My Feelings are hurt!!

[KBCsMommy]

I dont mean to sound like a whiney baby but I dont have anyone else who would understand.

One of my dc babies turned 1 over Thanksgiving weekend and her parents had a huge birthday party for her....and they didny invite me

I wasn't upset about it until I found out this morning that dcm had invited other dc families.... but not me or my family.

And dcm had been asking me about planning the party. Like where she should have it, asking about the invitations, what she should serve at the party, she even asked where to get the best cakes.

So Im going to have a pitty party now and let my feelings be hurt then Im going to get over it!!!

[mac60]

Sorry you feel so down, but I don't want to be invited to my dc families parties. I want to keep business and personal separate.

[Ariana]

Oh man that's rough

[Unregistered]

Sorry you feel so down, but I don't want to be invited to my dc families parties. I want to keep business and personal separate.

I feel the same way

She might have thought that you are with kids all week and come off days your time should be yours- or thought she asked you and didn't. or if you celebrated during daycare she didn't want you to do it again.

[Meeko]

So sorry....very tacky of her to ask you about the planning part etc...and then not invite you when she invited other adults. You didn't have to GO...but you should have been invited as you are an important person in her child's life.

[cheerfuldom]

maybe she thought you wouldn't go or had a rule about not going? maybe it was an honest mistake and not trying to exclude you in a mean way? many she thought you wouldn't even want to go?

[daycare]

I know it would have been nice to at least get the invite and then be able to turn it down, Let me be the first to tell you that you avoided a disaster waiting to happen.

I have had NOTHING but issues when I did go to a child's bday party.

If you cant commit to going to every single kids party, then don't commit to any of them.

I also hated the 100 questions when I did go.

I now keep it all business..

[LittleD]

It's principle, really. If she invites the other DC families, then you should've been invited too, regardless of whether or not you have a policy against it. Personally, I don't like going, but it's my kids who are invited not me, and if we can go, we will.
Did you possibly unintentionally slight her, by having some sort of family get together and not invite her (even if you didn't invite other DC families)? Some people like to be catty that way

[MarinaVanessa]

Did you possibly unintentionally slight her, by having some sort of family get together and not invite her (even if you didn't invite other DC families)? Some people like to be catty that way

I was thinking about this very thing. If I get an invite to a child's Bday party then will go but only because in most situations the child asks me to go and so I do it for them. I make an apprearance, leave a gift and then leave after about an hour. That's usually enough time for me to make a quick round and talk about how wonderful my DC is and pass out a few business cards .

I don't however go to any other functions that DC parents invite me to, as far as they know I am always busy doing something on those days .

I also don't invite DC family's to my own functions unless it's my own kids birthday parties and they want to invite the DC kids. My DD has developed friendships with some of the kids and I don't feel right inviting some children and not others so I invite all of them. If I don't get an invitation to one of the kids birthday party's I don't feel bad no matter how close I am to the chld. My deep personal relationship is with the child, not the parents. I always have a small party for them at DC anyway so it's not a big deal to me.

[Michelle]

Do you think that she can possibly be embarrassed of someone in her family and she thinks it might reflect on her?
Uncle Billy's drunken singing, Grandma's way too much info talking,
maybe their house is not as nice as yours?

Or maybe they are just jerks!
Sometimes they just think of us as a service, (which we are ) but we also have feelings... hugs

[wdmmom]

I've never been invited to a child's birthday party outside the daycare. I wouldn't attend even if I was. I feel anything outside of daycare is the family's private life to enjoy with their family and friends. My families aren't friends with my other clients so what they do on their own time is their business.

I buy each child a small birthday gift and we have a small party at the daycare for them.

[CheekyChick]

I'm sorry, that would hurt my feelings too.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Yeah, that's totally rude. On a similar issue...I had a dcb who had a party and invited NO ONE from school, but he did make a big point to walk around and tell everyone he was having a party and "you can't come cuz my mommy said only family." Perhaps parents of 4 year olds should have surprise parties if they intend to have family only. He's a nice boy, he wasn't TRYING to hurt feelings, but it happened.

[KBCsMommy]

I agree with alot of you about keeping it all business. And I probaly would have not gone because I think it would be awkward!!

Ive never slighted her in any way, we are all very chatty in the mornings!!

But it was the principle of her asking me about party ideas ( I have 3 kids of my own), inviting other dc families, and then not even an invite to her party.

I am a huge part of this little girls life!! Shes with me from 7:30 am until 5 pm Monday thru Friday. Shes blossomed so much since shes been here and her parents always say how excited she is to come to daycare!!

So Anyways no more pitty party for me!!!!

I will just celebrate the fact that shes 1 now!!

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[Kaddidle Care]

Thank your lucky stars! ::

If you had been invited and gone, they would have expected you to watch all the children.

I love when we hold events that the parents are invited to WITH their children. We're not expected to watch the children and the parent watching is a hoot. It's usually a real eye opener.