Am I Wrong?

[mema]

Well, I talked with the parent that brought them and explained our day. She was completely fine with not giving them the treats today.

When the other parents arrived, 1 of the dck's yelled-where's my treat? really loud and demanding. DCM looked at them and said, whatever the treat was, I don't think you need it! I told dcp's about the day and that I would like to wait til tomorrow for the treats and they were all fine with it. The kids are old enough (3-5) to know. I don't care if it is the week of Christmas, that doesn't give them the right to act like they did today.

[frgsonmysox]

I would hand them out and be done with it. The daycare parent did not give these treats to the children so that you could hold them as leverage over their heads and keep them unless they were acting good. She gave them to the children out of the goodness of her heart and I'm sure she will not be happy when she finds out what you are doing with her gifts. Send them home with the kids today just like the parent intended for you to do.

This.

As a parent I would be pretty upset and put out if I sent a treat to be taken home and someone else used it as leverage. If it was YOUR treat, treat it however you want. But it wasn't, it was someone elses, and therefore it shouldn't be treated by you as a reward or punishment.

[sharlan]

IMHO, you were very wrong. These treats were NOT from you. Why should you get to decide who gets them and when?

[MarinaVanessa]

Becasuse they were from another parent I would have handed them out anyway. I see it as a gift from the parent to the kids, a special treat, and I'd feel obligated to give them to the kids as asked. If the treats were given to me by the parent as a gift or sort of "thank you" and I chose to share it with the DC kids (which I usually do) and they acted up then I could withhold the treat from the kids if I wanted to because the gift was for me.

The way I see it is that the treat could have been any other gift ... books, toys, coloring books etc. and I woudn't feel okay not handing a treat out given by a parent meant for the kids because the parent gave them to me for the kids without any conditions. It's simply a treat, not a treat to be given IF they behaved.