OMG... This Is Freaky!

[saved4always]

FIRST: Please read above. I DID call her back today. Her voicemail answered and I informed her that I couldn't help her. I do usually try to make time for my business --- I might not have been so good at it lately since my life is a little crazy right now.

Walk a day in my shoes and you would know. When your worried about your husband every second of the day whiles he's Afghanistan and trying to take care of your own 5 year old, 10 year old and teenager AND trying to maintain the daycare kids and their needy parents and all else that life entails... then see how much time you have left to return phone calls or sometimes even care to return phone calls.

Also when its someone is calling me about daycare, who I've met with in the past and they flaked on me just a day before they were contracted to start - I don't feel like I owe her a thing!!!! She literally was signed up to start with me 5 years ago and flaked via a message. So I should run to answer her now? Um no. I'm not a Walmart or a Target... I'm a daycare and if I'm not advertising spaces and trying to get more kids right now, then I don't feel I need to call anyone back if I don't want to. Sorry to "blunt or rude" but theres my response.

Totally hear you on this! You have alot on your plate right now. If I had all this going on (esp. your husband in Afghanistan!!!), returning someone like this's call would not be on my priority list either! Nor would I be answering the door if a crazy lady is knocking on it. I have a "no soliciting" sign on my door...would an unsolicited daycare parent be considered soliciting?

I'll be praying that your husband returns safely!

[daycare]

FIRST: Please read above. I DID call her back today. Her voicemail answered and I informed her that I couldn't help her. I do usually try to make time for my business --- I might not have been so good at it lately since my life is a little crazy right now.

Walk a day in my shoes and you would know. When your worried about your husband every second of the day whiles he's Afghanistan and trying to take care of your own 5 year old, 10 year old and teenager AND trying to maintain the daycare kids and their needy parents and all else that life entails... then see how much time you have left to return phone calls or sometimes even care to return phone calls.

Also when its someone is calling me about daycare, who I've met with in the past and they flaked on me just a day before they were contracted to start - I don't feel like I owe her a thing!!!! She literally was signed up to start with me 5 years ago and flaked via a message. So I should run to answer her now? Um no. I'm not a Walmart or a Target... I'm a daycare and if I'm not advertising spaces and trying to get more kids right now, then I don't feel I need to call anyone back if I don't want to. Sorry to "blunt or rude" but theres my response.

i dont see it as blunt or rude, and it is ok that we handle our businesses differently. I just dont think that by ignoring a problem will make it go away. I just would have handled it differently and it does not make you wrong.

I hope that you are able to resolve the matter and I do hope that she gets the clue.

Sorry to hear that your husband is in this situation.

My mom and dad live in Egypt and does the rest of my family and I cry every night about their safety, so I can relate. And this has gone on for many many years.... no greater fear than the fear of the unknown and I hate not knowing each day if my family is ok or not. But I chose to move away from them, so I have to live with the choice I made.....

[MamaBear]

Totally hear you on this! You have alot on your plate right now. If I had all this going on (esp. your husband in Afghanistan!!!), returning someone like this's call would not be on my priority list either! Nor would I be answering the door if a crazy lady is knocking on it. I have a "no soliciting" sign on my door...would an unsolicited daycare parent be considered soliciting?

I'll be praying that your husband returns safely!

Thank you Saved4Always I appreciate your kind words! Yeah I have a 'no soliciting' sign on my door too. I guess she didn't consider herself a solicitor though! haha. Thank you again lovethis

[greenhouse]

This would freak me out too, I might have called the police if she showed up at the house. You don't owe her anything and her calls are becoming borderline harrasment. I hate having my home and # public knowledge. Eeessh.

[MamaBear]

Greenhouse - Thank you!! I was thinking the same thing when she kept ringing the bell. It was really a crazed type of ringing. And when I looked out the peep hole and saw her ear against my door, that really freaked me out. I'm also on high alert all the time now with my husband not here so theres no way in hell I would open the door. I had that thought flash in my mind to call the police if she didn't give up at the door.

[cheerfuldom]

The situation was totally understandable (on the OP's end). We are humans...not robots that can remember everything, respond quickly and always appropriately. sheeshh....only love coming from me OP. hope this crazy goes away for good. sometimes saying yes but really saying no is just annoying. how bout a big fat NO from the beginning?

[smb757]

FYI - in my county, if someone owns their own home, I can search for them on the county assessor's web site.

[saved4always]

Thank you Saved4Always I appreciate your kind words! Yeah I have a 'no soliciting' sign on my door too. I guess she didn't consider herself a solicitor though! haha. Thank you again lovethis

You are welcome.

I am sure that she didn't consider herself a solicitor. More of a nuisiance, I guess...!

[Michelle]

This is my no solicitor sign!
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[MamaBear]

HaHaHa! I love it!

Mine says this:

"NO SOLICITORS! IF I DON'T KNOW YOU, THEN GO AWAY!"

I know... not very 'friendly', but it usually works Not yesterday... but usually!

[MarinaVanessa]

HaHaHa! I love it!

Mine says this:

"NO SOLICITORS! IF I DON'T KNOW YOU, THEN GO AWAY!"

I know... not very 'friendly', but it usually works Not yesterday... but usually!

Okay see, that just plain scary. If your sign literally says that and she STILL knocked on the door then that pretty much says that she really 'won't get it'.

Any updates btw? Did you decide to call her afterall or just leave it at that? I do suggest that you at least report it to licensing, just in case.

[safechner]

I don't know what is your problem. I feel so sorry for this lady who is trying to find out what was going on with you. I can understand his son is the worst but she didn't do anything to you.

Why can't you answer the door and tell her how you feel? She rang the bells a few times because she can hear you in the house. Tell her the truth why you are avoid her. It may be hurting her feelings about that but you and this lady can move on.

[MamaBear]

Okay see, that just plain scary. If your sign literally says that and she STILL knocked on the door then that pretty much says that she really 'won't get it'.

Any updates btw? Did you decide to call her afterall or just leave it at that? I do suggest that you at least report it to licensing, just in case.

I did call her yesterday right after she came ringing my bell. It was her voicemail, but said I just couldn't help her with her daycare needs and good luck with her search, etc. Im thinking its done.

[MamaBear]

I don't know what is your problem. I feel so sorry for this lady who is trying to find out what was going on with you. I can understand his son is the worst but she didn't do anything to you.

Why can't you answer the door and tell her how you feel? She rang the bells a few times because she can hear you in the house. Tell her the truth why you are avoid her. It may be hurting her feelings about that but you and this lady can move on.

Well If you read my whole post you'd read that she was all signed up to start bringing her son to my daycare several years ago and the day before he was supposed to start she cancels. So thats the main reason why I chose to ignore this lady from day one. I don't forget a flaky parent - don't care how long ago it was.

And why can't I answer the door??? REALLY???? I should just answer the door when I have other children here to protect? What if she was really angry and wanted to yell at me? What if she wanted to harm me? Or harm the kids? I don't know what she wanted or what her intentions were! If you just let anyone in your door that knocks, then thats pretty crazy.

She was never given my address by me or invited. She is basically a stranger and I don't allow strangers in my home... especially when daycare children are here. She obviously was crazy ringing the bell as many times as she did. She didn't hear anything in here because one was napping & the other were eating breakfast in the other side of the house. It was extremely quiet. She was just nuts and wanted me to open the door.

[safechner]

Well If you read my whole post you'd read that she was all signed up to start bringing her son to my daycare several years ago and the day before he was supposed to start she cancels. So thats the main reason why I chose to ignore this lady from day one. I don't forget a flaky parent - don't care how long ago it was.

And why can't I answer the door??? REALLY???? I should just answer the door when I have other children here to protect? What if she was really angry and wanted to yell at me? What if she wanted to harm me? Or harm the kids? I don't know what she wanted or what her intentions were! If you just let anyone in your door that knocks, then thats pretty crazy.

She was never given my address by me or invited. She is basically a stranger and I don't allow strangers in my home... especially when daycare children are here. She obviously was crazy ringing the bell as many times as she did. She didn't hear anything in here because one was napping & the other were eating breakfast in the other side of the house. It was extremely quiet. She was just nuts and wanted me to open the door.

Yes, I have read your post twice but all you need to tell her that you are not able to help her out and tell her the truth why you feel that you are not working with her again. I am pretty sure she will understand then she can move on to find somewhere else.

Yes, you should answer the door to go out side and closed to protect the kids and you are sorry that you haven't called her back because you forgot about it. She asked anything and tell her that you are not willing to work with her or whatever your reason, then she will leave you alone. Sometime you will need to stand up to tell her. However, I do not let anyone come in my house but I answer the door and go outside and closed the door to see what they want. I had a few parents yelled at me outside of my door and I really dont care about it and I just simple tell them I am sorry if you feel that way and go back in the house and lock it.

She may be stranger but you met her once about 6 years ago. I am sure that she is trying to find out why you haven't returned her call and she may feel something wrong that you are trying to avoid her or something like that. If I were in your shoes, I would call her back in the first place and tell her how you feel. She will move on and find somewhere else but you choose not to call her back and deleted her messages. She can get your address from your licencing or your licencing website that parents can get the address and phone numbers on the list from website.