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I borrowed someones backbone,..not sure whose,.... thanks, can I keep it until monday?
I know better,.. Ive done this for over 21 years,.. I know better. but,...
I have a parent who Ive allowed to take advantage of me,... she is behind 480 bucks,..
she kept him home this week as her yearly free vacation week because she cant pay.
she wrote me a check friday,for 100 and said the following friday she would pay me the balance on her account . she asked me to keep check until monday because her check was deposited after 4pm. I understand that,.. my bank has the same policy. but monday morning she sent me a text (I was in indy with husband for spine surgery and she knew I wouldnt be going to the bank.) the text said that her deposit was showing in her account but not cleared yet. And mine has done that too,.. so can I hold it until she lets me know it is clear,..
I was in indy, my husband was in surgery for a life altering operation, and I didnt really think about it so said,.. yes.
well today she calls,.. says,.. hey can I just pay you cash today and take that check back? I said sure,.. I was sending son to the bank at 2 and needed the money for my house payment. So she says,..
so you want me to come over today and give you cash for the check right?
(she was ASTONISHED, normally I would say just bring it tomorrow, but Im tired of being lied to, Ive already worked the hours, and I deserve to be paid)
I said yes,...that I would put it in the bank as soon as she got here. then I ask about the rest of the amount. She says she will be paying me cash for 200 of it friday but wont get off work until 6 and so she can be here by 7 with it.
Normally I would have said,.. oh just wait until monday to pay me all of it , then monday she would come in with partial payment,... like 60 bucks. and some lame excuse,...
I would let it go because Hey,.. Im miss Jill,.. Im the nice one.
but I said,.. "thats fine, bring me the 100 now, then 200 tomorrow after work. We arent doing anything but healing from surgery. "
she was in shock,.I actually said bring it to me now,.. not hey its ok, next week is fine. first time ever I havent caved in to her. Its my fault for not being firm. My contract states pay in full prior to care but he is so sweet,.... I love him. thats my weakness. . do I think she will show up? NO. Do I think she has any hope of getting caught up? NO. Do I think Im ever going to be paid in full,.. not for several months until she gets scared and asks her mom to. But,.... Am I going to text her at 215 if she hasnt shown up,.. yes,.... and again at 330.
Then tomorrow morning Im reminding her to bring cash. early so it credits my account before the cutoff. Then going to require a payment monday morning at dropoff.
Because while I talk a tough game, these little monkeys just crawl into my heart and I cant bear to think of them in the care of someone who will tv and crate them for the day. so I have allowed her to bring him. if he isnt here his uncle keeps him. He stays in a pack and play and watches cartoons, and eats mcdonalds. ugh.
so I guess Im keeping the backbone and focusing on talking to her about money every chance I get until I get her caught up, and paid in advance. Hope noone here needs it.
I know better,.. Ive done this for over 21 years,.. I know better. but,...
I have a parent who Ive allowed to take advantage of me,... she is behind 480 bucks,..
she kept him home this week as her yearly free vacation week because she cant pay.
she wrote me a check friday,for 100 and said the following friday she would pay me the balance on her account . she asked me to keep check until monday because her check was deposited after 4pm. I understand that,.. my bank has the same policy. but monday morning she sent me a text (I was in indy with husband for spine surgery and she knew I wouldnt be going to the bank.) the text said that her deposit was showing in her account but not cleared yet. And mine has done that too,.. so can I hold it until she lets me know it is clear,..
I was in indy, my husband was in surgery for a life altering operation, and I didnt really think about it so said,.. yes.
well today she calls,.. says,.. hey can I just pay you cash today and take that check back? I said sure,.. I was sending son to the bank at 2 and needed the money for my house payment. So she says,..
so you want me to come over today and give you cash for the check right?
(she was ASTONISHED, normally I would say just bring it tomorrow, but Im tired of being lied to, Ive already worked the hours, and I deserve to be paid)
I said yes,...that I would put it in the bank as soon as she got here. then I ask about the rest of the amount. She says she will be paying me cash for 200 of it friday but wont get off work until 6 and so she can be here by 7 with it.
Normally I would have said,.. oh just wait until monday to pay me all of it , then monday she would come in with partial payment,... like 60 bucks. and some lame excuse,...
I would let it go because Hey,.. Im miss Jill,.. Im the nice one.
but I said,.. "thats fine, bring me the 100 now, then 200 tomorrow after work. We arent doing anything but healing from surgery. "
she was in shock,.I actually said bring it to me now,.. not hey its ok, next week is fine. first time ever I havent caved in to her. Its my fault for not being firm. My contract states pay in full prior to care but he is so sweet,.... I love him. thats my weakness. . do I think she will show up? NO. Do I think she has any hope of getting caught up? NO. Do I think Im ever going to be paid in full,.. not for several months until she gets scared and asks her mom to. But,.... Am I going to text her at 215 if she hasnt shown up,.. yes,.... and again at 330.
Then tomorrow morning Im reminding her to bring cash. early so it credits my account before the cutoff. Then going to require a payment monday morning at dropoff.
Because while I talk a tough game, these little monkeys just crawl into my heart and I cant bear to think of them in the care of someone who will tv and crate them for the day. so I have allowed her to bring him. if he isnt here his uncle keeps him. He stays in a pack and play and watches cartoons, and eats mcdonalds. ugh.
so I guess Im keeping the backbone and focusing on talking to her about money every chance I get until I get her caught up, and paid in advance. Hope noone here needs it.
. I might bite! 
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