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I'm not complaining, because I offered, but I am whining!!
I am down to just one FT kid right now. One is on unpaid maternity leave and one moved to 2 afternoons a week when her schedule changed temporarily. Anyway, I signed this single mom up for odd hours, but with the promise she wouldn't work Sunday or after 7:30 pm. The rotten company she works for (convenience store) has made her work every single Sunday since she started last fall. I wouldn't give up my Sundays, and she didn't ask me. Then, they started making her work 4 pm to midnight once or twice a week. Knowing that I had kids arriving at 5:45 am, she begged for someone to pick her up from me at 8 pm, just to keep me from wearing out. Some weeks, she couldn't find anyone and had to send the baby to stay with her dad in another town. Because of the distance, he would keep her all week. It's too much. He wasn't in her life until a couple of months ago, and she doesn't really know him (she's 16 mo old). I think he's becoming a good dad, but I think it's too much for her. I understand that she is bounced around from dad to grandma to aunties for day care while there. Loving folks, but strangers. By the time I get her back, she's a mess. She's clingy and has become angry and volatile. Usually one of my best sleepers, she wakes up often screaming and crying. She will sleep in my arms, but when I put her down, she grabs me and cries. If it was a temper cry or a spoiled cry, I would let her CIO, but it isn't. It's a panicked cry, like she just can't take anymore. I can't stand it. DCM has no local support, and her friend has refused to keep her on Sunday or overnights any more. I've told her I'll do whatever she needs for the next 5 weeks, until my FT/early morning kids come back. She just got her schedule for the week (starts on Wednesdays)--4 to midnight every day. I don't like it, I don't like sitting up that late because I can't sleep in the next morning-hubby has to get up and I do too.
As I said, I'm not griping--I could refuse, but if I do, that baby will have to go stay with her dad, and she's just too little to understand why she has been taken away from her momma. My heart breaks every time she clings to me and cries after a nightmare.
I told my husband that I wasn't good at this work because I get too involved.
I am down to just one FT kid right now. One is on unpaid maternity leave and one moved to 2 afternoons a week when her schedule changed temporarily. Anyway, I signed this single mom up for odd hours, but with the promise she wouldn't work Sunday or after 7:30 pm. The rotten company she works for (convenience store) has made her work every single Sunday since she started last fall. I wouldn't give up my Sundays, and she didn't ask me. Then, they started making her work 4 pm to midnight once or twice a week. Knowing that I had kids arriving at 5:45 am, she begged for someone to pick her up from me at 8 pm, just to keep me from wearing out. Some weeks, she couldn't find anyone and had to send the baby to stay with her dad in another town. Because of the distance, he would keep her all week. It's too much. He wasn't in her life until a couple of months ago, and she doesn't really know him (she's 16 mo old). I think he's becoming a good dad, but I think it's too much for her. I understand that she is bounced around from dad to grandma to aunties for day care while there. Loving folks, but strangers. By the time I get her back, she's a mess. She's clingy and has become angry and volatile. Usually one of my best sleepers, she wakes up often screaming and crying. She will sleep in my arms, but when I put her down, she grabs me and cries. If it was a temper cry or a spoiled cry, I would let her CIO, but it isn't. It's a panicked cry, like she just can't take anymore. I can't stand it. DCM has no local support, and her friend has refused to keep her on Sunday or overnights any more. I've told her I'll do whatever she needs for the next 5 weeks, until my FT/early morning kids come back. She just got her schedule for the week (starts on Wednesdays)--4 to midnight every day. I don't like it, I don't like sitting up that late because I can't sleep in the next morning-hubby has to get up and I do too.
As I said, I'm not griping--I could refuse, but if I do, that baby will have to go stay with her dad, and she's just too little to understand why she has been taken away from her momma. My heart breaks every time she clings to me and cries after a nightmare.
I told my husband that I wasn't good at this work because I get too involved.
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