Rad?

[countrymom]

It's almost like he has severe seperation anxiety that he never gets over. It's so bizarre!

I wonder if the little girl I watch has something like this. I mean, now when she leaves my house she is crying and clinging on to me, like its torture for her to go home. She hates everyone that comes to the house, I can't hold another child because she is hysterical and she is going to be 1 this week. I just have this odd feeling with this family that things just don't click. At first she didn't want me to put her down but I think she had anxiety that I would leave. She never cries at drop of when mom drops off. My sister has made comments that the baby thinks I'm her mom, its wierd. And only time will tell.

[countrymom]

I do need to start observing and documenting! I don't know why I havent done that. Hellloooo! Thank you for that kick in the pants.
I think he and I are bonded. That's one of my strengths. He never cries at drop off and he often cries when mom picks him up. I have NO reason to suspect abuse and only jumped to "rad" because it came up as I was googling issues with attachment, because that just seems to maybe be the issue. Like, no matter what, he's insecure. I walk out of the room for a minute and he's screaming and banging his head on the door!! Not ALWAYS, but often.
I have no desire to drop him, but it's so very hard to talk to parents about these things! I am definitely going to do some intense documenting for a couple of weeks, though. See if I can see any patterns of behaviors.
He does seem to get over stimulated easily, but he doesn't like to be by himself. He'll go in to these fits where he wants to be held, but then I hold him and he cries to be let go.
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omg, thats the little girl I have, except she is almost 1 and we have bonded.

[Michelle]

Children being very attached to their provider does not mean they may have RAD. It just means they love you and spend a lot of time with you. They probably don't get a lot of attention from home and they have really attached themselves to you.
RAD is the extreme opposite, they may want to go with perfect strangers but it is all just talk.They act like they totally love you but they are acting that was to get something out of it. They will look you straight in the eye and say they want you to be their mom but will say this to the mail lady too that they just met that day. I know this sounds harsh but I lived it.
I tried to explain just basic care of a child to his mother and she stared at me blank like I was talking a different language. I never saw the parents hug or kiss their child, just "get in the car"

The little boy I had was a very extreme case and he was bounced around from foster homes to relatives his whole life. So, be careful and do a lot of research on this.

[Mom2Five+]

I adopted a little girl who has RAD. She came to me at 18 months and was in therapy from that time until now. It is a very HARD thing to deal with. She will be 14 this year and she has lied on us to the point of CPS coming to our home to investigate. Everything was unfounded both times thank God. They are very manipulative even at young ages. There is now a letter that we have from the social service office with the name and number to contact just in case something else comes up they know about our case. She actually told the social worker she lied because she wanted me to go to jail so she could stay with her dad only and he would let her do whatever she wants. I would just observe and document and then take it to mom. No one wants to think something is wrong with their child but if there is getting them help early sometimes makes a big difference.

I wish you luck and pray its not RAD, but if it is think really hard about if you can handle the extra work and also the number of kids you take care of because they do require A LOT of time.

[Countrygal]

I am raising my grandson, and RAD is a very common term you hear discussed and diagnosed among grandparents raising grandchildren.

I discussed it in length with a person our grandparent's group had in, and here are a few things I learned.

They feel now that RAD happens in ANY child that is removed from his/her parents, even at a VERY early age.

There are HUGE varying degrees of RAD - everything from extreme clinginess and insecurity to horrible outplaying of feelings.

It is not something easily diagnosed, as it is a disorder that is based on signs and symptoms. Funny, though. I always thought the precipitation point had to be not attaching to the parent or parents at birth. Does the baby seem to respond well to his own family??

I don't know much more about it than what some of the grandparents have gone through. I think my gs somewhat bonded with me long before the transition which occurred at 6 mos and that that made the transition MUCH easier.

A child can bond with more than one or two people. They don't know how to count. If you have fed and nurtured this child since birth, I think there's a pretty good assurance he has bonded with you - whether that helps your question or not,........