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I realize of course she doesnt have much of a social or work life during the daytime hours, but its pretty annoying when my sil doesnt tell me in advance if there iis a doctor appt and shes going to be picking up her girl in the middle of nap time in the afternoon, it disrupts everyone else and she doesnt get to do her crafts or complete her day of activity and fun. Shes just been so random on pick up lately! OY
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"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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Nope they are pretty much regular and on time! Or they call if something comes up and they're on their way -
Mine never come during nap time without calling first. They are all pretty good about this and they understand.
For the most part, anything out of the ordinary, they always let me know.Comment
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Mine all give me one weeks schedule with drop off times and pick up times that are VERY specific.
Late fees begin within minutes outside of those times.Comment
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Nope. My parents email or text me if it is last minute but usually I know the night before or morning of. My clients are super considerate. If they pick up at nap, they text me from 5 minutes away so their kids are dressed when they pull up. Then when they pull up, I send the littles right onto the porch where mom or dad is waiting. My clients don't even come in when they pick up early! Love them!!Comment
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The only random pick-ups I get are also from my S-I-L! Too funny (and also too annoying). I am closed on snow days...and we have snow predicted tomorrow. She looked at me today and said, "Oh, so I can't bring him anyway? He IS your nephew!" Oh my. Love her, and my nephew. BUT, sometimes I wish she would choose a different child care. So hard to say no to your own family...Comment
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Mine are very regular. If something unusual happens and they want to pick up early they call or text to let me know. It rarely happens though.Comment
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The only time I've ever picked up unexpectedly was honestly to kind of check in on my provider. It wasn't during nap time or anyting it was just about an hour early (4:15ish)Comment
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I have a family that does that. I had to ask them to let me know ahead of time, because I have babies that take some time to get to sleep, and I don't want to start sleep routing and have to do it again because I had to answer the door. I also had to put up a sign to knock first, because they always came, ringing the doorbell at 2:00.
Since then, it hasn't been a problem. I just let the child sleep and when they arrive I get him. It disrupts the schedule, and sometimes wakes up the others still, but I understand that they are off early and eager to pick up their child.
Still a pain though
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I believe a long talk with SIL is in order. She is taking advantage of her relationship to you and not seeing you or treating you as a professional. On the other hand, you are allowing/enabling her to take advantage by not correcting the behavior as it happens to come up. (Of course, this is directed at some of the other posts you have made about her and her lack of consideration - not just early pick ups)
It is absolutely wonderful that you are able to provide care for your kin and will have a lasting impression on the little own through the growing years. As time goes by, the relationship between you and SIL will begin to deteriorate if you don't air the problems now. I understand that she is a very young mom but you will be doing her a favor by teaching her how to handle herself in situations such as these - especially when little one starts going to school a few years from now.
Let her know that you love the little one but there are a few things that you would like to discuss (ie. not arriving during nap time if can be avoided, giving you heads up on appointments and the like, etc. It is common courtesy.
I am all for the parents arriving a little early sometimes to do a drop in inspection of care - most providers are quite happy to have little ones go home early :
: It is no different than when the state arrives for an unannounced visit and nothing really wrong with it, but does upset our routine.
It seems that she doesn't view what you are doing as a vital and important. Once you can set her straight that this is your profession and that it is your business, hopefully she will start treating you with the respect that you are due.
Good luck.
Oh and to answer your question, my parents have an expected drop off time and pick up time and if it changes, I am to receive a text or a phone call confirming.Comment
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She may be following the recommendations from ALL the parenting magazines about doing random drop-bys....
BUT this is your family so, IMHO, she is being a passive aggressive drama queen. Now, at 17 she IS acting developmentally appropriate....
My greater concern would be your MIL's manipulation of her......
My advice...take it or leave it.......would be to assist her in finding another provider. It is your first month and you already have a few "My SIL" AND "My MIL" posts.....
This cannot be good for you and your Wife. It just can't..... It will take it's toll on your whole family and is just NOT WORTH IT. Please, just think about it....- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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I keep reading your user name as
'catheter' OY
I am going to have to go with the simple answer that its probably just her being herself. She doesnt think to call ahead when shes got to pick her up for an appointment because shes used to a bigger daycare where they didnt care. And i love my niece too much to kick her to the curb for that reason anyway... though i am looking for another kid to add to the two i am watching so far. Our income is dropping next month as a whole and its either this or i go back to work and have to find a place for my own... which i am not willing to do. Thanks Cat
"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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One of my families will sometimes get off work early on Fridays and will pick up their son if so. I know it's a possiblity, but he always reminds me if he thinks it's more definite (normally it's only 30 minutes early or so)
The other family bases their schedule on mom's work schedule, since dad's hours are variable. If dad gets off early or something, he will pick up. He always texts me when he'll be here baout 10 minutes since his twins act ROWDY at pickup if they're not ready.
But for your situation, doctors appointments, etc, they always let me know.
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I would simply advise that without prior notice of an unscheduled drop in, the door will not be answered. All visitors must be expected for safety reasons.
Also, the fact that without you knowing they are coming at an unscheduled time, you may not be home. we go on walks at whatever time works for us. we try to schedule these in at specific times, but sometimes we go off of our schedule here. like today, 2 of my infants needed a morning nap. which threw off our whole day.Comment
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