Taking a Family Back... WWYD??

[Heidi]

Your first paragraph describes this family to a T!!!!!! She had to know the consistancy of poops in her 2 year old. Let's put it this way.... even her pediatrician kicked her out of the practice, LOL!!! She'd start most sentences with "I'm not a neurotic mom, but...." Yeah, if you have to start sentences with that chances are you ARE being neurotic.

I always cringe when I hear people say "I love him to death but....."

to death? Isn't that sort of passive/aggressive?:confused:

[Crazy8]

What was their reasoning for leaving in the first place?

How many daycares has their child been enrolled in?

What is their reasoning for wanting to leave their current provider?

I'd take those factors into consideration first. If they were a PITA family, you might want to mention that you've changed a few things since they left including (whatever they did that you didn't like) and see if they are still interested.

I've had a family want to come back and I gladly would have taken them if I had the room. Since they had left, they had another baby and the kids weren't that far apart so they were needing 2 infant spots and I couldn't meet their needs.

They only left when child got older and went to school.... now they have 2 younger ones that mom is home with but will be going back to work in the Fall and they tried to find other care because I said I was full but she keeps asking me to "keep them in mind" and I will have the openings coming up this summer - I'm hoping to fill them this summer and not have to even consider taking them back but its also hard to look $400/week income in the face and turn it away not knowing if I will fill them. I know money isn't everything and they aren't horrible people - just very "high maintenance".

My backbone is pretty good, been doing this a long time - I can't say they really even break any "rules" but they are just so annoying and want every bit of your attention. Can only describe as very needy, high maintenance... thinks their kids are the first to ever experience ANYTHING. And their two little ones both have minor health issues - nothing life threatening that would keep me from taking them but I can see it being a big pain in the rear dealing with them over it!!

[MarinaVanessa]

... had to know every detail about what the kids did each day... down to how many poops were in the kids diaper! Ugh.

I had a mom like this too. Asked me the consistency, color, grain, texture, size, amount, smell :confused: ... it's poop what else is it supposed to smell like? Sometimes I would forget some of the details so she asked me to write it down at every diaper change. I told her that I didn't spend too much time looking at the results of a dirty diaper and that it was too time consuming to write it all down so I saved all of her child's diapers in a plastic bag and gave them to her one day. She looked shocked when I told her that I had saved them so that she could see them for herself because I didn't have the time to be looking at it in detail. Didn't have a problem after that.

[saved4always]

I had a mom like this too. Asked me the consistency, color, grain, texture, size, amount, smell :confused: ... it's poop what else is it supposed to smell like? Sometimes I would forget some of the details so she asked me to write it down at every diaper change. I told her that I didn't spend too much time looking at the results of a dirty diaper and that it was too time consuming to write it all down so I saved all of her child's diapers in a plastic bag and gave them to her one day. She looked shocked when I told her that I had saved them so that she could see them for herself because I didn't have the time to be looking at it in detail. Didn't have a problem after that.

So funny!!!!! ::::::

[cheerfuldom]

omg Marina!!

[mickey2]

No

I don't do sequels.

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That is a real funny and cute way of saying it!


I do not take families back if they leave. I just had one family go who I thought were excellent. I have had them for 3 years! They left because they wanted their son to "learn" more. They removed him from my care to go to a center because it would help him if he "learned more" before going to school in September. My children play all day. That's what children should be doing at 3 1/2 years of age. I am not a teacher I am a caregiver.

Turns out they now want to come back because the boy does not like it. Cries at drop off, is crying at pickup, cries before even leaving the house now. They think it is because there are too many kids there, not enough one on one and the child is shy.

Sorry but no! I was fortunate that I filled the spot with a 9 month old little girl who has at least 3 more years with me but even if I had space I would not take them back. You leave you do not return.

[sassysue]

I had a mom like this too. Asked me the consistency, color, grain, texture, size, amount, smell :confused: ... it's poop what else is it supposed to smell like? Sometimes I would forget some of the details so she asked me to write it down at every diaper change. I told her that I didn't spend too much time looking at the results of a dirty diaper and that it was too time consuming to write it all down so I saved all of her child's diapers in a plastic bag and gave them to her one day. She looked shocked when I told her that I had saved them so that she could see them for herself because I didn't have the time to be looking at it in detail. Didn't have a problem after that.

I had a mother like this too.Only she kept saying I wasn't changing him enough,he kept getting a diaper rash(every monday,hmmmm???) I told her several times,I change him every 1 1/2-2 hours or if he went poo.I saved her ALL his diapers in a garbage pail and gave them to her at the end of the week.I sat them outside and told her she could go through and count if she wanted.She never asked me again.I change your baby lady,don't blame his monday morning diaper rash on me!

[Crazy8]

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That is a real funny and cute way of saying it!


I do not take families back if they leave. I just had one family go who I thought were excellent. I have had them for 3 years! They left because they wanted their son to "learn" more. They removed him from my care to go to a center because it would help him if he "learned more" before going to school in September. My children play all day. That's what children should be doing at 3 1/2 years of age. I am not a teacher I am a caregiver.

Turns out they now want to come back because the boy does not like it. Cries at drop off, is crying at pickup, cries before even leaving the house now. They think it is because there are too many kids there, not enough one on one and the child is shy.

Sorry but no! I was fortunate that I filled the spot with a 9 month old little girl who has at least 3 more years with me but even if I had space I would not take them back. You leave you do not return.

sorry I wasn't real specific in my first post - my user name was the name of my daycare and Michael was kind enough to change it for me because I ran into this "not wanting to say too much" too often. Anyway, it is for the younger siblings of the boy who left - he left on good terms to go to school - I don't fault them for that at all, EVERYONE around here goes to a year of preschool before kindergarten. He will be in Kindy in the fall so he would not come - but has 2 younger siblings now and mom is going to go back to work so they want a home daycare for them - I'd probably have them for a good 3 years or so and then they'd probably go to preschool before kindy too - I don't mind that - I actually find the almost 5's get bored here - I gear my program more towards under 4's.

[momma2girls]

SORRY< I read this wrong!!

[Crazy8]

I have had many school agers over the yrs.
This yr. is the first yr. I don't have any school agers. It is so nice!!
I never charged enough, I always would have them for late starts, early outs, all day, school off, etc.... It was AWFUL!!!! Trying to keep Schoolagers, plus my own quiet so everyone could sleep was a disaster, time after time after time.

??????? I don't take schoolagers, this post isn't about taking schoolagers.... Its about taking a family back, not taking the child back - its the younger siblings of a child I used to watch.

[mickey2]

sorry I wasn't real specific in my first post - my user name was the name of my daycare and Michael was kind enough to change it for me because I ran into this "not wanting to say too much" too often. Anyway, it is for the younger siblings of the boy who left - he left on good terms to go to school - I don't fault them for that at all, EVERYONE around here goes to a year of preschool before kindergarten. He will be in Kindy in the fall so he would not come - but has 2 younger siblings now and mom is going to go back to work so they want a home daycare for them - I'd probably have them for a good 3 years or so and then they'd probably go to preschool before kindy too - I don't mind that - I actually find the almost 5's get bored here - I gear my program more towards under 4's.

If this is the case Yes I would take them back if I had the space. I would not do special though this time around unless you charge more for special. Special takes more time so would cost more $$$$

[bgmeyers]

You might also consider how much YOU have changed. Have you gotten stricter? Do you let people walk all over you?
I would consider taking them back if you feel you can be stronger.
If mom was doing things that irritated, like staying too long at pick up or drop off, just spell it out in your policy book what you expect. Then if she overstays, even once, just remind her of what your policy is and send her out the door.
But if you don't think YOU have changed enough to deal with her, then I'd let them pass.

[momma2girls]

You might also consider how much YOU have changed. Have you gotten stricter? Do you let people walk all over you?
I would consider taking them back if you feel you can be stronger.
If mom was doing things that irritated, like staying too long at pick up or drop off, just spell it out in your policy book what you expect. Then if she overstays, even once, just remind her of what your policy is and send her out the door.
But if you don't think YOU have changed enough to deal with her, then I'd let them pass.

??????? I don't take schoolagers, this post isn't about taking schoolagers.... Its about taking a family back, not taking the child back - its the younger siblings of a child I used to watch.

SORRY, I read this wrong!