Let Karma Handle It?

[youretooloud]

I would confront her on the badmouthing. Tell her you hear she's been talking about you to potential clients, and you'd like to discuss it with her. (it's better if there are other people around.. even your mutual friend) and ask her for the specifics of why she's so convinced you are unsafe.

Remind her that in every. Single. Case in the news recently, the bad things always involve a female daycare provider who either made a forgetful mistake, or completely snapped and killed a child. (obviously statistically there are more female providers, so it's not totally fair...but, say that anyway)

Point out that you have a very good record, and nothing has ever happened, so you are highly offended that she would badmouth you like that KNOWING full well, that nothing bad has ever, or probably will ever happen.

Then remind her that Karma is a cruel B**** and she might be better off trying to say only nice things, because these things always seem to come back to bite the person in the bottom later.

[familyschoolcare]

Would an anonymous letter work? It would state that she have 2 weeks to bring her capacity down, other wise the state would come for an inspection.

Signed,

Concerned Parent
_________________


This way, I don't ruin her business, but at the same time the children will have time to be safe.

If you are not going to sign your name then I would type it up.

[daycare]

correct, so I will give proper notice, and call the state for inspection. in 2 weeks, if she straightened up, all will be well.

Now... typed letter or hand written?

I would not do the letter, just let the authorities handle it...that is what they are there for. If you are already enemies with her and feel there is no way to reconcile, then I would just call and report it.

BUT are you for sure that she is over? How do you know this? Did you see it yourself or did you hear about it? Reason I ask, is that you don't want to report it and end up being wrong. LIC may look at you and say why did you make a false claim??

[countrymom]

I would call her up and confront her. The whole over limit thing is heresay. Did you see her over the limit, are some of them her own children (because I have 9 kids here in the summer and 4 of them are mine, and I have a 10 yr old that doesn't count in my numbers so thats 11 kids kwim) did you see abuse, are the kids coming and going (I have kids like this) unless you see it first hand, I wouldn't cause problems, I know that you have a mutual friend, but why is this friend telling you these things but doesn't want to get involved, too late the minute she told you she got involved.

I would let it be, don't worry karma will get her.

[Blackcat31]

As a mandated reporter, it is your duty and obligation to report anything that impedes the safety of children. If you know for a fact she is over capacity, it needs to be reported.

[MarinaVanessa]

My PO about the over capacity thing is that if i havn't actually seen anything then it's heresay. If your friend has seen a certain amount of kids there then it would be up to that friend to make that call. If it still seriously bothers you because you "suspect" that the other provider could be over capacity then go ahead and make that call. I wouldn't give your name however and I would tell them exactly what happened; your friend told you.

As for the part about how she's bad-mouthing you. That's illegal. This is where I would type up a letter, not for the part about being over capacity. What she is doing is defamation of character and slander. This could ruin your business. It's hard enough as it is for a man in this business and you'd better believe that I'd be all over her like jam on toast with a cease and disist letter. She's looking at a potential lawsuit if what she says causes you to lose potential or current clients. And I agree with the above post, your friend got involved as soon as your friend let you know about these things.

In all honesty I would talk to a lawyer. Maybe get a free consultation to see whether or not you can do something to stop it. And I would make sure that her advertisements weren't direct copies of my advertisements. I've had THAT happen to me.

Good luck.

[icaredaycare]

Thanks again for the replies. I would like to clarify that my friend who is our mutual friend did not discuss anything with me. the information I have been receiving are from clients, who has friends at the other daycare.


originally when i made this post, I was upset about the slandering...as we keep furthing this discussion, I have put away those thoughts, and am now thinking about the children. thank you everyone for clearing that up.


I haven't made a decision yet. As of right now, the majority of the group is saying to report it anonymously. I will sleep on it, and wake up with a clear head.