I have gone from a sweet and gentle push over to getting my backbone, now having to be rude. I don't like what I am turning into but what can I do?
DCM has really been working my nerves as much as she possibly can. It's like she wants termed! She breaks policy blatantly. Small things but over and over. I would term but I will lose my home. This is my only income so term isnt an option right now.
Biggest prob I can't get solved :
DCM has been told many many times not to arrive early I will not let her in and I have to take my child to school anyway. So she has been coming earlier and earlier. I stopped allowing her to sign in early and dragging her kids to school with me over a month ago. Then I had to tell her if she arrives early she will have to sit in her car. Kids were freezing while she waited 15 mins on my porch for me to get home. Also after she allowed the kids to destroy property while waiting on my porch. I have told her many many times just come on time as we agreed in the contract and we wont have problems like her waiting. She always giggles and says she doesn't mind.
FINE!
So yesterday they are 20 minutes early!! I hear the car pull up we are about to leave for school. Next HOOOOOONK HONK HONK HOOOOOOOOOOONK! She's laying on the damn horn!
I go out mad as hell! She sees my face and just as I am about to say something she laughs and says "it's Cindys (dcg) fault she's blowing the horn not me hee hee" I tell her I will be back and I walk away.
I get back 10 mis later and she gets out of the car and brings the kids in. "Umm it's still early" I say... She says "yeah I know but I have to get to work so I'm bringing them early". I tell her we agreed on the time... She says she has to be early today. I let that go and she stands in my hall for 15 minutes complaining about her DHHS caseworker! WTH??? I tell her "you better go I thought you had to be early today". She says "oh they can wait".
I tell her we have to stay on schedule then she reminds me she's early so we have a few minutes
Please don't be early tomorrow!
This morning we are getting ready again and I am trying to rush my poor child every morning now because when she pulls up it just sets me of on the wrong foot. I don't know why but it does and I hate it! So we are rushing and then I hear it, her car pulls up! Now she is 25 mins early!!
Next HOOOOOOOOOONK HONK HONK HONK HOOOOOOOOOOONK!


She's laying on the damn horn again! I go out and yell "PLEASE STOP THAT"! She laughs again and says Cindy did it not me. I go back in the house angry now, slamming my door. Get my child and go out to leave. DCM is getting out! I said "oh no you are 25 minutes early no more early drop offs and I mean it! We agreed upon a time you need to stick to it!" She loks shocked and says "that's fine I don't mind waiting in the car everyday I would rather be early, go ahead we will wait, no problem".
IT IS a problem for me!! I then am so angry I am harsh with my own child on the walk to school. 
AGAIN when I get home I have to listen to her vent about the govt owing her blah blah. She can't pay me because they didn't pay her blah blah. She stands with her hands in her pockets leaning on my wall as her children try to undress themselves I am sooo sick of this routine! She could at least help us with coats and shoes etc! I am not a shrink or the complaint department and I told her that today. I told her if she has such a problem she should complain to someone else besides me. That set her off for a whole other "OH I did... I called the state they owe us we are low income blah blah". I told her "we have to go get breakfast I will see you at pick up." DCG opens the door for her to leave I ignore her and push the kids over telling them to tell Mommy bye. She pushes the door shut out of DCGs hands again and ignores her kids hugging her so she can continue to vent.


I am trying so hard to get new kids in here. I spent $50 on an ad in the paper but only got calls for an infant and an evening shift. I don't take infants and I don't work evenings So I am stuck. I hung ads in the library and they took them down saying I am not allowed to do that. My ads on the pole by the grocery store got wet and ran. I am trying so hard to replace DCM but in the meantime I am afraid I am going to snap and tell her off then I will be the 1 in trouble because she will report me like she does her caseworker all the time.
I have sat and racked my brain trying to think of why she continues to purposly make me mad. I think she wants me to term her so she doesnt have to work. If she quits it's her fault, if she can't work because I term her and she doesn't have a provider, my fault she will say.
How do I keep my sanity? I have told her flat out she has to go and she still stands there venting. I can't push her so what next?
DCM has really been working my nerves as much as she possibly can. It's like she wants termed! She breaks policy blatantly. Small things but over and over. I would term but I will lose my home. This is my only income so term isnt an option right now.
Biggest prob I can't get solved :
DCM has been told many many times not to arrive early I will not let her in and I have to take my child to school anyway. So she has been coming earlier and earlier. I stopped allowing her to sign in early and dragging her kids to school with me over a month ago. Then I had to tell her if she arrives early she will have to sit in her car. Kids were freezing while she waited 15 mins on my porch for me to get home. Also after she allowed the kids to destroy property while waiting on my porch. I have told her many many times just come on time as we agreed in the contract and we wont have problems like her waiting. She always giggles and says she doesn't mind.

So yesterday they are 20 minutes early!! I hear the car pull up we are about to leave for school. Next HOOOOOONK HONK HONK HOOOOOOOOOOONK! She's laying on the damn horn!

I get back 10 mis later and she gets out of the car and brings the kids in. "Umm it's still early" I say... She says "yeah I know but I have to get to work so I'm bringing them early". I tell her we agreed on the time... She says she has to be early today. I let that go and she stands in my hall for 15 minutes complaining about her DHHS caseworker! WTH??? I tell her "you better go I thought you had to be early today". She says "oh they can wait".


This morning we are getting ready again and I am trying to rush my poor child every morning now because when she pulls up it just sets me of on the wrong foot. I don't know why but it does and I hate it! So we are rushing and then I hear it, her car pulls up! Now she is 25 mins early!!
Next HOOOOOOOOOONK HONK HONK HONK HOOOOOOOOOOONK!





AGAIN when I get home I have to listen to her vent about the govt owing her blah blah. She can't pay me because they didn't pay her blah blah. She stands with her hands in her pockets leaning on my wall as her children try to undress themselves I am sooo sick of this routine! She could at least help us with coats and shoes etc! I am not a shrink or the complaint department and I told her that today. I told her if she has such a problem she should complain to someone else besides me. That set her off for a whole other "OH I did... I called the state they owe us we are low income blah blah". I told her "we have to go get breakfast I will see you at pick up." DCG opens the door for her to leave I ignore her and push the kids over telling them to tell Mommy bye. She pushes the door shut out of DCGs hands again and ignores her kids hugging her so she can continue to vent.



I am trying so hard to get new kids in here. I spent $50 on an ad in the paper but only got calls for an infant and an evening shift. I don't take infants and I don't work evenings So I am stuck. I hung ads in the library and they took them down saying I am not allowed to do that. My ads on the pole by the grocery store got wet and ran. I am trying so hard to replace DCM but in the meantime I am afraid I am going to snap and tell her off then I will be the 1 in trouble because she will report me like she does her caseworker all the time.
I have sat and racked my brain trying to think of why she continues to purposly make me mad. I think she wants me to term her so she doesnt have to work. If she quits it's her fault, if she can't work because I term her and she doesn't have a provider, my fault she will say.
How do I keep my sanity? I have told her flat out she has to go and she still stands there venting. I can't push her so what next?
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