. And the parents always come to me for parenting advice, but when I give it they never follow through with any of it..

Its just easier to shush the kids up with toys, mc donalds, video games, and etc......

I think parents here need to realized that the word NO has not been redefined. IT STILL MEANS NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... ok Im done......

[MamaBear]

OMG maybe we have the same mom...jk

she would tell me very mean words sometimes words that would make me cry much more than the physical abuse. My dads words were also very harsh.

I think we all have the same mom! I still remember that wooden spoon! She painted an evil face on one side and a happy face on the other. It never made sense to me because both sides hurt like h*ll!

Parents today just don't know how to say no and are basically letting the tv raise their kids. They are totally self absorbed and too selfish to spend any time with their own kids. They just keep giving their kids everything they want to make them happy in that way.

I grew up in the 70's & 80's... we played outside all day after school and on weekends... didn't have video games... We would get that toy we really wanted on Christmas or our birthday... not every trip to the store. We'd go camping, ride bikes and play games with our parents. I respected my parents and never questioned them. I didn't feel entitled to anything growing up like a lot of the kids & teenagers do today. Kinda sad how parenting has changed over the years.

[countrymom]

oh and the follow through that I see these days STINKS..

for those of you that saw the crazy country DAD shoot his daughters lap top. Well, I do think it was over the top for a city girl like me, but he did what he said he was going to do and he showed his child that he will follow through with his threats...

I have some friends, we love them to death, but they **** as parents. We can't stand their kids, (I know its not nice to say) but we just can't stand to be in the same room as these kids. And the parents always come to me for parenting advice, but when I give it they never follow through with any of it..

Its just easier to shush the kids up with toys, mc donalds, video games, and etc......

I think parents here need to realized that the word NO has not been redefined. IT STILL MEANS NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... ok Im done......

can you hear me in the store hollering "no" at my kids. One time I saw a women carrying a wooden spoon in the back of her back pack for her kids, I'll never forget that.

[Country Kids]

Kids played outside till the street lamps were on or you heard your mom calling for you.

There was a sit down meal for every dinner.

You knew all your neighbors and they knew you and reported you for any bad behavior.

Kids were potty trained by two and off the bottle or you were considered a slacker parent.

You knew the days of the week because cartoons were only on Saturday mornings.

Kids rode their bikes/walked all over town but parents still knew where they were. You even played by the town river but rarely anyone fell in and drowned.

Kids always had a dime/quarter (depending on the decade) in their shoe so they could use a payphone and call home.

You knew you were in huge, huge trouble when you got home if the parents received a phone call from the principal/teacher.

Everyone was called Mr. and Mrs./Miss


I guess looking at my list what I'm thinking is kids had freedom, ran all over, were actually kids but.........there was no disrespecting mom and dad if you were told no you need to do chores, help the parents, whatever.

Now kids have freedom and there are no guidelines, rules, punishments, etc. They are actually in charge of their own lifes with someone else footing the bill.

[MrsB]

I have a friend who has one son. When we have get togethers and her son would act up (from age 2-5) and she would put him in timeout for acting up. She would sit there with him in time out! Then go on and on trying to reason with him on the incident. Goodluck trying to reason with a 2 year old that is fitting out. She would set the timer for an apporpriate amout of minutes but would start it immediately while he is still fitting out. Then she would let him up if the timer went off even if he was still fitting. Then afterwards, she would say, "I am so sorry mommy got mad at you, but you really need to be a better boy." LOL Although when I was a child I hated the excuse my parents had of "I said so", I use it quite frequently!

[daycare]

can you hear me in the store hollering "no" at my kids. One time I saw a women carrying a wooden spoon in the back of her back pack for her kids, I'll never forget that.

OMG are you serious....backpack spoon.....now thats ********.

Yes I think maybe you guys are right about that we all may have shared that same mom.

My great Uncle had a huge piece of oak wood that he turned into a paddle, which he would use to spank us with, if we got spanked with it we had to write our name on it. It really made us feel shame. A few months ago I had to go home to Egypt and We went to his house for tea. There it was staring me in the face, OMG brought back so many bad memories.

I told him Uncle when you pass this life, I would love if I can have that paddle. I would like to hang it on my wall so that my children can see what type of punishment I got when I was young. It brought tears to my eyes to see it. Of course there were so many names written on it from my siblings and cousins, that you could not count the names anymore.

He told me I can have it, but that now it is only a memory for everyone.

[Country Kids]

I was spanked but probably could count the times on one hand. What was worse than a spanking-the look. My parents could just shoot this LOOK from whereever they were and oh my goodness! It was so, so much worse than a spanking!

[daycare]

I was spanked but probably could count the times on one hand. What was worse than a spanking-the look. My parents could just shoot this LOOK from whereever they were and oh my goodness! It was so, so much worse than a spanking!

hahhah I have a dcg she is now 4, has been with me since she was a few months old...My one and only infant ever.,

When she was 2 she of course went through the terrible twos and I used to have to put her in timeout mat a lot. SO I got sick of it and started this look on my face where I would squint my eyes at her and she would stop dead in her tracks.

so one day her mom is dropping her off and her mom says to me today DCG was crying in the car on the way here saying that she does not want you to look at her....

SO I tell mom why and the mom begs me PLEASE teach me that look... it was so funny..

[MrsB]

I only got spanked a few times and it was when I was very little and dont really remember it that well. But I knew exactly what the boundries were and if I crossed them, a spanking was a REAL possibility.

Other great things that we had to do was a chorelist everyday, without an allowance. Not that I am knocking allowance, but it did help me with a deep sense of family. Each one of us had a sense of responsibility to the family unit and we took great pride in our jobs.

Some of the punishments we had were not abusive in anyway, but I would have gladly traded for spanking.... like cleaning the gutters on an aweful, cold, rainy day or cutting blackberries, weeding every dandelion in the huge lawn. Ugggh

[Bookworm]

When I saw that country video, my thoughts were: when did it become ok for kids to put out such horrible comments to and about their parents for the world to see. When did such blatant disrespect of parents become a right of kids. Who among us would have even had the nerve to just THINK any of the things that she posted.

[kayla]

my biggest erk is when parents give there child something because they didnt want them to cry or throw a fit. Your child already knows he/she controls you, everytime they know if i cry or throw a fit i will get my way. Or also the parents that say" oh johnny please dont do that" who is the parent?!?!? you are not a friend you are the parent if your asking your child to follow the rules they think it is something they decide if they want to or not... people are ridiculous, but i also think alot of it is fear with some people to, like i better not yell at my child in public because i might get cps called on me.

[countrymom]

Kids played outside till the street lamps were on or you heard your mom calling for you.

There was a sit down meal for every dinner.

You knew all your neighbors and they knew you and reported you for any bad behavior.

Kids were potty trained by two and off the bottle or you were considered a slacker parent.

You knew the days of the week because cartoons were only on Saturday mornings.

Kids rode their bikes/walked all over town but parents still knew where they were. You even played by the town river but rarely anyone fell in and drowned.

Kids always had a dime/quarter (depending on the decade) in their shoe so they could use a payphone and call home.

You knew you were in huge, huge trouble when you got home if the parents received a phone call from the principal/teacher.

Everyone was called Mr. and Mrs./Miss


I guess looking at my list what I'm thinking is kids had freedom, ran all over, were actually kids but.........there was no disrespecting mom and dad if you were told no you need to do chores, help the parents, whatever.

Now kids have freedom and there are no guidelines, rules, punishments, etc. They are actually in charge of their own lifes with someone else footing the bill.

I so agree with everything, were you born in the 70's because we did all that as kids.

I must be a bad parent because my children were chasing each other with the shovels while waiting for the bus and I was dying of laughter, now thats funny.

[countrymom]

also I find that parents are either too laxed or bubble wrapping their kids. Now when you go on a sled you need to wear a helmet or parents are hovering over their children.

dh and I raise our children like we were raise, if you fall we tell them "sweep the lick" the ditch is where my kids who sledding (its on our property) they play in the ditch with rubber boots on and pick things out of it. In the summer they come in when the bats come out. they are the craziest kids ever, but thats what they should be doing, being kids and having fun, not watching tv all the time.

[PitterPatter]

I was spanked but probably could count the times on one hand. What was worse than a spanking-the look. My parents could just shoot this LOOK from whereever they were and oh my goodness! It was so, so much worse than a spanking!

PLEASE send me a picture of that look!! I have heard it before and tried so many different ones but the best I ever got was a pause and "what?"

My opinion is I see parents in my area at either end of the spectrum. VERY caring and catering to princess/prince every whim or neglectful and abusive.

[Sprouts]

I did not grow up in the US, in my country of Egypt, it is still much the same as when I was a child. The way children are punished there, people would go to jail here. Both of my parents would have been arrested for child abuse.

The only thing that I have noticed over the time that I have been here for almost 20 years, is that it seems like now parents fear their children.

Everything and anything parents do, I hear that children threaten their paretns with Ill call CPS or I call the cops on you.....

Yes I totally agree...my husband is a PO and he got a call for a "suicidal" 9 YO girl who said she was going to stab herself because her mom wouldn't let her watch t.v this happened today....

I heard yesterday on a documentary that our current culture is the first culture where media, internet and culture are raising the children more then the adults are....how sad

Reason #24 of why I should homeschool my children...