Should I??

[JennyBear]

I'm torn with this decision so I thought I would bring it up to everyone here to get some help with this.

I currently care for this one DCG. I have some issues (family not clean, child coming with unclean bum, untidy looking when dropped off, parents babying big time, and i'm a little concerned with this child's development - nothing major, just think it's d/t lack of parent involvement..don't really know)
(Actually, this story is VERY similar to the thread an unregistered person wrote in about "being grossed out by DCG")

I have been asked by another parent (of a different DCG) if I would consider watching her son. He is currently in a centre but they are having some issues (child picking up undesirable behaviors from other children, reverting with potty training, etc).

Note: I only have 5 spots so I would have to basically terminate this child I'm having difficulty with and fill that space with this boy.

Part of me would like to terminate (wanted to terminate or approach parents with my concerns for a while now) this current DCG and take on this other child of the other family but I don't know how I would even approach this since I have never discussed my concerns with the current DCG parents.

WWYD?

[Ariana]

I have been asked by another parent (of a different DCG) if I would consider watching her son. He is currently in a centre but they are having some issues (child picking up undesirable behaviors from other children, reverting with potty training, etc).

For me this is a red flag. Seems like the kid has issues and the parents are putting the blame elsewhere. Unless you know this family and this kid well I wouldn't take this kid. JMO

[JennyBear]

For me this is a red flag. Seems like the kid has issues and the parents are putting the blame elsewhere. Unless you know this family and this kid well I wouldn't take this kid. JMO

I Know this family fairly well. The mom has always been pretty straight forward with me, but her son can be a bit of a handful (at home anyways). If I did take this boy on it would be a different type of workload...instead of being frustrated with a child that has poor hygiene and parents that are lacking (and a child that is lacking quite a bit developmentally) I would be getting a boy that is probably pretty "busy", but clean and where he should be developmentally.
Either way I don't think it would be the absolute "perfect" fit. Ah well...I'll probably just keep it the way it is and **** it up. hehe

[littlemissmuffet]

I would never terminate a family because their child isn't clean. The coming in a dirty diaper is an easy fix - pass mom/dad a dipe and wipes at drop off and ask them to make sure DCK's bum, face and hands are clean for daycare. And terming due to developmental issues (especially if they are mild as you say) is also not a good reason to term. I'd keep the current child and put the other family on my waiting list.

[Daycaremomof2]

Talk to the parents first about your concerns, albeit an uncomfortable conversation for sure! Always work in the best interests of the child, and you need to be the advocate in this situation.

If, after you talk to them the behavior persists, THEN I would term, but give them a chance first.