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I have a daycare friend that asked a daycare mom over 2 weeks ago, to bring along Tylenol, teething tablets, and anbesol for a little 4-5 month old boy. The Mom refuses to bring her any medicine whatsover. She kind of got into it with the Mom yesterday at pick up. She asked "Why are you not bringing along any medicine for me" She said she will not, even though the child is screaming and has a bunch of teeth coming in all day!! Can you believe this??? How awful!! That is just too sad!! I told her what I would do if it was me, explain to the Mom, if she doesn't bring something in to comfort the child, then she can no longer take care of him!!! SHe really is pissed off and needs to make a decision now!! I have never myself had to deal with this. I have had to deal with alot from parents, but never this!!!!!!!!!!!
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If it were me & did not have the OK to give something thenI would call to have the child picked up whenever he is too fussy. After a few days of that I bet you'll have something to ease the pain. -
I agree with tymaboy. I can't believe this child's mother. Poor child.Comment
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That is awful. I think that calling mom to pick up when he gets too fussy is a wonderful idea. If it isn't already in the illness policy, I'd add it. Poor kid. Let us know what happens!Comment
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I can understand parents not wanting to over medicate their child. Your friend should explain to the mom that the teething tablets are non-medicated. That may help the mother feel better.
If I were in those shoes, I agree with tymaboy, I'd be calling the mother to come get the child.Give a little love to a child, and you get a great deal back.Comment
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SO today the friend's daycare mother finally brought her anbesol and that is it. I told the daycare provider good luck with that. It probably will not work the greatest if at all, but I guess she is happy she brought something for her. Hopefully it will work a little bit for her!! I feel badly for her! Poor child!!!Comment
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I also agree with this. They are pretty much tying her hands by not bringing her or allowing her to use medicine. But also be careful and make sure that if the mom decided to bring medicine after-all that she get a consent to administer medicine form. You never know what may happen or what she may do (the mom).Comment
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Grrr. That would make me mad too! Honestly I have a clause that says that if they forget to bring something and I have in daycare or I have to buy it that they have to reimburse me for it. Could be something you would want to add to your contract. I still say that you should call her when the baby is fussy and have her pick the baby up. Otherwise tell her that you'll go buy the medicine and you're going to charge her for it and include mileage and time. Give her a choice. Either pick him up, bring me meds now or I will go and buy them and charge you and you owe me the money today!Comment
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I really feel that this is the parent's call....while it may be frustrating to the provider, the parent does have the right to say that she does not want her child medicated. Why would any provider think they have the right to override a parents beliefs, values, or choices about their child and demand that they provide or allow medicating of that child? We are not these children's parents, and while we, of course, have best intentions at heart, it is not our place to make these types of decisions for parents.
When it comes to things like this, I think the only thing a provider can VALIDLY require is that the parent's philosophy of care is the same as the providers or they cannot enroll in the program. It really baffles me how often I hear providers complaining about parents..........would you allow ANYONE to tell you how to parent?
BTW, teething occurred for THOUSANDS of years without pain meds and people survived....give him a frozen washcloth, a popsicle, something to chew on. Those are viable alternatives for a parent who doesn't choose to ue meds for minor pain.Comment
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I totally agree with this! This is how I parent -- comfort measures before jumping to the medication. As a provider, I do the same. I try everything else before using medication. When those options aren't working, if I don't have permission to give Tylenol (or whatever), I call the parents. No child should be apart from his parents and his own bed when he's just plain miserable and in pain. I do make sure to tell parents that at their interview, though.Comment
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This is very true, but if it is disrupting her whole daycare with him screaming all day, it is a different story. He doesn't sleep, he just screams pretty much all day. The parent does have the ultimate decision, but buy the teeting tablets, dr. recommended and 100% safe, non medicine!! At least try this- it is not fair to the daycare provider, other parents that see this, Daycare children, etc..... Also this parent signed a release for the medicine when she first enrolled her child.Comment
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None of my business of course, but it really makes me wonder. Does this mom take meds when she has a headache? Cough syrup or decongestant when she's sick? I know some people go all natural and just don't do any meds. I respect that, but if she signed that release I doubt that is the case here. Will she medicate her child at all or is this just something that she doesn't think warrants it? Provider and parent need to talk this out to make sure they're not going to be at an impasse on this and save some time and head- and heartache with all that screaming going on.
If she continues to refuse to let the provider give meds, it's still unfair to expect a child in that much discomfort to tough it out in daycare with a bunch of other kids and a busy daycare provider instead of getting snuggles and one-on-one attention at home from mommy or daddy. I'd say, you don't want to medicate? That's fine. But if I she is inconsolably crying she cannot stay. I'd call to send home under the illness policy (which hopefully has the line about "if the child is overly fussy or irritable blah, blah, blah)
Another thought: Could this be a trust issue. Maybe they don't trust the provider not to overmedicate?Comment
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