bit off more than i can chew

[kayla]

Omg. I started a 7 mos old and 7yr old at the beginning of the week. I am starting to think i bit off more than i can chew. The 7 mos old screams constantly, its bad other parents and kids are annoyed by it and nothing helps. Like it sounds as if someone is hurting her or something. And the 7 yr old has very bad adhd. He doesnt listen jumping on the furniture wont stop playing with the baby toys, to the point i feel like he will break them. And he only takes meds on the days he goes to school.. i am so frustrated wanting any tips.... how long do i try it out for?? should i say something to mom about him being on meds even when hes not at school??? Help!!!:confused:

[MrsB]

oh I've been there...

Say something now! If you let it go too long...it will be harder to do later and parents may not be as receptive to it.

[Michelle]

Say something now! If you let it go too long...it will be harder to do later and parents may not be as receptive to it.

all this and the 7 month old is adjusting.
Give the baby a couple weeks to get used to you and the other kids.

[Childminder]

I had the adhd kid and parents were in denial, no meds not even in school. I am a firm believer that diet helps with the hyper active child but if it isn't enforced every day there is only so much a daycare can do. I finally gave a two month warning to the parents, in writing, to get the child help or care would be terminated. They did. He stayed.

As far as the screamer, some kids need more transition time than other and he will probably become the most pleasant child in a couple of months, if, you can hang in there. Try relaxation music softly in the background, it'll probably help all three of you.

[Blackcat31]

You need to have a conversation about behaviors and expectations with the parents. How do the children behave at home? How do the parents discipline them? What do the parents view as acceptable behaviors and not acceptable? Is the baby held all day? Does he cry at home like he is at daycare?

I think you need to have a plan of how you are working WITH the parent in regards to these kids. If they do things vastly different than you, it is a good indicator that nothing is going to change and you will be fighting this battle forever.

Of course, the parents could be willing to work with you and change the behaviors, but if that is the case, then you both have your work cut out for you and will need to be honest and supportive of each other or again, nothing will change and you will be crazy before too long....