She Didn't Even Take Him To The Doctor!!!

[sahm2three]

I finally heard from the mom of the baby who stopped breathing at my daycare yesterday. She decided she would "just wait and see how he did today and maybe take him tomorrow but he is doing great now" so I assume that to mean that she doesn't plan on taking her child to the doctor. HER SON STRUGGLED TO BREATH!!! HE WAS TURNING BLUE!!!! He looked at me with such a fright in his eyes. It breaks my heart and haunts me still, I was doing everything I could for him. I see it all in slow motion. So why am I more upset and alarmed than she is?! I am heartbroken for the little guy. I want to smack some sense into her. I don't even know what to say, other than you are released of your contract.

[SilverSabre25]

((HUGS)) I'm sorry that mom is being so irresponsible! I'm not at all the type to just run to the doctor for every little sniffle and cough, but that definitely warrants a doctor's trip even to me!

[Daycaremomof2]

Uhhh, kids don't stop breating and turn blue for no reason. Could that be considered neglect/child endangerment?

I guess the lesson learned would be to call 911 immediately and let them deal with the parents. I feel sad for that poor child.

[Ariana]

This is definately a lesson learned. Call 911 because you really can't count on parents to do the right thing

She's a loser....

[Heidi]

Put it behind you , Sahm. You are a loving, caring person, and I know it's hard, but it's a situation you cannot control.

[laundrymom]

Oh my. I'm in utter shock.

[Sunshine44]

Why don't you refuse to take him back into care until she has a doctors note? Sounds like too much liability for you! What if its somethign serious and he does it again?? or worse??

[Kaddidle Care]

I would seriously consider reporting her to CPS. Write it all down - think on it for a day and then do what you need to do.

Do NOT accept that child back into your care without a Dr.'s Note.

[cheerfuldom]

I would refuse he come back until he was taken to the doctor.

[momma2girls]

I am with others on here. I am a nurse and there could be something very seriously wrong with the child. It would be way too much responsibility on my part, if this was to ever happen again!!!

[Countrygal]

I agree, I wouldn't take him back without a doctor's OK.

What can that mother possibly be thinking???

[meganlavonnesmommy]

Sounds like the mom doesnt believe you, or thinks you are being over dramatic. She probably thinks you just didnt want him for the day.
So sad that she would put her own petty thoughts over the care of her child.

Definately dont accept him back without a drs note. Its a huge liability for you. Document everything, and if she doenst like what you require, then too bad, she can find care somewhere else.

If she treats you like this for caring about her childs well being, how will she treat you in other situations. Its disrespectful to you and your program.

[Crystal]

Oh, my. I am sorry you are going through this. But, you can and will get through it.

I would be calling CPS tomorrow morning.

[Solandia]

Jeez, louise. ITA with the others, I wouldn't be caring for him without a doctors clearance with a normal family....but, I wouldn't even bother offering that up to this one. I would just say that I can no longer care for the child. The trust is completely shattered.

I would not trust that mom to actually go to the doctor and get a note about this specific issue, rather go get a note w/o telling the doc what happened. no bueno. And to be completely honest, I doubt anything this parent would do would be good enough for me for quite some time, just because she would be on my poopy list. It is an emotional flaw of mine.

[sahm2three]

I will no longer be caring for these children. I cannot trust the mom. Not even for a second. She will not talk to me other than thru texting, so I sent her this message: "What happened yesterday was serious. I almost called 911. He started turning blue. I probably should have called. He was struggling to breath. If he reacts like that to just having a cold, that is a huge liability for me. If something happens on my watch I am on the hook. I can't take on that liability any longer. I can no longer offer my services, effective immediately. You may call me to speak about this further, and arrange to pick up the boys' things."