Discipline

[Guest]

What are your rules and what happens when they break them. What I am doing isn't working and I am losing control.

Need help !! Looking forward to a new approach with the New Year

[mismatchedsocks]

Depends what it is for. Hitting, kicking, pinching, anything physical ... not ok. They get to hear my mean voice, a time out and not get to play with their friends for a little bit.

Arguing or not sharing. The main toy gets taken away, they are seperated with two different toys and have talk about sharing.

Not listening they will get asked to go to their "spot" until they feel they can listen to the rules and participate.

Tantrum or crying. Go to your spot until you are done then come join group.

Anything in particular?

[athomemommy]

Not listening. Or crazy play inside. Running around. I don't like them to play killing. So I may add that. What do you think?

[Unregistered]

Not listening. Or crazy play inside. Running around. I don't like them to play killing. So I may add that. What do you think?

no killing is good!!! :-)

[daycare]

zero tolerance for violence of any kind. including, gun play, hitting, kicking, and etc. Violence of any kind will get you books, crayons and a blanket for the rest of the day away from the group.... or until you can show me that you are able to be a good member of society.

Hands are for holding
toys are for sharing
Always use your words
we use our manners at all times

I always try to redirect first. If that does not work, then I will give options.

lets say johnny is kicking the table at breakfast time. I ask him to stop and remember his manners and it does not work.

I will then say Johnny would you like to stop kicking the table or would you like to leave the table and sit and watch all of the kids eat without you? Please show me that you can make a great big boy decision. Normally they will stop when it gets to this. IF it does not, then I will follow through with my consequence.

Johnny will have to sit and watch all of the kids eat and then when they are done he will go back to the table alone to eat his food... If you are not a good member of society, you do get excluded.....

[WImom]

I do alot of what 'daycare' does. I also ask them alot if they are making a good choice or bad choice and that usually helps them fix the problem themselves.

I will also send them to their seat at the table if they can't listen. Example just a few minutes ago at storytime one child kept poking another and she asked him to stop which he didn't so he had to finish listing to the story at his nap mat instead of with the group.

I also help them use their words polietly to each other. If they don't want to share, that's fine but they need to say "no thankyou, I want to play by myself", I'm big on manners.

I have two tables for art and eating and yesterday one table was fooling around at art so I ended up ignoring them and started working on the art project with the other table. That stopped the 'bad' table pretty quickly.

I ended up taking away my rescue heros and all bigger vehicles (little people bus, cars and little tikes semi) since I couldn't get them to stop playing 'pow, pow' and ramming into each other. I will try again in a month or so. The rescue hero figures seemed to promote shooting playing which I don't allow.

[Heidi]

I do alot of what 'daycare' does. I also ask them alot if they are making a good choice or bad choice and that usually helps them fix the problem themselves.

I will also send them to their seat at the table if they can't listen. Example just a few minutes ago at storytime one child kept poking another and she asked him to stop which he didn't so he had to finish listing to the story at his nap mat instead of with the group.

I also help them use their words polietly to each other. If they don't want to share, that's fine but they need to say "no thankyou, I want to play by myself", I'm big on manners.

I have two tables for art and eating and yesterday one table was fooling around at art so I ended up ignoring them and started working on the art project with the other table. That stopped the 'bad' table pretty quickly.

I ended up taking away my rescue heros and all bigger vehicles (little people bus, cars and little tikes semi) since I couldn't get them to stop playing 'pow, pow' and ramming into each other. I will try again in a month or so. The rescue hero figures seemed to promote shooting playing which I don't allow.

Hey, what part of WI are you in? I am in Juneau County, just north of the Dells....

[WImom]

I'm in a suburb of Milwaukee. About 1.5 hours from the dells.