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I have a 20 month old boy in my daycare. For the last 6 or 7 months his parents have been working on potty training at home. The mom updates me periodically on there endeavor. Don't get me wrong I LOVE this family. This is there first child and I have been chalking most of it up to first time parents. They started the potty training when the boy became interested in the toilet and when he would tell the parents after he pooped or peed and wanted a clean diaper on. They tried getting him to sit on the toilet, but he was scared and wouldn't sit on it. So they started giving him treats to sit on the toilet. Up until a week ago he has never went in the toilet. One day last week they told me he peed on the toilet. I asked her if the child told them he had to go and she said no. He likes to run around the house with out a diaper on and they caught him starting to pee on the floor and quickly scooped him up and put him on the potty chair and he finished there. I had to call her one night this week and I herd the child screaming on the phone. She said they were potty training and the child was crying because they wouldn't give him any more candy and the child thought he should be able to sit on the toilet and eat as many treats because he was still sitting there.
Now this morning the mom tells me that there is a container of peanut butter cups in his bag for potty training. He peed once last night on the toilet. I asked if the child asked to go and she said no. I have read many of toilet training policies of the seasoned childcare providers on this site and I agree with most and probable all of them. Up until nos I haven't said to much. I just let her fill me in on there progress. She has never asked me to participate, so I figured until I heard or started seeing signs here of him being ready to potty train I'd remain silent. He has no interest of the potty here. His diaper doesn't remain dry for any lengths of time. He never has asked to go to the bathroom. I know that for many providers asking is a big key. I have had OLDER children closer to 3 or over that I can tell they are ready for potty training, but don't ask tp use the bathrhoom and really would rather use a diaper. I will work those kids. I have no doubt in my mind that he is not ready for potty training. I actually forgot about those treats until after I laid him down for nap and went to get my pay out of the bag. I might try to see if he wants to sit on the toilet after nap and when I change is diaper again before he goes home to see exactly what he does. I will not give a treat for sitting on the toilet.
I don't want to start a game of him sitting on the toilet to get a treat. In addition if the other kids see him eating peanut butter cups every one is going to want one. I just don't want to hurt this mom's feelings or give her the sense that I wont work with them. I will be happy to work with them once the child is ready. I guess if she asks I'm going to let her know that the child has never been interested in going to the bathroom here and has never told me he has to go or wants to go. If he won't even sit on the toilet here when I try later this after I'll tell her that to. I'll tell her that once he show some interest, can keep a diaper dry for more than an hour, will ask me to go to the bathroom, and is willing to sit on the toilet I will work with him. I also want to tel her that I will not give her son peanut butter cups to sit on the toilet. Once is is actually going to the bathroom on the toilet I may come up with some kind of a reward that I can give all the kids. I don't know. I'm kind of tired and this took me by surprise today.
Now this morning the mom tells me that there is a container of peanut butter cups in his bag for potty training. He peed once last night on the toilet. I asked if the child asked to go and she said no. I have read many of toilet training policies of the seasoned childcare providers on this site and I agree with most and probable all of them. Up until nos I haven't said to much. I just let her fill me in on there progress. She has never asked me to participate, so I figured until I heard or started seeing signs here of him being ready to potty train I'd remain silent. He has no interest of the potty here. His diaper doesn't remain dry for any lengths of time. He never has asked to go to the bathroom. I know that for many providers asking is a big key. I have had OLDER children closer to 3 or over that I can tell they are ready for potty training, but don't ask tp use the bathrhoom and really would rather use a diaper. I will work those kids. I have no doubt in my mind that he is not ready for potty training. I actually forgot about those treats until after I laid him down for nap and went to get my pay out of the bag. I might try to see if he wants to sit on the toilet after nap and when I change is diaper again before he goes home to see exactly what he does. I will not give a treat for sitting on the toilet.
I don't want to start a game of him sitting on the toilet to get a treat. In addition if the other kids see him eating peanut butter cups every one is going to want one. I just don't want to hurt this mom's feelings or give her the sense that I wont work with them. I will be happy to work with them once the child is ready. I guess if she asks I'm going to let her know that the child has never been interested in going to the bathroom here and has never told me he has to go or wants to go. If he won't even sit on the toilet here when I try later this after I'll tell her that to. I'll tell her that once he show some interest, can keep a diaper dry for more than an hour, will ask me to go to the bathroom, and is willing to sit on the toilet I will work with him. I also want to tel her that I will not give her son peanut butter cups to sit on the toilet. Once is is actually going to the bathroom on the toilet I may come up with some kind of a reward that I can give all the kids. I don't know. I'm kind of tired and this took me by surprise today.
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