OM Gosh! The Parents Who Think Their Child Is The Only Child In Care

[sahm2three]

What I don't understand is why she told YOU to go and find/buy/prepare these things. With your own money. On your time. Without even asking if it was okay. Maybe because you've been so helpful with getting him help, she thinks that you're on board with anything they come up with.

I personally wouldn't feel comfortable giving a coffee straw to a one year old who chews things...nor serving a thick drink through a straw to a toddler with sensory issues. He definitely needs a one-on-one nanny or nurse, or a therapeutic preschool, because some of these suggestions aren't things that would normally be considered safe or ideal for a toddler...and especially one in group care. JMO.

YES! This has been my thoughts EXACTLY!! Ugh. I am not equipped to do all that she asks, and especially not with other little kids in the house.

[wdmmom]

She wants him to have "toys" that really aren't toys or items meant to be played with.

She wants him to be on a snack/treat based diet.

She wants you do do SPECIAL.

SPECIAL costs more.

I'd go about it like this...

"Ya know Mary, I thought about what the new requests lil Johnny needs. This is a higher level of care. In order for me to do this, I'm going to need you to supply these sensory items and they need to be approved items to play with and your rate will go up $75 a week to provide this level of service."

OR

"Ya know, Mary. I thought about what you said and unfortunately I can't meet the needs little Johnny now needs. I think you're going to need to find a nanny or a small group so your requests can be fulfilled."

[cheerfuldom]

so....whats happening OP? did you talk to mom yet?

[sahm2three]

so....whats happening OP? did you talk to mom yet?

We kind of talked about it. I put the ball in her court. I told her I would do all I could do without taking away from the other kids, if she felt like she needed more, she would have to take him somewhere else or hire a nanny. But as far as the special activities (butter bowl thing and coffee straw and milkshake thing) I told her I would leave that to her. I have other things on the same line as the fingernail and butter bowl thing. I will do the massage quickly as I get him up from nap or another time if I think he needs it, but not for each fit, each time he pushes another kid down, etc. I don't get paid but $2 an hour for him. Sorry, that doesn't cover "special".

[busymommy0420]

My daughter is special needs as well and was in a center daycare part time until she was 14 months old and I became a stay at home Mom. I asked the daycare to help her with her gross motor skills and felt they were not able too because they had other children to care for. I was lucky enough to be able to quit and be a stay at home Mom, not everyone can do that. I watch 5 children during the day and 3 after school and am able to attend to my daughters needs. She has to have a nebulizer treatment during daycare hours, massages, re-direction, individual introduction to toys and redirection if friends get to close to her personal space. All the parents are aware of her needs and special attention she requires and are so supportive of me and of her. They all know it is not her fault. Her birth mother did drugs, smoked and drank throughout her pregnancy and my baby has suffered the consequences everyday since I brought her home on the second day of her life. I have to give her "special" attention but am still able to provide great care for the other children including my son and daughter. I am sure another provider may be able to help this child's needs if it is too much for you with the other friends you care for. I agree about the food and the parent should provide items if you allow that in your program. I have one little friend who brings her own breakfast which I am ok with. Good Luck!