Is Your Own Child Your Worst?

[Countrygal]

Yes, I have the same struggle here.

Honestly, I feel for my dgs a little. I know it stems from the fact that this is his house, these are guests - I am his mom, they are not my kids but get a lot of my attention - most of the toys were his when he was younger - he's the oldest and knows the most about the house - it's hard for him to know what he should be acting like.

I came across a similar thing when I homeschooled my kids. It was hard for mom to also be "teacher", sometimes.

Like homeschooling, the daycare is great for us and we both love it, but sometimes it's hard to know the boundaries and the roles we both play and how they overlap and interact.

[AmyLeigh]

Ummmm.....my thought today was, "Can I term my own kids?"
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[Ariana]

Ummmm.....my thought today was, "Can I term my own kids?"
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:: so funny because I said that to my husband soooo many times!!

[kendallina]

yes, yes, yes she is! For the first year (she was 2), she was great in preschool. But, ugh, now that she's 3, we're really struggling some days. We've started a behavior chart (which I'm not generally fond of, but thought we'd try it) because I am seriously ready to send her away during my preschool hours.

Btw, so far, the behavioral chart is working (it's only been 2 days, though... ).

[lil angels]

I always ask my kids when their mom is coming to get them. ::::::::

[JennyBear]

I always ask my kids when their mom is coming to get them. ::::::::

LOL funny!
I should use this one on mine. Some days she's an angel and others she's definitely jealous and wants mommy all to herself! It's so frustrating.

[saved4always]

My daughter used to behave badly alot when the dck's were here. I am sure she was doing it to get my attention. She was being forced to share her mommy with other kids. She was also being forced to share her home and her toys (I only had a few part time children at that point so there was no way I could afford separate daycare toys). Not an easy thing for a 2/3 year old. I dealt by letting her keep certain toys in her room so she didn't have to share "special" things. I also made sure she got lots of "mommy time" so that she knew she was the most precious little girl to me. We got through and now she is 9 and absolutely adores the 3 little ones that I watch now.

[Mary Poppins]

My own kids were never really an issue for me but now they are grown and gone and my worst kid is DH!!

He comes in for the bulk of lunch time prep, lunch time and the tooth brushing, toileting routine before naps and teaches the kids all sorts of 'naughty behaviors"

He teaches them how to and sometimes gets them so wound up they don't nap! He starts food fights sometimes and teases all the girls by calling them "quick little squirrels" to which they squeal and laugh....he has sord fights and wrestling matches with the boy. He also makes fart jokes and funny faces while eating so they lovethis him to pieces but if I could send him to the quiet corner, I would!

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I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!!!!

My kids are grown, two are my assistants and are great 90% of the time. My dh is a huge kid and does similar stuff, it drives me nutty but the kids love him.

I'm glad it's not just me .

[Unregistered]

Yes!

Certainly! This is a huge problem for me. My son is 3 and misbehaving the most. I'm his mom, he doesn't see me as his teacher. He was so nice when he went to preschool before, but with the dc at home he's terrible. Consistency is the key. The other kids are doing better here than at their home too bc I'm more consistent with them. It's hard but you have to treat your own kids the same as the others. Mine is also the oldest in the dc so he's sometimes just bored and I try to give him is own level activities e.g. preschool/kindergarten books while others color, or computer time while others nap. But it shouldn't look as preferential treatment again.. All the best!