DCM Shopping on MY Overtime?

[DBug]

Yeah I totally agree with everyone that what a parent does while their child is here isn't my business. Yesterday the dad of one of my other dc kids went snowboarding, and I was glad that he got the chance to do it. I'm pretty sure that at least one day last month, he spent the entire day at home in bed ... with dcm . Still -- they didn't ask me for overtime to do it.

And too, the last time I did overtime was for the same situation -- dcd is military and was overseas for a couple of weeks for training. Dcm would call me to let me know when she was coming, she would trade duties with coworkers to get out earlier, and she would bring me coffee at pick-up (the Timmies drive-thru is right beside where she works). So I guess I was expecting the same kind of consideration with this current family.

I have really been blessed with some amazing families. It just blows my mind when I run into something different.

[DBug]

Blogged about this here, and what I've learned from this whole situation.

I also thought I'd post the email I sent to dcm, just in case anyone else can use it if they find themselves in a similar situation in the future.

Here's what I sent her:

Hi DCM,

I'm sorry our conversation got cut short this morning -- I prefer not to discuss business with other parents present, and hey, it was getting a little chaotic anyway :-). But I wanted to also let you know that I will only be able to watch DCG til 5:45 next Wednesday. My kids have a thing going on that I need to be at.

I also didn't get a chance to say that I'm only charging overtime on the half-hours that DCG is actually here, so anytime you can pick up early means less $$ out of your pocket :-). I love having DCG here, but we have had to cancel/skip/postpone several evening activities so that she can be here.

Anyway, we can discuss it further this evening if you like. I just wanted to make sure I filled you in (since I tend to be pretty distracted at pick-up time as it is).

Thanks! Have a great day!!

It seems to have worked! DCM picked up a half hour early last night .