She Didn't Even Take Him To The Doctor!!!

[tbutler]

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."

Good for you.

[Oneluckymom]

What the He!! I just can't believe it!! She obviously doesn't believe what you told her and thinks you're over reacting. These people always learn things the hard way...only this could be at the expense of her children. Sad . Good for you though for letting them go!

[MissAnn]

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."

Keep us updated! Did she call?

[Countrygal]

I think you made the right decision!

[Cat Herder]

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."

I think you did the right thing....

Sorry this happened to you.

You may want to call your CCR&R and ask their recomendations on proceeding further.

[saved4always]

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."

Maybe you can send her a certified letter or something, too. Just to make it's "official". I agree with the poster who said the trust is broken. You are doing the right thing terming. You would never be able to trust anything she told you. And bad-mouthing you when you did nothing but take good care of her child is awful....if that is her reaction when you do something good, what would her reaction be to an actual disagreement?

[MommyofThree]

Call CPS now!!!!!! This breaks my heart!!!!!! If I got a call I would tell her to
Call 911 and meet at hospitL because there's not much I could do but take him myself and if he did it again in my car we might not make it to hospital by then. At least the ambulance can sped to get my child the medical care they needed I hate that my and breaks my heart!!!!!! I'd call CPS

[godiva83]

Heart breaking - I have a Mum exactly like this!
Her son had sever pneumonia and ended up just whistling to breath.... Not as bad as stopping. She continued to say oh he is fine he is just conjested. Well, my DH piped in and said he gets calls for less than that - and we will be calling 911 if it happens again.
I forced them to go to ER and return with a note

[joysjustlikehome]

You did the right thing! That poor little child - I would call CPS too - he needs to be seen by a doctor. Unbelievable parenting. ~Joy

[nannyde]

SAHM

Have you considered that this has happened to her before with the baby? Most likely on a number of occassions? I think he has a condition she has hidden from you. I think she has had numerous times when he has done this and he turned out fine so it doesn't phase her. She most likely spent hours in the ER or docs office just to have them give the kid a breathing treatment and they tell her to come back tomorrow.

What age did you get this kid?

[Blackcat31]

You definitely did the right thing by terming them immediately. If you cannot trust a parent to do what is right by their child when it comes to life/death situations then I would not want any part of it.

I absolutely would call child protective services and let them know what happened and what your concerns are in reference to the mom's odd behavior after the fact.

Have you tried speaking with the father at all?

[Unregistered]

let the stone throwing begin, but i think calling CPS is a little over the top!

[cheerfuldom]

my friend had this exact thing happen to her but in her case, she did call 911. the mom never came, spoke to the EMTs over the phone and wanted her daughter left at daycare!

I agree with nanny....this has probably happened to mom before. It had happened to this other child that I just mentioned but that mom never told the provider (probably assuming that no one would take her child in daycare if they did know).

In that case, it was related to severe allergies that did not react till later, versus the usual immediate reactions.

My friend did the same thing and refused to care for this child again. Can you imagine how awful it would have been if this child did not make it thru? You did the right thing but I would follow up with a certified termination letter outlining what will be done with her childs belongings....dont wait around for her to do anything and drag this out longer. you tell her what is going to happen. I would just mail everything with delivery confirmation.

[momma2girls]

So what ended up happening? Did she call you back?

[Christian Mother]

Sounds like the mom doesnt believe you, or thinks you are being over dramatic. She probably thinks you just didnt want him for the day.
So sad that she would put her own petty thoughts over the care of her child.

Definately dont accept him back without a drs note. Its a huge liability for you. Document everything, and if she doenst like what you require, then too bad, she can find care somewhere else.

If she treats you like this for caring about her childs well being, how will she treat you in other situations. Its disrespectful to you and your program.

I completely agree with this...I also agree with Nan on that I believe this is nothing new for mom and dad...they've experienced this before. Extremely sad! I have a family in my care that are pron to bad allergies and I have their 2 month in my care. That is my fear...it hasn't happened to me but I know that if it did mom and dad would not waist a single moment getting to him...they've been trying for a yr for this baby.

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."

Good for you for taking control and nipping it in the bud now. I like to do things face to face but if you can't get them to respond or even to answer calls at least this you know is getting through to them. Make sure you send a certified letter also for your records and call your licensor.