So Tired Of The Teething Excuse

[MrsB]

The swallowing drool excuse reminds of one time a mom asked me not to give her child milk because she believed that was the cause of the green mucous that she was coughing up and that continuously came from her nose!

Also had a mom bring bananas, rice, applesauce, and crackers and asked me to feed them to her because she was so nervous this weekend about playing in her peewee soccer game that she threw up multiple times.

Did she honeslty think I had never heard of the BRAT diet? Makes me laugh now but made my blood boil then!

Now I say if the child needs some type of special diet (acutely), they can't come to care.

I also have in my contract that if the child cant maintain with the flow of the daycare they they will need to be excluded from care, which may include symptoms of teething or allergies.

My husband has horrible allergies and at the start of allergy season he has to miss a couple days of work too!

[MamaBear]

So crazy how teething is contagious, huh? I'm also very sick of this excuse.

[Angelwings36]

One of the daycare boys was sick over the weekend. I know this because mom posted it on facebook. Today, boy is complaining of stomach ache and has had 2 diarrhea diapers. I contact mom and she said that he is cutting his molars. Ummm, nope. Come pick him up, mama.

Oh, side note, our colicky 13 week old is here today screaming it up like he is dying. I call mom and she also said she thought he was teething. Alrighty.

I have this in my contract maybe it will help you?

Teething can cause:
Increased drooling.
Restless or decreased sleeping due to gum discomfort.
Refusal of food due to soreness of the gum region.
Fussiness that comes and goes.
Bringing the hands to the mouth.
Mild rash around the mouth due to skin irritation secondary to excessive drooling.
Rubbing the cheek or ear region as a consequence of referred pain during eruption of the molars.

Teething has not been shown to cause the following:
Fever (especially over 101 degrees).
Diarrhea, runny nose and a cough.
Prolonged fussiness.
Rashes on the body.

[Unregistered]

And this is why I refuse to use "child care". Wise up ladies, there is no such thing as a teething excuse. My 13 month old is fiercely cutting some heavy hitters and is miserable with multiple symptoms. This has happened before and I'm sure it will again. I am an experienced mother and previous at home child are provider. Keep rolling your eyes. Ridiculous.

[Cradle2crayons]

My one year old just cut her first molars. She had no diaharrea, fever, or runny nose. These were molars-the big boys of teething!! "Teething" is just an excuse for people to bring their child to daycare and justify to themselves that its ok to leave your sick child at your provider's all day so they dont feel guilty.

I am on a mom's forum as well, and so many mothers always blame teething, and call it teething from the start. I can't tell you how many mothers of 2 month olds complain about all of the teething problems their new baby have. "She's drooling- must be teething. She's fussy- must be teething. She's sick- must be teething." Then when no teeth come out for 7-8 months later, it's no big deal, because by then they forgot all about it. Seriously.... how many 2 months olds do you know with teeth?

My daughter had fever and diarrhea and crankiness and e whole gamut almost every time she teethed.

My son, nothing but mouth pain.

I've had a couple of daycare kids I've had since they were babies. I knew them very well like my own kids. They had fever and diarrhea (from the fever) with all of their major molars. Not with any of the others.

Several other kids with huge swollen bumps and cutting molars had minor fevers as well.

Now when I say fever I don't mean 101.5 I mean low low grade fevers.

The mayo clinic should know better than to lump all kids into one category.

Every child is different.

I do exclude for diarrhea associated with teething even if I see the huge swollen bumps in their mouths. As long as their fever is under 100.5 I don't exclude.

My parents, I guess they are just good ones, they know and understand that as long as its not more than two diarrhea and a fever over 100.5 they can come. They don't argue with me or make excuses.

[Bookworm]

Ladies, with all the "teething" happening to your DCKs, it's a wonder that their little mouths don't look like shark mouths.

[nannyde]

And this is why I refuse to use "child care". Wise up ladies, there is no such thing as a teething excuse. My 13 month old is fiercely cutting some heavy hitters and is miserable with multiple symptoms. This has happened before and I'm sure it will again. I am an experienced mother and previous at home child are provider. Keep rolling your eyes. Ridiculous.

Your experience is with YOUR child. You don't have experience where your family's livlihood is dependent upon another parents medical opinion of their child's illness symptoms. If it was YOUR money and YOUR livlihood your opinion would be based upon your experience with OTHER people's children and their parent's opinion.

The vast vast vast majority of the time a parent attributes teething to a children's illness symptoms the child does NOT get teeth anytime close to the parent declaration of teething. When you experience THAT and the illnesses you, your children, and the other children get subsequent to the parents declaration you would learn quickly that the parent was wrong. By the time you know for sure the parent was wrong the damage is done.

This happens with parents of all educational and economic background. The educated successful parents are wrong about teething just the same as the uneducated low performing parents. Being wrong about teething is universal.

So providers have to decide their own comfort level and many experienced providers choose to limit access to child care based on what they KNOW not on a parents diagnosis.

This applies to allergies and ear infections too. Any childhood medical condition that is NOT contagious will be diagnosed with high inaccuracies by parents.

[MarinaVanessa]

And this is why I refuse to use "child care". Wise up ladies, there is no such thing as a teething excuse. My 13 month old is fiercely cutting some heavy hitters and is miserable with multiple symptoms. This has happened before and I'm sure it will again. I am an experienced mother and previous at home child are provider. Keep rolling your eyes. Ridiculous.

I still stand with what I originally said. I have not had one Dr. ever tell me for certain whether or not fever, runny noses, or rashes etc were a direct result of teething. All I keep hearing is that "there is no medical research which supports this".

A simple Google search for "does teething cause fever" will pull up article after article that say that although teething may elevate body temperature by a few degrees it does not however cause a fever, just make sure to read the articles from reputable sources).

And from child development and health courses that I've taken I've learned that infants start to get more infections from around four to six months which is also when there is a decline in antibodies that they receive from their mothers which just so happens to be around the same time that infants can begin teething.

BTW I am also an "experienced" mother and am an at home child care provider. My kids did get fevers during the times that they teethed but the Dr's attributed that to another illness such as a common cold possibly from them putting their hands in their mouths more often thus exposing themselves to more germs.

[daycare]

Your experience is with YOUR child. You don't have experience where your family's livlihood is dependent upon another parents medical opinion of their child's illness symptoms. If it was YOUR money and YOUR livlihood your opinion would be based upon your experience with OTHER people's children and their parent's opinion.

The vast vast vast majority of the time a parent attributes teething to a children's illness symptoms the child does NOT get teeth anytime close to the parent declaration of teething. When you experience THAT and the illnesses you, your children, and the other children get subsequent to the parents declaration you would learn quickly that the parent was wrong. By the time you know for sure the parent was wrong the damage is done.

This happens with parents of all educational and economic background. The educated successful parents are wrong about teething just the same as the uneducated low performing parents. Being wrong about teething is universal.

So providers have to decide their own comfort level and many experienced providers choose to limit access to child care based on what they KNOW not on a parents diagnosis.

This applies to allergies and ear infections too. Any childhood medical condition that is NOT contagious will be diagnosed with high inaccuracies by parents.

I agree 100%, unless the parent is a licensed, experienced practicing doctor, they can't not diagnose their child with WHY they are having_______________ symptoms. We just have to exclude for the symptoms regardless of what we may feel is causing them.

IT's always better to be safe than sorry...

[daycare]

I still stand with what I originally said. I have not had one Dr. ever tell me for certain whether or not fever, runny noses, rashes or diarrhea were a direct result of teething. All I keep hearing is that "there is no medical research which supports this".

A simple Google search for "does teething cause fever" will pull up article after article that say that although teething may elevate body temperature by a few degrees it does not however cause a fever, just make sure to read the articles from reputable sources).

And from child development and health courses that I've taken I've learned that infants start to get more infections from around four to six months which is also when there is a decline in antibodies that they receive from their mothers which just so happens to be around the same time that infants can begin teething.

that's some good information MV..

I was also told that the fevers could be contributed to the fact that a lot of teethers MOUTH everything in site, exposing themselves to even more germs...

[Sprouts]

Yes this makes the most sense! I swear every time I hear "teething or allergies" I squint my eyes, grind my teeth, and politely smile and just repeat the lines from my wellness policy, they leave , I then turn and throw my hands in the air...

[Unregistered]

Walk A Mile

Wow. If it's never happened to your own child, I guess it doesn't exist? Two of my three children had typical problems with teething. But my one daughter would get a rash, 102* fever, diarrhea, and horrible diaper rash, and sometimes even vomit. I would think she was ill, but the other two wouldn't get sick. Then while trying to give her Tylenol for her fever once, I saw her gums were big and red. As soon as the teeth popped out, she was fine. She usually would get the 'matching' teeth on both sides at the same time. I don't know if that made it worse, but for some reason teething was horrible for her. Whenever she would get this way and the other two were fine, I'd start looking for teeth. This might last 2 or 3 days, then she'd suddenly be fine, and have two new teeth that finally broke through. Well now she is six and just missed school due to fever, diarrhea, sore throat, and headache. I was afraid she might have strep. Then last night while helping her brush her teeth, I see that she has a big molar in the back starting to break through. Motrin helps a ton. It may not be common, but it happens. I don't care what any doctor says. I've had pediatricians that say they are not related, and ones that say they are. Funny, the ones that said they are related were women who had children of their own, and maybe saw it for themselves. Sometimes you never know until you've been there yourself. I'm sure some parents do misdiagnose things, but to say it's impossible for teething to cause such bad problems, it could never do that, well... that's just very misguided. You have no idea. Maybe you need to find a more suitable line of work.

[auntymimi]

Wow. If it's never happened to your own child, I guess it doesn't exist? Two of my three children had typical problems with teething. But my one daughter would get a rash, 102* fever, diarrhea, and horrible diaper rash, and sometimes even vomit. I would think she was ill, but the other two wouldn't get sick. Then while trying to give her Tylenol for her fever once, I saw her gums were big and red. As soon as the teeth popped out, she was fine. She usually would get the 'matching' teeth on both sides at the same time. I don't know if that made it worse, but for some reason teething was horrible for her. Whenever she would get this way and the other two were fine, I'd start looking for teeth. This might last 2 or 3 days, then she'd suddenly be fine, and have two new teeth that finally broke through. Well now she is six and just missed school due to fever, diarrhea, sore throat, and headache. I was afraid she might have strep. Then last night while helping her brush her teeth, I see that she has a big molar in the back starting to break through. Motrin helps a ton. It may not be common, but it happens. I don't care what any doctor says. I've had pediatricians that say they are not related, and ones that say they are. Funny, the ones that said they are related were women who had children of their own, and maybe saw it for themselves. Sometimes you never know until you've been there yourself. I'm sure some parents do misdiagnose things, but to say it's impossible for teething to cause such bad problems, it could never do that, well... that's just very misguided. You have no idea. Maybe you need to find a more suitable line of work.

Don't feed the trolls, don't feed the trolls, don't......::

[Blackcat31]

Wow. If it's never happened to your own child, I guess it doesn't exist? Two of my three children had typical problems with teething. But my one daughter would get a rash, 102* fever, diarrhea, and horrible diaper rash, and sometimes even vomit. I would think she was ill, but the other two wouldn't get sick. Then while trying to give her Tylenol for her fever once, I saw her gums were big and red. As soon as the teeth popped out, she was fine. She usually would get the 'matching' teeth on both sides at the same time. I don't know if that made it worse, but for some reason teething was horrible for her. Whenever she would get this way and the other two were fine, I'd start looking for teeth. This might last 2 or 3 days, then she'd suddenly be fine, and have two new teeth that finally broke through. Well now she is six and just missed school due to fever, diarrhea, sore throat, and headache. I was afraid she might have strep. Then last night while helping her brush her teeth, I see that she has a big molar in the back starting to break through. Motrin helps a ton. It may not be common, but it happens. I don't care what any doctor says. I've had pediatricians that say they are not related, and ones that say they are. Funny, the ones that said they are related were women who had children of their own, and maybe saw it for themselves. Sometimes you never know until you've been there yourself. I'm sure some parents do misdiagnose things, but to say it's impossible for teething to cause such bad problems, it could never do that, well... that's just very misguided. You have no idea. Maybe you need to find a more suitable line of work.

Maybe you need to find a more suitable argument...

Why would any of the symptoms your child gets from teething be a child care providers problem to deal with?

It's your child. If she has any of those symptoms, keep her home.

Problem solved. happyface

[littletots]

Teething and allergies is number one excuse i hear for crabbiness, nose running, coughing, not sleeping, not eating, being rude, late on payments, etc.

Sing it, sister!:: love the late payment part.